Having good, supportive friendships, a strong marriage or close and loving relationships with our family members will make us much more likely to be happy.
Action steps: Take time, today, to spend time with your loved ones, to tell them what they mean to you, to listen to them, and develop your relationship with them.
People find greatest enjoyment not when they’re passively mindless, but when they’re absorbed in a mindful challenge. This is flow, when we’re so immersed in our task that we lose track of time.
Action steps: Find work and hobbies that you’re passionate about and that fully engage you.
These are some of the best indicators of people who lead happy lives. Happy people feel empowered, in control of their lives, and have a positive outlook on life.
Action steps: Get into the habit of squashing all negative thoughts and replacing them with positive ones.
Things within us that to appreciate – they can make us happy, no matter what’s going on outside:
- Being generous
2. Being loving and kind
3. Feeling compassion and empathy
4. Being skilled at something
5. Being a good listener
6. Knowing how to appreciate the beauty in nature and in others
7. Being determined
8. Being creative.
Phenomena that happen outside of us don’t cause happiness. They might be correlated with happiness but it’s not a cause-and-effect relationship.
The most important part is what happens in our brain between the external event (a good cup of coffee) and our state of happiness.
The key skill is to learn to notice, accept and appreciate everything around us, and everyone we see and interact with.
Often if we fail to see good in things or people around us (or ourselves), it’s a failure to pay close attention. All around us are examples of beauty, creativity, inspiration, triumph, pain, joy, life.