Failures are the stepping stones to success. Mistakes help you improve. You can learn from your mistakes. It enables us to look from different perspectives and let us see the other strategies that will work.This is a growth mindset. Growth mindset make everyone powerful and adaptable. It facilitates them to develop resilience which helps them in bouncing back.It makes them to consider failure as a positive learning experience in a creative way.Though mistakes hurt you , they make you humble.
In fact, our brains grow and develop in important ways whenever failure occurs. When kids understand this concept, amazing things can happen for them (and for us).When we learn new things , our brain grows.They learn to tolerate frustration.They learn to focus on the positive aspects, patience ,social and emotional skills for their life-time.After learning from mistakes, children can help others and guide them who experience similar difficulties or failures.
Failing in some activities like exam, competitions,sports etc is a natural event or part of living .Failure can produce painful feelings such as anger, sadness, frustration, or low self-esteem in a child or adult. These emotions may be based on their age and emotional maturity.They have to be taught to recognize and deal with those feelings in a positive way.
Failing gives the children a chance to self-regulate their emotions . While children learn from mistakes, they also understand the moral judgement that comes from doing something like apologizing to the opponent or neighbour and take measures to correct the wrong thing to a right.
How parents can help children face and learn from their failures ?
Parents should praise their children for learning from a mistake. They should not be praised for not making a mistake.
Challenging experiences are the only way children learn specific coping skills and problem solving skills .If we pamper them and protect them from adversity , certain brain connections will not develop.
Kids typically fear failure.But if they know that mistakes improve learning and grow their brain , they will accept the mistakes and think about different learning paths or strategies.When children are exposed to failures and by regular practise, they learn to respond to it strongly rather than merely reacting to it.
Children should know that winning is not an important thing. They should be praised for their efforts and attitude to take part in the challenging activities or competitions .
Children should be made to understand that the biggest mistakes teach us more courage , strength and wisdom than any success can bring.
Parents can share stories of past failures and the steps they took to get over from them . This can be beneficial for your children. It’s even more helpful by keeping your kids in the communication loop as you face challenge or adversity in the present.
Sharing current failures allows parents to share the entire thinking, communication and behavioral processes they engage in . More importantly , it delivers the message that no matter how old we are, we fail, we persist and we learn from them.
Kids who are overpraised become dependent on others for validation and may end up needing a constant flow of positive feedback to feel valued. Hence , they should not be lavishly given compliments. Parents should enlighten children by guiding them to get confidence from overcoming challenges or adversity rather than over-praising.
Encourage them to try new things – Kids naturally get inclined toward the hobbies that interest them and at which they excel. But if your child avoids trying a different activity because she’s afraid of how she’ll perform, she’ll miss or fail to broaden her horizons.
After failure , Parents should make the children to try again and understand that they are on the right track. They can suggest them to ask for help without giving up.Also, Parents can make them realise that they can become better the next time.
Kids typically fear failure.But if they know that mistakes improve learning and grow their brain , they will accept the mistakes and think about different learning paths or strategies.When children are exposed to failures and by regular practice, they learn to respond to it strongly rather than merely reacting to it. Children should know that winning is not an important thing. They should be praised for their efforts and attitude to take part in the challenging activities or competitions .Children should be taught to fail with a positive approach.