How to Lead an Empowered Life

Self-empowerment is the process which leads people to exert greater control over their lives. Self-empowerment includes fostering skills that would eventually allow you to influence certain outcomes and produce tangible results. This is different from solely feeling self-empowered. People may feel selfempowered by listening to a moving speech, but as new research accurately shows, people won’t in fact be empowered unless they’re able to significantly change an aspect of their lives.

The idea that self-empowerment calls for awareness sound like a cliche these days. However I’d like to offer a fresh view on the idea of expanding awareness. I find it’s best to think of self-empowerment as the ability to become conscious of your choices so you have in becoming who you want to be. I settled for this definition because I’ve observed that when people are dis-empowered, they lose sight of what they’re capable of and who they can be. So the first step is to fully apprehend that you do have options.

There are many people in our life who keep bringing us down, therefore making them a culprit for our dis-empowerment apart from ourselves. It’s safe to let others direct your life since you’ll always have someone to blame if things go wrong. Stop giving away your power and let go of immature thought patterns. Continuing on this route will only fuel feelings of inferiority, and you’ll believe that you’re “less” than others.

Courage is the first pillar of self-empowerment. It is your foundation for any real and lasting change in life. Courage will help you overcome your fears, try new things, to quit things that don’t work, to find new relationships, and to start your first business. Courage will furthermore make you help, love, learn, give back, forgive, start over, to stand up for yourself, to stand up for others, to say yes, and to say no. Courage, in my view, is the most radical value.

A paradigm is a belief system within which you define yourself and the world in a rational way. The coherence of these beliefs depends on the web of principles, values, and judgments that you have formed about who you are. In any given paradigm, events are interpreted in line with the “rules” of that paradigm and as such derive their plausibility from it. We all live within paradigms. We all have credences about who we are and why we are the way we are. While few paradigms are empowering, others can be dis-empowering. For example, a person who lacks self-confidence might feel that social situations provoke anxiety and such situations must be avoided.

Innumerable of the personal challenges that people go through such as low self-confidence, lack of productivity, certain financial challenges; etc., arise from living in a performance-oriented paradigm. This paradigm contains inflexible and firm beliefs about oneself and the processes of doing something well.

The person that operates within that paradigm is concerned with how they look. They’re preoccupied with how others see them. 

I encourage you to let go and to make mistakes. People can be so self-absorbed that they won’t even remember your mistakes. On the other hand, a growth-oriented paradigm is one in which you don’t judge yourself. You take on experiences because you know that becoming good at something requires working and probably failing along the way.