When someone does not behave according to our expectations our brain automatically, mindlessly starts reacting to it by getting angry, anxious, or end with bad terms. We get irritated and annoyed by others’ actions because we expected better from them. But you know that you can’t control the way others behave. But you can control your actions and respond to them.
People try to create turmoil around us. But the only thing we can do is be compassionate towards them. This can happen through Mindfulness. Mindfulness is when you take a pause and let the wave of mindless reaction pass and then respond to the situation.
3 ways to Mindfulness:
- Ask for a change. If you think the person is capable of changing you can ask for it. But while you ask make sure you don’t put the other person on the defensive. Asking him with kindness and gracefully rather than doing it with criticism. Criticism is futile and it does not work well in such a situation. Do not forget to appreciate the efforts of the person if he is changing for you.
- Set limits and Boundaries .When you can’t control someone else behavior. One should learn to limit their responses to it. One should maintain boundary which means refusing some behavior if you feel it’s inappropriate.
- Acceptance. This means mindfully accepting that the person would never change putting efforts would be ineffective. You decide to be ok with it. Acceptance doesn’t mean you shouldn’t try it. One should try but if it’s not hitting any change, stop and accept with compassion.
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