Struggles of being the ‘Weird One’

If there was a ratio analysis between a normal mundane and the ‘Weird one’, what would it be? Some would say it is half of the other or some would find being weird as abnormal, so naturally the count for the abnormal or the ‘weird one’ would be more. Because everyone in this world is weird in their way. Being weird is not being abnormal. It is being the most random version of yourself. To you, it would be something you do in your everyday life, whether it is biting the end of a pencil or singing and using your hairbrush as a mic. It is the perspective of the other that makes you weird. The other person would look at your pencil and would probably not use it thinking ‘what a weird person would do something like this, or someone would walk in your room while you are singing with your hairbrush and judge you by calling you a ‘weirdo’. That’s when you realize I am the weird one.

The struggles of being the weird one is nothing but a simple complexity of your own doing. Being weird is the new normal. It is good to be a different person; a unique idea that makes you stand out in the crowd. But that’s when the word ‘weird’ gets you thinking. Not being weird is a task that you hold every day. It is difficult for the weird one to not get judged. People judge and criticize those but do not think that they too have the struggles of being the weird one.

Everyone has their own battle that they have to face, their own obstacles they have to overcome. In such times being weird is the only sane way out. Whether it is using your signature dance moves which only you can do or if it is reading the spoiler of the book before reading it entirely. That is the hit you get by considering weirdness. Sometimes or for some people most of the time being the weird one is a compliment. It is what makes them different from other human beings or even aliens for that matter. The most interesting fact about being weird is that it is original. It comes from within a human, it is not made up to live up to anybody’s expectations. It is yours and yours to keep. Every individual has their weird abilities and they have full copyright to let them be theirs.

So to all the weird ones out there, be whatever you want to be. Be the weird neighbor who listens to old classical music. Be the one who moonwalks but not in reverse. Be the one who wears unmatched outfits to their office. Be the weird one because the struggles of being a weirdo are not much as they seem. They are just mere distractions to not being yourself. The struggles of being the weird one are not just struggles, they are trophies of being the best version of yourself.

WHERE IS YOUR WILL TO BE WEIRD?

-JIM MORRISON

30 JOURNAL PROMTS FOR SELF-ESTEEM

Ever thought about your self-esteem level. Follow these journal prompts & write up to find yours! This is going to help you improve your self-esteem and discover yourself.

Answer these questions honestly <3…..

1.Best compliment you’ve been given.

2.What is a unique talent you have?

3.Write about a time you were recognized for your accomplishments.

4. Five things you did right today.

5.Three reasons you deserved to be loved

6.A time you regretted your decision.

7.Describe a mistake you made in the past week.

8.Write about the word confidence.

9.List of goals to accomplish in the next year.

10.Devise a plan for your three priority goals.

11.Talk about your favorite role model.

12.Your best personality trait.

13.Five things you are grateful for in your life.

14.What is the most negative thought in your mind right now?

15.What does the word ‘courage’ mean to you?

16.A past fear you were able to overcome.

17.Thank you letter to your body or mind.

18.Something you want to change or improve to feel better about yourself.

19.Ten things you are thankful for right now.

20.Favorite self-esteem or confidence quotes.

21.Something you need to tell someone negatively affecting your life.

22.Discuss your support system.

23.Playlist of mind-boosting songs.

24.How could you make your life positive?

25.Do you compare yourself with others?

26.What unique traits do your friend envy?

27.One thing you can do right now, your future self love you for.

28.What does the word ‘brave’ mean to you?

29.Five things you have done for others that made you feel good.

30.What does it mean to have High self-esteem?

I hope this helped you guys to figure out something about you, you’ve never seen for yourself. All I need to tell you is, you are not low or high, you are just yourself what you think about more.

SELF LOVE IS THE BEST LOVE

Many people think that the concept of self-love is overdrawn and they ignore it. A lot of studies have shown that self-love is the key to mental wellbeing
Modern society is shaped in such a way that we are sort of bound to constantly compete against each other or even ourselves.Love is the only thing that keeps us going and makes us less robotic in a world. Everyone needs love and we spend most of our energy on loving others — be it friends, spouses, children or family.We cannot always expect to rely only on external sources for love and that is where the concept of self-love comes in. A person who practices self-love will never need to depend on others to be happy and it is an empowering feeling to be happy on the inside.

Self-love is not being selfish, it is just putting yourself first and not being too tough on yourself. So next time you hear that little voice in your head telling you that you are not good enough or that you cannot afford to make mistakes , just ignore it.When our loved ones make a mistake we often forgive them easily, but when we make a mistake we are often too hard on ourselves.

The first step of self-love is realising that we are only human and it is okay to make mistakes; it is okay to lose at times; it is okay to not have the best day.All we need to do is love ourselves and let the negative things pass through.Bad times will pass.

Self-love has many benefits.The first benefit is greater life satisfaction. When we love ourselves more we instantly change our perspective of the world. Self-love can give us a more positive attitude towards life.The second benefit of self-love is that it can encourage us to pick up good habits. Self-love means loving your body, soul, and mind. Therefore, people who love themselves often refrain from doing things that will have an impact.It helps us to develop good habits.

If you start loving your body and mind more than others you will be the most happiest person in the world.
Most important benefit of self-love is better mental health. People who love themselves are less likely to suffer from anxiety or depression; self-love takes us in the way where there is a positive mindset which is an essential ingredient for success in life and for mental wellbeing.Learning to love yourself also reduces stress and makes you more focused at work.Put yourself a little higher on your priority list; think highly of yourself as the world takes you at your own estimate.Consider yourself important too,love yourself as much as you love your friends and family.When your depressed or sad don’t be angry on yourself because you may like that same thing when you see that in a positive side.Happiness and self-love are interconnected; and we all deserve to be happy. Self-love is the key to happiness and a person who is happy is in a far better position to achieve success in every aspect of life.

Quest of self-love

Self-love involves holding a great value for your welfare and pleasure. Self-love suggests considering the care of your requirements and not surrendering your happiness to satisfy other people. Self-love also indicates not settling down for less than we deserve. self-love word indicates on its love for self. But we always wonder what does that means, It is also known as a state of gratitude for oneself. It comprises owing your inner and outer beauty, flaws, and appreciation. Self-love is not just about started feeling well for oneself but it is a much wider term. But we always get confused about its real meaning. Does it only include love for oneself or in self-love everything and everyone is being included? During loving yourself you started having empathy, sympathy for yourself. It’s not including chasing some emotional and physical high. Self-love is that thing which we all should try to build in ourselves. Yes, it won’t come overnight it sometimes takes months to months and years of years.

SELF-LOVE

Do you wonder that why self-love is important?” Many of us ask this question, for several reasons, we take this as for granted then a necessity. Ironically, self-care might be required several by those of us that serve extremely strong and who are continually attempting to transcend us and apprehend the shape-shifting vision of fulfillment.

It’s necessary to go easy sometimes with self-love and to forgive ourselves in case of some unusual event or about something that we are feeling guilty of. It sometimes gets challenging for us to recognize ourselves and to change some habits that are built in our system. when we face hard times and facing difficulties, it becomes a daunting task to start practicing self-love. But we shouldn’t forget that we all are special and unique from one another. It’s never late to start something new so get prepare yourself and give a promise that you are going to give your fullest to start your journey of self-love. Inhale and exhale and huge tightly and follows some basic steps to reach your journey

Clear all the negative thoughts and emotions which preventing you to achieve your goal, detoxify your mind and soul by taking deep breaths, and by focusing on nothing.
Try to find something about which you can feel gratitude and during those bad days and difficult times find one thing to show some gratitude.
Treat others with kindness and respect even when you are not in a good mood and when nothing is going well.
Try to go in a quest of finding a passion for something, that one thing, which directs your soul to work on every day, day in and day out.
In your busy schedule find some mean time to meditate and listen to some calming music to relax your mind.
Self-love is a lifetime mastering skill, it will evolve slowly by slowly so be patient and persistent because this is the key.
Just embrace and love what makes you different from others, remember god makes us.

‘With the Photographer’ by Stephen Leacock.

“Is it me?”, I asked.

Have you had an instance where you had wondered if the person in the picture is you? Has your photo been photoshopped to the point where it departs from resemblance to you? If so, the quote will be relatable.

Stephen Leacock, a Canadian writer, is best known for his humor. Through his light-hearted and humorous writings, he brings out the follies in people. His essay ‘With the Photographer’, as the title suggests, gives an encounter between the narrator and a photographer. The narrator enters the studio and takes his seat. The photographer remarks on the narrator’s face and how he doesn’t like it.

“The face is quite wrong,” he said.
“I know,” I answered quietly, ”I have always known it.”

The photographer further instructs on how to pose and this forms a funny narrative in the essay. This also reminds us how we are often told by the photographers when we go to the studio. The photographer keeps stressing on the narrator’s face which makes him angry. Unable to withstand such remarks, the narrator utters these words.

“Stop,” I said with emotion but, I think, with dignity. “The face is my face. It is not yours, it is mine. I’ve lived with it for forty years and I know its faults, I know it is out of drawing. I know it wasn’t made for me, but it’s my face, the only one I have–”…”such as it is, I’ve learned to love it.”

The passage also makes us think about ourselves. Instead of resenting ourselves for not reaching the so-called beauty standards, we should learn to accept and love ourselves for who we are. We may not be beautiful but there is no fault in it. It is no mistake. Learning to love ourselves is the first step to a happy life.

Not heeding to his words, the photographer takes a picture of the narrator when he was speaking. The photographer asks the narrator to come again on Saturday to get the picture. When the narrator visits the studio on Saturday, he is bewildered at the photograph of him. The photo no longer looks like him and the reason is because the photographer had retouched it. This ‘retouch’ can be considered as a photoshop of that age. He had used chemicals like Delphide and Sulphide to ‘retouch’ the picture. The photographer is proud of the changes he made in the photograph and how he made the ugly features of the narrator look good. This only angers the narrator.

“Listen! I came here for a photograph – a picture – something which would have looked like me. I wanted something that would depict my face as Heavens gave it to me, humble though the gift may have been. I wanted something that my friends might keep after my death, to reconcile them to my loss. It seems that I was mistaken. What I wanted is no longer done. …”

Spilling these words, the narrator leaves the studio with tears. Though the essay seems funny, it leaves a room for profound discussion.

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