So what kind of relationship do you have with yourself? How do you treat yourself? Society has always given importance to relationships, but we are never enlightened about the relationship that we must have with ourselves.
Hey, you are a loser!
No, you can’t do it!
You are dreadful!
Visualize someone saying this to you. How will you feel? Hostile! And when you say them to yourself then…?
Yes, you can have a toxic relationship with yourself.
Signs of a toxic relationship:-
1. YOU UNDERESTIMATE YOURSELF A LOT!
I know many incidents might have happened in your life that pushed you back to underestimate your worth.
2. YOU DON’T ENJOY IT!
When it’s time to have fun, then thoughts of your failure trigger you.
3. BRUTAL TO YOURSELF!
Ok, so some of the past happenings where you faced criticzm can turn you to a cruel person towards yourself.
If a person was sexually abused in his/her childhood and only that person knows about it, he/she has never communicated about that with anyone then imagine what he/she may be going through? That experience can turn him/her into a cruel person.
But the truth is that no one will understand the reason for that kind of behaviour. So, there may be many occurrences that happen in your life that you don’t disclose to others, these turn you to behave in a certain way. I believe that an individual’s behaviour is framed by the kind of incidents that happen in his\her life but no one will judge you on that basis.
What to do then?
JUST EXPRESS YOUR FEELINGS
Never suppress your feelings. Share your feelings with someone whom you think will understand you. But most of us don’t feel comfortable articulating our feelings. So just write down whatever you are feeling. Just write down those failures, those past experiences. Start writing journal. Trust me, you will start feeling better.
LIST ALL YOUR ACHIEVEMENTS
Next, you can do is list down all the achievements. Ok, so now most of you may think, what achievements are you talking about? We haven’t achieved anything great. Even making your bed, getting a good score, cooking a meal for yourself, these all are small achievements and when you start counting them, you will start feeling good about yourself.
There may be situations when you are around toxic people who are turning you toxic as well, then just remember that no one is going to come to take you out from that situation.
Believe it or not, it’s a fact that no one is going to believe you till you achieve something, for achieving something in life you have to believe in yourself. No matter how much your inner self reminds you of your past experiences, your failures, embarrassments, you have to push yourself away from all these, just work on yourself, JUST START, eventually, you will develop that confidence that will make you believe in yourself. Only you can take care of your mental health, don’t destroy it because of negative self-talk. Pretend to be the happiest in your worst phase of life till now, it may sound weird but I have tried this and it worked out very well for me. Initially, you will find it difficult and when you will start pretending then eventually you will be really happy. When life gives you lemons, why only make lemonade, make whatever you think will be the best for you! 🙂