WHY ARE YOU SO QUIET?

What happened? Why are you so quiet? Do you have any problem? Why are you always so serious? Why are you antisocial? Don’t you know how to have fun? These are some of the common questions asked from introverts. If you are an introvert these questions make you feel horrendous. Introverts are often misunderstood as depressed, baffled, devastated.

Common Misconceptions

There are many myths framed by people about introverts. If you are an introvert, you might have heard of the following misconceptions

 POOR PUBLIC SPEAKERS
People often think that you lack confidence and you don’t like to socialize so you can’t be a good public speaker.
✔This is just a myth, it may not apply to every introvert. If a person has the particular traits required to be a public speaker then personality type hardly plays any role in this.
 INTROVERTS DON’T HAVE ANY FUN
It is believed that introverts don’t have any fun, they don’t like to enjoy. They don’t like to go out.
✔Everyone likes to enjoy. Everyone has different ways to have fun. Your way of enjoying yourself may be different.
 YOU ARE EITHER OBLIVIOUS OR DOPE
People assume that introverts are fools, they think that most of the time you are lost in your world, you are not aware of anything, you are not ready to face the world.
✔This can’t be applied to all, you may be cognizant and you are a keen observer, you observe everything but just keep it yourself rather than conversing it with other people.
 YOU ARE SHY
This is the most common misconception about introverts.
✔Being shy and introverted is different
An introvert may not necessarily be shy. An introvert interacts with others only when necessary whereas a shy person is afraid to interact with anyone but this is not the case with introverts.

 YOU ARE DEPRESSED
People often think that you are depressed just because you don’t speak much. ✔ You spend most of the time with yourself so you are often misunderstood.
A person is much more than being an introvert, extrovert, ambivert. A person is defined by the qualities not by these personality types, but people just try to underestimate you if you don’t speak much, if you speak more then also people criticize you. Some people try to change themselves just by getting triggered by the particular questions or statements of people. My motive is not to depict any personality as inferior or superior, it’s just that if you are an introvert then many people want you to change your personality.

Every personality type has some weaknesses and strengths, even if you are an extrovert then also people have problems with you and you are perceived as a wild, loud, overweening person. Now how to answer those repulsive questions, you can just ignore them or just become blunt and reply whatever you want to or just give a cunning smile to that person. These may sound weird but most of the time they do work.
The biggest mistake an introvert can make is trying to become an extrovert and vice versa. Introversion is not any fault which needs to be fixed. Just remember no one will ever know you entirely, people only know some aspects of your life and they judge you on that basis and they will keep on judging, so never doubt your capabilities or try to change your personality under the influence of these people.

MAIN APNI FAVOURITE HOON!

You come alone in this world and go alone from this world. People often hear this, but how many give priority to themselves? How many people practice self-love? With the increasing social media trends where pseudo impeccability is depicted, self-love has become the rarest form of love. I am no one to give any kind of sermon, I am also a human being and I know how difficult it is to practice self-love in reality, but it is really important.

Why Self love is Difficult?

CHILDHOOD TRAUMAS
Childhood is the most essential stage of life. Some have a very mesmerizing childhood but some have to face body shaming, racism, abuse, violence etc. and when you become an adult you can imagine past reflections of them and these keep on haunting you again and again.
EMBARRASSING MOMENTS
Many times you say things that sound dumb. When you realize what dumb thing you said, you start underestimating yourself. This is the step towards self-loathing.
REGRETTING
Many chances come and go, but when you miss a golden opportunity, then you keep on regretting that. You doubt your capabilities.
 YOU HAVEN’T ACHIEVED ANYTHING GREAT TILL NOW
Whatever area you entered, you haven’t achieved anything except failures which resulted in self-hatred.

How to Practice Self Love?

☆If you don’t love yourself because of those embarrassing moments which happened in front of people then you have a wrong perception. They might have forgotten that and you are still stumbling upon that. JUST REMEMBER THAT NO ONE CARES. ☆If you lost that golden chance, it’s okay. Do remember that if you lost it, something big might surely be on its way.
☆If you have faced some childhood traumas, I know that none of us can forget them and this is the reality, but you can work on yourself and whenever they will haunt you will not self loathe. Start doing things which you like, if you don’t have any hobby start doing different things and you will surely end up having one. Start exercising not because of that body shaming, exercise will surely boost up your confidence.
☆Don’t forget if you haven’t achieved anything till now that does not mean that you will not do anything in life. This may be a misconception on your side, you may have achieved much more than you think, even the little things matter in life.
Hardly any one of us can become “GEET” from “JAB WE MET ” but just stop judging yourself, this society is already enough to judge you. It is easier to say than to implement but always remember that you are worth more than you think. Just introspect yourself, talk to yourself and ALL THINGS WILL FALL IN RIGHT PLACE.