These things that we talk about can be anything, it can be that argument or a fight or that regretful memory that you just can’t seem to let go of. Too often we keep holding on to these things that subconsciously keep hurting us like a pebble stuck in your shoe. It’s not causing too much pain, but we know it’s there and someway or another our minds keep drifting on to that pebble and as we keep walking we come to realize that this little tinny piece of rock is making it hard to think about anything else. Why do we do that? Like the pebble why do we have these lingering emotions that are’t causing us any harm or good but they keep lingering behind us like shadows.

1.THEY HINDER US– Hinder us from thinking about positive things. Have you ever had a fight with someone and that fight is all you could think about throughout the day or a week and every time your mind drifts in that direction you see yourself getting more and more annoyed or angry. We hate to be hurt we hate to be made fun of, we hate to be unimportant for someone who was very important for us, we hate that our lives aren’t as picture perfect like that of our best friend from childhood. We keep these emotions in, let them broil, let them sit and infest and now we have gotten ourselves infested by a perfect parasite.

2.YOU WILL FEEL HOPELESS AND LOST– Now that those emotions have taken their stand in your mind you will begin feeling drained . You got hurt and now you’re scared that you’re going to get hurt once again. You have lost your trust and you call it commitment issues. Now, every time you see a story of a couple deep in love, the first thought that pops into your parasite infested head is ,” that shit will never happen with me”. It takes away your hopes, it takes away your dreams. It will make you feel inferior with your own goddamn consent. Why would you want that? Why would you want to live your life with such mediocre & substandard dreams? Where once your soul had dreams as high and mighty as sky scrapers is now filled with a village made up of huts. Why?

3.YOU WON’T SHUT UP ABOUT IT– Ever meet those people who keep on repeating that same horrific story over and over again. They keep on running you through the details on how they got into that horrific accident and now that story has completely brought down your mood and now you’re scared of ever sitting in a car. Yes, that’s the kind of person you will become. You’ll not only ruin your mood you will be ruining everyone else’s mood as well.

4. LONELY MUCH? You’ve been sitting on those emotions for far too long. You’ve told everyone you know about that horrific incident and now there’s no one left. More like no one cares.You feel like talking about them but no one really wants to anymore. Everyone for you will seem bunch of people with lovely smiles on their faces while you’re sitting alone in your room dwelling and stinking of rotten feelings that haven’t been disposed of yet. Misery loves company and too many miserable people together might solve the overpopulation crisis.

5.SUCCESS?HAPPINESS? WHAT’S THAT? – This is obvious but can you really give everything to something when you have a goddamn pebble in your brain which you keep pondering about every time your mind is free? NO! Giving 100% is giving 100%, mind, body and soul included. Keep wondering about your ex’s new girlfriend and find yourself missing a promotion or flunking that test. Some guy pushed you in the train this morning and now you’ve mentally devised a 100 line speech which you’re going to recite the next time you meet him. If only those thoughts went to somewhere productive. Tell me, how can you be happy failing at something?

6. LESS ATTRACTIVE – Only fools rush in to love by looking at someone’s looks. Attractiveness has nothing to do with your looks and everything to do with how you carry yourself. Ever find yourself attracted to that guy with a ponytail playing the guitar and being applauded by 500 people? YEAH! that’s called personality. It’s how you interact with people, by your skills or persona or by your fascinating stories. It’s how you open your heart for others to see, when someone is talking to you it’s up to you to be insecure about your looks or be the most confident asshole telling the most ridiculous stories and somehow still having a grip over them. Now, you have decided to not go out, to not interact with people to completely shut yourself out because you think no one gets you because you can’t get over those emotions and you feel like not being happy and that has made your personality equivalent to a sloppy warm ice cream that no one wants. Get a grip over yourself.

Stress is the feeling of intense mental pressure that renders us unable to comprehend what the hell is going on. We all face stress, we all know how it feels when the deadlines are near or to prepare for that test overnight and so on. Often times you might have wondered why am I under such intense pressure? How did it get like this? Why didn’t I begin sooner or why the hell did I wait. Exactly! Why did you wait? What’s causing you to get under stress repeatedly , where you find yourself in the same exact situation over and over again.When you try to change but the situation is still remains the same.

The cause of our stress can be anything or anyone or any situation that is disturbing our mental peace. It can be that pile of work lying on your desk or it can be an ill loved one you’re worried about. In our lives we often encounter problems that take away our control from our own lives. They take away the power from our minds to think rationally and make sound decisions and these are the times when our patience and mental strength is truly tested.

1. Know the cause of your stress and do something about it
2. If it is something that you have no control over then move on and focus on whatever you can do at the present
3. You’re not the only one going through tough times and having bad experiences. During times like these look at those who are less fortunate than yourself and take inspiration from them
4. Work your body – exercise, meditate, do yoga
5. Distract yourself from stressful situations and conflicts
6. Be hopeful rather than stressful
7. Know the implications and side effects of long term stress
8. Know when to ask for help

We all are humans we all have those days when we lose it. We lose that little temper we had and end up saying or doing things that we regret and then we keep running around justifying our actions to the world. Getting angry isn’t all that bad but from my personal experience anger surmounts to absolutely nothing. You get angry you shout at something and someone and then you end up wishing you hadn’t and then you feel even more miserable. So, how should we stop it? How should we make our nature more likable?

INTROSPECTION – before doing anything or saying anything take a deep breath and ask yourself why? Why am i so damn angry? Maybe it’s because you’re having a bad day or maybe you didn’t sleep well or maybe you’re just hungry or thirsty.Maybe you’re letting someone’s words get to you. So are you technically really angry or are you just venting at somebody else for no damn reason? Sit down and begin asking some serious questions.

JUST STOP REACTING– There are some people in this planet that are the epitomes of devils. They are born just to torment us and make us irritated as hell and are the true test of our patience. As easy as it sounds it’s awfully hard to control our emotions from overflowing on their face but we are the individuals who want to change ourselves so instead of just giving them a piece of our mind and telling them to bugger off which usually doesn’t work we will now use a different approach we’ll just smile and ignore. Just let them be. Let them say what they want to say let them make fun of us just stop reacting the way they want us to react. Someone threw coffee at your white shirt just say “i look prettier like this”. someone’s driving rashly just say “God is watching rest in piece”. Instead of always shouting at your kids just laugh it off for once just close your eyes to the world and become comatose and stop reacting.

LET IT OUT PRODUCTIVELY : If you want to live a happy life learn how to vent in different ways. Learn how to calm your mind and how to use that pent up anger for someone or something in a way that helps you to move on. The best way is to play sports, to start running and just don’t stop till that image of you shooting your neighbor with a gun doesn’t disappear from your brain or just write it down write all the emotions on a piece of paper and torch it. Burn it and feel good it is much better than burning that house down.

BE A SAINT – If something is happening to you repeatedly just tell them. Tell them how you feel in the nicest way possible almost like a speech.Tell them that their dog pooping in front of your house is NOT COOL. Their kids breaking your windows and making so much noise is not cool or that person who keeps parking in your space is definitely NOT COOL. Try to solve a problem with a nice tone first. Pen is mightier than a sword, be cunning be innovative you’re not a beast who lunges at anyone who disturbs you. You were with God’s grace made a human use your brain instead of your fists. Every problem can be solved if one tries to solve it patiently.

SAY SORRY – What about the times when you mess up? When you were the one who broke the headlights of that car and it’s owner is shouting his brains out at your face with no signs of mercy or that irritating guy who has brains smaller than that of an ant and gets angry at everything, what should you do? Bow down and say you’re sorry. Instead of getting angry just listen to their words that are sharper than a jagged glass and try to not let them pierce your heart. Be brave and just apologize there’s no point in two men/women shouting at each other because the quarrel will never end. You have to take the first step and just finish it for the sake of your sanity.”Fighting doesn’t prove which one is stronger but avoiding a fight definitely proves which one of is smarter”

We all are humans and we all have made some mistakes. We chose the wrong person to spend our time with. We made the wrong decision of quitting that job or we made the wrong choice to leave a once in a lifetime oppurtunity. Whatever the reason,we all have somethings that we wish we wouldn’t have done or we wish we would have and those regrets and our feelings make us feel unsure about our decision making abilities and makes us lose our confidence in our self and before we know it we just have no idea what to do. The dread of making the same mistakes cripples our mind.

GET A HOLD OF YOUR THOUGHTS– The universal truth is that we have the full power and control over what we dwell on. It’s completely our choice whether we want to keep looking back feeling bad or get our shit together and leave the past to the past and just focus on what we have now. You look back and regret “Oh i wish i wouldn’t have eaten so much look at me now i’m so fat” ,” I wish i hadn’t said that”you keep on wishing and wishing that the past somehow changes but it can’t. So, tell me what’s the damn point?

GET A HOLD OF THE PRESENT– You did what you did you got fat, you got divorced , you failed , you lost the job alright, now what? What are you going to do so that those things never happen again. Your actions and your decisions are yours and yours only take full responsibility. Accept what you did, accept the fact that you’re not God. If you’re always hesitating and always unsure and always low on confidence those things will happen again. You’ll never be able to lose weight if you’re unsure about your decision to start dieting. You’ll lose the right person again if you keep on dwelling over your commitment issues, you’ll lose the interview if low self esteem is found in your demeanor.

BUILD SELF ESTEEM– If you’re like me a prideful person,every failure and every bad choice makes you feel very embarrassed and those choices literally cause us physical and mental pain. It causes us to lose respect for our own selves. WE BERATE OURSELVES MORE THAN ANY CRITIC OUT THERE which ultimately decreases our self esteem. If you don’t respect yourself who else will? If you bad mouth yourself if you are your own bully then how in the God’s gracious hell will you ever be able to believe in yourself? How can you expect to achieve great things with a demon always pulverizing your confidence and literally throwing you on the ground every time you try to stand up.It is your responsibility to exorcise the demon in your brain and tell it to shut up. You listen to what brings you up and be deaf to those lingering shadows that want to bring you down. Only you can do that.

SPEAK ONLY GOOD THINGS ABOUT YOURSELF – What you say repeatedly about yourself is how your brain perceives your self image. Ever heard of the saying that if you can’t speak something good about someone then you shouldn’t speak something bad. Similarly, speak good things about yourself call yourself pretty, handsome, smile more try and to have fun more, say you’re smart, say you’re talented, say that you can have everything and achieve everything if you worked hard for it and then do it. You will be surprised how much your life will change if you start complimenting yourself.

FIND GOOD THINGS ABOUT YOURSELF – in order to believe in ourselves we need to first know that we are a force to be reckoned with. Celebrate your past achievements.Think of all the hard times that have passed you and how you tackled them. Look at the good things about yourself and appreciate them . Start liking yourself no matter what kind of a person you are .

FIND WHO YOU WANT TO BE – We all have an ideal person inside our mind with good eating,sleeping, exercising habits who is productive energetic and funny someone who is positive and who takes good care of him/herself. Be excited that you have a chance to improve who you are and that with little effort put everyday your life can change drastically. Try to be a person you would be proud of.

LEARN ELIMINATION – Learn to eliminate bad thoughts and bad people from your life. Eliminating people who keep reminding us of our mistakes, our misfortunes or imperfections are the ones who we need to stay from the most. You have controlled the inner demons in your head now it’s time to control the real life ones.

LEARN HOW TO IGNORE – Let’ face it we can’t run away from everyone. We need to learn how to filter and the art of just not caring. Let them say what they want to say, stop letting people’s words get to you. Other people’s words cannot define your future, only you and your actions can do so. Learn that and just move on. You’re not born to live up to people’s expectations you’re born to do what really drives you. Do not let others dim the flame that you ignited with such difficulty.

BELIEVE YOU CAN DO IT– Believing in your capabilities is the first step you can take towards achieving your goals whether its losing 10 kg or a 100 it’s up to you.It’s your commitment to the task, to your life that you want to improve. Drive yourself, don’t wait for others to pick you up be your own back bone and believe that “you can do it” that you’ve got this and repeat it again and again like a mantra. Get yourself pumped up, if life is kicking you in the gut be angry and punch it back by getting back up and getting out of the negativity and low self esteem and don’t back down till you’ve landed a decent punch on the world on your critics on everyone who has made you feel unworthy or ugly or dumb by doing something which they thought you could never do which you yourself thought that you’re incapable of . Prove them wrong, prove that inner voice in your head wrong.Make it your life’s goal.Be selfish, do it for yourself, have some pride and just stop caring because you know in your heart of hearts that you can do it.

Life sometimes can be hard. There are times when we are giving our 100% but it still isn’t enough.When we do the right things but only trouble follows. It almost feels like nothing good is ever going to happen to us. So in times like these how should you stay positive and what will positive thinking do ?

HELPS US TO MOVE ON – After the bad breaks the negative mind sits and ponders while the positive mind says “next time it will be better”. A negative person will cry over spilled milk while a positive mind will clean it. One is inactive other is proactive.

IMPROVES OUR MOOD – We all are humans all of us feel low sometimes but how we choose to get outside of our head and how we stop the overthinking is what differentiates us. Having a positive attitude fills our lives with hopes and dreams and thus helps us to combat depression. Instead of fearing our future it give us the courage to look forward.

REDUCES STRESS – “You can do it“, “you will find the right guy/girl”,
“You will make it on time“,”you’re smart and beautiful one of a kind“.If our mind keeps shouting these things instead of all the negative crap how can we ever get stressed right?If we are our own biggest cheerleaders then no matter how bad things get we’ll be able to handle it because there is a voice echoing in our brain saying “you got this“.

IMPROVES OUR PERSONALITY – If you went out on a date what kind of a person would you like to be with the funny one with a smile on his/her face or the one who’s complaining in every sentence? Believe it or not people have auras and vibes that they project and no one and by no one i mean absolutely no one likes a complaining person.Having a positive attitude not only projects you as a confident and a happy person but also makes you much more attractive and easy to talk to.

MAKES US STRONG – “When life gives you lemons, make lemonade” that kind of attitude will help you sail through the tough times smoother than ice cream. Never think that bad times prevent you from being happy, happiness comes from within positivism comes from within. It’s the way we react to our situations that increase or decrease our happiness. Once you’re used to facing adversity with a smile on your face bad times are not enough to move you.

GOOD FOR HEALTH – What we say again and again comes true. If you spew out bad things about yourselves like “I’m not pretty enough, i’m not good enough i’m fat, i’m too thin, i’ll never be that rich, i’ll never date that guy/girl” GUESS WHAT? It might just come true. Having a scorn on your face will increase your wrinkles make you more prone to anxiety,make you less confident and discontent and make you very unhappy and sad which will directly take a toll on your health.

Procrastination is an art and the perfect example of ignorance is a bliss. We ignore those piling assignments and reports that are due on Monday, we ignore the fact that a test is on it’s way and we haven’t even started yet. We keep on ignoring the important things that need to be done because of various reasons and live blissfully even if that bliss is followed by a hellish nightmare and then we wonder where did all the time go? Why didn’t we do it before? We regret and regret and the cycle continues. SO, how do we break it?

YOU WILL NEVER FEEL LIKE IT, THERE IS NO IDEAL TIME– Before even beginning to sit down and do the work the first thing that we need to instill in our brains is that “feelings don’t matter”. If you always listen to the voice that tells you “i don’t feel like doing it right now” , you will never get anything done. Period. The ideal time starts when you make up your mind to change the situation rather than waiting for the situation to change.That is the no.1 difference between the person that you want to be and the person that you are.

SIT DOWN AND MAKE A LIST – Get off from your bed sit on a table and a chair and write down all the things you need to get done, big and small. Making a list will bring your ignorant mind back to the reality by showing how much stuff is pending. A shock is needed to get your mind started. Turn off the WiFi, clean your room, drink a glass of water and begin.

START WITH THE EASY THINGS– Too often we procrastinate the things that we either don’t like or are too long and boring. Starting out with the small and easy things will not only get some stuff out of the way but also give us a bit of confidence to move on ahead with the list. Try to do the things that have close deadlines first.

SET A TIMER AND TAKE BREAKS – Set a timer for 30 minutes and then take a 10 minute break. Then set a timer for 45 minutes and take a 15 minute break. Then set a timer for an hour and take a 20 minute break and then repeat the cycle and make sure that working time is for work only and break time is for fun only. NO MIXING!

BREAK DOWN THE BIG THINGS – Now that we are done with all the small things we needed to get done it’s time to begin with that big ass assignment waiting for us that we have been putting away for God knows how long. Instead of trying to do it all in one go,break it off. Suppose it has 60 questions and you need to get it done in 3 days, do 20 questions everyday instead of trying to do all 60 do little by little. Breaking down the big things not only makes it much less daunting but also helps us gain confidence.

FOCUS ONLY ON ONE THING– Instead of having 120 books on your table keep only those things that you’re currently trying to finish. If you’re studying math then your table should only have math books nothing else. This is because too many books and stuff to do on our table not only makes it very stressful but it also chips away our concentration. Similarly keep away from your to do list and try not to read it over and over again as it will only make you panic more and work less.

CONCENTRATE– Now that you have finally gotten to doing what you are supposed to be doing you might as well learn from it. The art of concentration is difficult but once you’re in the zone make sure nothing breaks the zone. Doing things halfheartedly will only make it much more difficult. Some people like listening to songs while studying which is all good till you see that you’re searching for your favorite song in the playlist rather than doing your work. When you’re truly concentrating nothing else matters no noise will reach your ears so if you’re fidgeting every 15 minutes to change the song, you’re getting distracted.

You know that feeling when you’ve prepared for a test very well when you have worked very hard to achieve something and for some reason or other it doesn’t pan out, you fail,blew the interview of your dream job , got rejected/dumped or that girl or boy you chased for so long just went up and got committed with someone else and you’re just like “WHAT?!!!”. In all of these cases somewhere we lose our hearts. We lose the spine to try again. All we really know is the taste of failure and rejection and things just not working out. The sweet old world tells us to “Dream and dream big” but how can we dream big? How can we bring ourselves to dream again when life has been hell when the dreams and aspirations that we had just went and blew up on our face. The expectations that we had from life, from ourselves just completely got destroyed and suddenly we don’t know anymore we feel lost and stranded and heart broken not knowing how to recuperate.

WRITE IT DOWN– sometimes we don’t really need to talk to anyone or take other’s advice all we really need is to let it out, to cry to properly accept our defeat and come at terms with it. You don’t have to write it down on a piece of paper, just begin and don’t stop it doesn’t matter that you’ve gotten some spellings wrong because who cares right? it’s for you it’s your therapy and as you start writing down you’ll see flashbacks of every single time you’ve failed in your life like that math test when you were five or that drawing competition when you were three or that high school break up or you’ll remember a really sad story that you read or saw somewhere and it will just make it worse but KEEP WRITING OK? Be brave to confront your own self. Crying or feeling bad and feeling down and depressed aren’t all that bad because once you’re over it you’ll feel “God anything is better than this?” and it really helps us differentiate between our good days and our bad days and once you’re done whining and crying melodramatically at the corner of your bed post all alone , now this may sound very sad but “HUG YOURSELF” and say “it’s okay, you’re not alone you’ve got me”.

MOVE ON– The reason so many of us take defeats and rejection in such a negative way is because we feel embarrassed we feel like we can’t do anything because we keep on failing. But, the problem isn’t that is it? Maybe we have been asking ourselves the wrong questions maybe we have been feeding ourselves lies and sometimes you know you just can’t help it bad luck comes to us all. Maybe he wasn’t the right guy fro you that’s why it didn’t work out, maybe the job wasn’t right for you and maybe you need to work harder than you did before. Rather than looking back again and again at our defeat shouldn’t we take notes? shouldn’t we promise ourselves that we won’t procrastinate anymore, we won’t let that kind of guy/girl come close to us anymore or that opportunities and the chances that we missed or let go we won’t let that happen anymore. The bitter truth is what’s done is done you can’t expect to get back up in a day and feel okay everything is alright, it’s not obviously but time heals everything and little by little after a week, a month, a year it will hurt less. Till it vanishes in the sands of time.

TAKE CONTROL OF YOUR ACTIONS – So now in the process of moving on you can’t just sit idly right? You have to take control of your life now, see all the pros and cons and instead of crying and whining begin looking forward to forthcoming opportunities. Start preparing for the next test , start that internship you’ve been wanting to do for so long , so you didn’t get that job? Look for another. So he/she dumped you let him/her go and now recognize the kind of things you don’t want in a person and in a relationship in fact you’ll be more cautious of any red flags and will be much more experienced. The fact of the matter is life is so dynamic life is so mysterious how can you expect that only bad things will happen to you? That’s crazy. How can you say that you’ll never get the job or you’ll never meet the person etc etc. Are you an astronomer? Are you God? Or an Alien? that you know everything? NO so, shut up! Shut that voice that tells you that you can’t achieve anything because it’s stupid and you know it.

LEARN & EXECUTE -Now you’re a veteran you’ve seen more failures than anyone else no one expects you to be successful so, much less burden right? It is when the world underestimates us too much that we really get the time to shine. Learn what went wrong & make a list of the things that you should have done or you could do to improve like not procrastinating , having better communication skills , asking questions in class and to be a good listener to be more patient with your partner and not jump to conclusions etc. The fact that we failed proves that he have room to grow instead of looking back in life with despair look back like you’re reading a chapter of an old book and trying to learn from it and then make sure that you don’t do the same things like the protagonist of that story did.

NEVER COMPARE – Don’t compare your failure with someone else’s success. Your time will come, wait for it and instead of being sad try to be happy for others even if you sometimes might have to force that smile down your throat. It’s not easy, but it is life.

WORK HARD WITH ZERO EXPECTATIONS – The only expectations we should have is from ourselves. Expecting too much of others in a relationship is like a ticking time bomb it won’t happen and you will be disappointed.Same goes for everything almost, i feel that the harder you work for something the more expectations turn into a reality (in exams) but sometimes even while working hard there are things out of control. That promotion that you worked so hard for went to someone else, that relationship you tried to hold on too so much went down the drain so, what are we supposed to do? Remember “HARD WORK NEVER GOES TO WASTE” hardworking people who put 100% in their actions will one day achieve the things they strive for it might not be today, it might not be tomorrow but, it will for sure happen one day. Instead of expecting that day to come, forget about it and just keep doing what you’re doing try to improve and let life open the door of opportunities for you let life surprise you instead of waiting and wishing and hoping just bury your head down in your work and let things unfold and NEVER MISS A CHANCE TO HAVE A BIT OF FUN!

DRESS UP– dressing properly and looking presentable puts more confidence in you than most of the things and it especially helps on the days we are feeling low. Who doesn’t want to go out on the days when they’re looking gorgeous and picture perfect?

ASK THE RIGHT QUESTIONS – The thing that you’re working so hard for do you even like it? Are you doing it to earn respect of others or are you doing it because you actually like it? Do you want that job because you’re interested in that field or because you like the pay? Can you actually see a happy future with him/her or is it because you’re too scared to let go because you’re used to them?Don’t get me wrong we don’t always do the things that we like but we do those things anyways since they’re a stepping stone on our way to something that we actually like. Iggy Azalea scrubbed floors as a part timer to get a ticket to Miami and start her career I don’t think scrubbing floors sounds like a very enticing job but the outcome from it definitely was. So ask yourself are you doing things that will lead to a life of your dreams or are you just suffering for something that you don’t even care about that much?Or suffering with someone or because of someone who otherwise don’t really deserve it.

HAPPINESS – You’ll never be able to really achieve anything if you’re not mentally happy and we often associate our happiness with success we think “once i’m successful i’ll be happy” but in really shouldn’t be that way . The no.1 way to be happy is to spread happiness, try to cheer up your friend try to do something nice for someone try to donate some clothes or talk to old people try to make others laugh and try to stock up on good karma , try to grow a plant or a tree or play with some kids and try to make them laugh because happiness is what happiness gives. If you try to uplift others you’ll be in a way uplifting yourself and if your inner mind is turbulent try to keep it calm by not focusing on it too much. Fake it till you make! Works really well when you’re trying to cheer yourself up.

The word “aspiration” is defined as a hope or ambition of becoming or achieving something. Everyone of us have a dream or a vague idea of how we want our lives to be but only some of us really know how to achieve the life truly worth living.

” We are reborn the day we find our true purpose in life” but is finding our purpose the all and end all? No,of course not! Knowing what we want to do and then actually accomplishing it are two very different concepts. then how do we it then? how to make our dreams turn into a reality? should we,like proper idealists wait for our destiny and fate to knock on our doors and just go with the flow? no, our destiny is what we make of it and even if there is something out there with our name on it which is solely meant for us we still have to walk over there and grab it right? you can’t just go aimlessly in life wishing and hoping that you’ll reach the destination you’re meant to without even looking at the map. COMMON SENSE

THEN HOW DO WE DO IT?

NO COMPARISON – too often we get entangled in the web of comparing our lives with others, we see someone faring better than us and automatically our self worth and confidence takes a dip and we lose our motivation. We think ” we can never be as good as her/him, it’s impossible” well my advice for all those who like to see others and judge their self worth by what others say and feel about them is to STOP RIGHT NOW ! just stop it. A wise man once said, “life is like a race” and indeed it is if you keep focusing on what others are doing rather than focusing on yourself you will not only lose the race but also divert from your tracks. You should never compare yourself with anyone else except the person looking back at you in the mirror. Strive to be a better person than you were yesterday,strive to score better than you did yesterday, try to improve your skills try to grow yourself and compare yourself only with the person who you were yesterday because it’s only YOU and YOU ONLY who can change your life and other’s failure and success shouldn’t bother you because their lives have nothing to do with yours.

COMPARISON WITH YOUR OWN SELF BRINGS IMPROVEMENT AND WITH OTHERS IT BRINGS DISCONTENT

KEEP THINGS TO YOURSELF – This isn’t just a superstition it’s reality although telling others does brings a sense of credibility in us but in reality our plans should be our own and before saying a lot of big words from a small mouth we should just sit back and let things unfold. Instead of prophesying your success let life prove it. Someone important’s disapproval like friends and family can shave away your self confidence faster than a blade so instead of telling your plans you should execute them silently

STAY AWAY FROM NEGATIVITY AND NEGATIVE PEOPLE – when we are embarking on a journey to achieve our goals the last thing we need is someone’s negative opinion and attitude weighing us down. The journey of achieving our dreams is often hard and long and filled with obstacles and we will be facing enough negativity and challenges as it is and the last thing you want is for someones to come and throw their bad vibes at you. People who don’t make you feel good about yourself people who are not goal oriented and are callous with their lives people with habits that you don’t want to ever rub off on you should be the ones you need to stay away from. They can be your friends, your neighbors , your family but the bottom line is that our mind and our personality cannot ever thrive with negative and unproductive people who never change themselves and keep on complaining instead of going out and doing something about it. Be with the kind of people who inspire you to work hard, people with admirable qualities that you wish to develop in your own self. People who light the fire inside of you and give you strength when you need it.