Social Media : A boon or a bane?

Social Media is a virtual interactive platform for sharing ideas, views and information. It has become an inseparable part of our lives as it keeps us aware of the daily happenings around the world. With social media, we are just a few clicks away to access the unknown things. Without a doubt, social media has revolutionised the process of communication and with every passing day, communication game is getting stronger. Social Media applications like Facebook, Instagram, Twitter, Snapchat, Skype and other such apps has made life way more easier than ever.

Like the two sides of a coin, Social Media too has two sides.

Positive side of Social Media

Through social media, we can communicate with people even from far away places. We can broaden our friend circle through it by constantly interacting with unknown people and keeping in touch with our old friends.

Social Media has become a globalised platform to showcase the talents of people. People with various skills share their talents in the form of videos and post it on social media. It provides them with an opportunity to receive appreciation for their talent that further boost their confidence to carry on with what they excel in.

People can use Social Media platforms for business purposes. This is the most common thing that we witness nowadays. People start their business through social media applications like Facebook, Instagram, YouTube etc. YouTube is one such popular application that people use to earn money. People post videos on YouTube and gets paid if they fulfill the various criteria of getting paid, for example, crossing a certain number of views count, likes counts or subscribers count. A lot of businesses have flourished on Social Media and are still flourishing smoothly.

Social Media helps students in education too. Teachers can make use of social media to teach their students out of classroom situation. Especially in the time of pandemic when attending classes is not possible, social media applications have taken the place of classroom. Teachers takes online classes through various online meeting applications and share reading materials through other social media applications. Moreover, students can get extra information from surfing through social media.

Although Social Media has connected a lot of people and is making life easy, yet it has its own drawbacks.

Social Media makes people addicted to it when people constantly keeps on using social media. People are seen to spend quite a lot of time on social media ignoring other productive works. Social Media addiction keeps people aloof from real life situation that hampers their social life in the long run.

Social Media takes a toll on human health, be it physical health or mental health. Because a person sticks his eyes to the screen of various gadgets he is exposed to various eye ailments, headaches and body aches. Even his sleep schedule is disturbed when social media use is more than what is required.

Social Media gives us an unrealistic expectations of life and when in real we fail to meet with what we expected we become disappointed. When this disappointment goes on for a long time, we push ourselves to the web of depression. This greatly disturb our mental health.

Cyber bullying, hacking, catfishing etc are taking at a large scale in the present times. Social Media users are the easy targets of these online criminals. Because social media platforms has a thin layer of privacy, personal and private information of the users can be hacked. A person’s identity can be used in a derogatory manner by the criminals.

Social Media can also promote unhealthy competition among its users. Almost everyone on social media races to show how exciting their life is. Even though they lead a simple life yet they fake their lifestyle. When the other users constantly witness a happy and happening life of others, they feel insecured and inferior. In such cases, a person might not appreciate his own life and keeps on complaining about everything.

It can be said that social media is both a boon and a bane. Social Media can be used in both positive and negative ways. It is a great tool if operated with good intentions.

Peer Pressure among teenagers.

Who are peers?

People belonging to the same age group, sharing the same social status, friends are referred to as peers.

What is Peer Pressure?

Peer Pressure is the influence exerted by people belonging to the same social group. This pressure has the capacity to change the way a person behaves.

Peer Pressure among teenagers

The teenage phase of life is the most crucial and vulnerable phase. During this period of time, teenagers have the tendency to refrain from following the instructions of their elders and explore everything that they feel like without considering its consequences. Understanding about the influence of peer pressure among teenagers is very important because when a teenager grows, his peers plays an important role in shaping his nature and character, the way he behaves, how his likes, dislikes and preferences are established. The adult life of a person is somewhat shaped on the basis of his teenage phase.

Peer Pressure takes place in two ways. Generally, when discussing about peer pressure, the negative side is highlighted more than the positive side. Although a lot of teenagers goes through negative peer pressure, yet the positive side of the same cannot be denied.

Positive Peer Pressure

Peer Pressure has a lot of negative connotations but it too has a good side. Peer Pressure can also act as a reflecting tool for a person. In such type of peer pressure, peers can convince a person to do good things. Peers can encourage and motivate one another to accomplish their goals and dreams to become a better person in life. For example, encouraging a friend to study hard, score good grades and get a job. Positive peer pressure has the following benefits –

°° Leads to a stable and focussed mindset

°° Gain new experiences

°° Get rid of bad habits

°° Motivation to achieve goals

°° Healthy social life

°° Develop strong personal identity

°° Sound emotional state

Negative Peer Pressure

Negative Peer Pressure is the most common type of peer pressure. Almost everyone of us, knowingly or unknowingly has fallen prey to it. In negative peer pressure, peers convince a person to do something bad. A person might be pressurised to take a wrong or unethical decision. For example, encouraging a peer to bunk class, consume alcohol or get into a fight with someone. If a person succumbs to the negative peer pressure around him, he lands himself into trouble. In the teenage phase of life, an individual desires to get recognition and attention in the society and in thirst of that, he is ready to shun his own identity in order to fit into another group whom he admire. He would imitate the lifestyle, clothing pattern, hairstyle, way of interacting and even changes his likes and preferences. When an individual falls for negative peer pressure, he

°° loses his own identity

°° isolates himself from his near and dear ones

°° Adopt bad habits

°° Divert himself from his aims and goals in life

°° Lack confidence

°° Suffers mental health issues

°° Land himself into dangerous circumstances

How to cope with peer pressure

It is very important for the parents of the teenagers to identify what is going on with their child. The parents should establish a friendly relation with their children so that they approach their parents if they face any dilemma. Also, the parents should make the children differentiate between good and bad, right and wrong from a very early stage.

Even if a teenager falls for negative peer pressure, his elders should offer him a helping hand and stand by him to overcome all his problems. He should be taught self love and should be made aware of his own unique identity.

Peer pressure is not always bad but a person should identify what kind of peer pressure he is influenced by.

Positive PRO Person

Realize, that you are not alone who is struggling all day, who is suffocating to survive in this world. There is a way through the darkness. The only thing you need is simple wisdom, which can be relied upon to help. Positivity is not about contentment, which is often a misconception. Acknowledging a range of emotions is healthy. Acceptance is key. It is holding onto what makes you happy.

Whatever the mind can conceive it, can achieve. You can’t change what is happening around you, but you can change your attitude or perception towards the situation. There are lots of people who talk about mindset a lot. there are different kinds of mindset. one is a positive mindset and the other is a negative mindset.

Negative mindset:

With a negative mindset, people are not always open to opportunities. the person mindset is not adaptable to change in opinion or receptive positive ideas and is not open to progressive initiatives. If you have a negative mindset, you will always have the tendency to procrastinate on what you ought to do on time. People with a negative mindset will never have a high level of mental toughness because they have already made up their minds about something.

Positive mindset:

when you have a positive mindset you believe in yourself, that everything is possible. they consistently work towards their goals to achieve. Also, they are mentally strong people.

Also, there is a person being reactive and proactive. Unfortunately, most people don’t take time or effort to think through such emotional responses. such people are considered reactive in their actions as their words and actions are simply reactions to circumstances at hand. Alternatively, individuals who wait for their emotional reactions to subside before speaking, taking action, or making a decision. The mentally tough person will take time to allow their emotions to subside before verbally responding to a negative situation. One of the effective methods for maintaining a proactive mind is counting 1 to 10 can avoid reacting emotionally to any negative interaction. This is one of the methods to succumbing to be proactive rather than reactive. The most thing about being proactive is to learn to say NO. Just as proactive people will take a moment to think through emotional reactions before speaking, so too they will take a moment to consider all of their options before making decisions. proactive is always living up to your expectations. is means that you set the standard for your behavior. Whenever you try to please another person, you will always be reactive to that person’s desires and expectations. Don’t allow other people’s vision of success to define your actions. remain true to your inner voice, beliefs, values, and directions, decide what you want to achieve, and devote yourself to the achievement of those goals. Read more of inspiration men and women, that they have achieved in their lifetimes. See what happened when they listened to other people rather than to their own voices.

Use their lives as lessons for your own life. you don’t need to always go through your life lessons to learn, other people also make great illustrations.