COMFORT ZONE- FRIEND OR ENEMY

The comfort zone is a psychological state in which one feels familiar, safe, calm and secure.

– Roy T. Benett

“A comfort zone is a beautiful place but nothing ever grows here.”

Comfort zone as a friend ~

If something makes us feel safer, it could be our friend. This statement supports comfort zone to be our closest friend. And yes, it is our friend let’s see how.

• Drawing an experience

If you perform a task multiple times, you become master of it, so is the case of comfort zone. You are expert at it. You are experienced and well known to how things will work out , it is your arena where you know where are loopholes and how to make cover ups. Working in your comfort zone gives you experience.

• Confidence building

You become self assured with things around you, and that makes you more confidence. They feeling of being familiar, to the situations avoid all kind of nervousness and risk.

• Minimizing risk

Being in your comfort zone decreases chances of risk. We like to be in our ‘restricted zone’ because it is easier for us. Hence, chances of failure reduces. Less failure, more your performance will be maintained. Also it provides an equilibrium as well as stability in our field.

• Learn about yourself

Working with your comfort zone , you are aware of your strengths and how to use it. It also gives you platform where you are calm and comfortable knowing about yourself.

Comfort zone as an enemy ~

“Life begins at the end of comfort zone.”

• Death of curiosity

“Curiosity is the fuel of adventure, injury and learning.

Curiosity is what makes us human , ‘the eagerness to know’. Without being curious we cannot learn and discover. In every field questioning is more important than answers, good questions comes from great minds. Being in your comfort zone and not having eagerness demise all your opportunities to discover.

• No risk, no rewards

Insecurity loves to feed on your habit of not trying.

Whenever we try something new, there is always risk of failure , but if we not try we’ll never be able to know about our extends. For winning an unknown battlefield, we should have courage to take risk and to come out as a winner. (Reminder : if you lose, you still have learned). Coming out from your comfort zone will bring you to a position where miracles happen in form of learning something new i.e; rewards.

• Boundaries raised before growth

” To the degree we are not living our dreams, our comfort zone has more control of us than we have ourselves. ” ~ Peter McWilliams

Comfort zone limits our growth, if we don’t grow we will be in the same position in which we were 10 years back and also going to be in the same position in next 10 years. It’s like being stagnant which provides no place for flexibility and rising. If something scares you the most, don’t hesitate to give it a try. It’s is good to be in uncomfortable situations because it is finding our way out of such difficulties that we learn valuable lessons.

• No new skills

“It’s not about getting out of our comfort zone, to reach out our goals. It’s about widening our comfort zone so far that our goals fits comfortably inside. ” ~ Richie Nortan

Learning new skills, let us know more about ourselves. Every new skill we learn help us live our life better and also leave space for growth, stretching your comfort zone, opens door for all new opportunities and victories. Skill helps in throughout growth of a personality. If something is holding you back , you need to push up to learn.

By Esha Singh Sisodiya

Live beyond your comfort zone 🙂

SELF-CONFIDENCE

Self-confidence is a combination of a state of mind and a strong feeling of self-belief which is commonly used when one needs self-assurance especially in one’s personal judgment,power, ability. It is that voice which comes from your inside and gives you a boost to do something which fears you.Not everyone is born with an inbuilt sense of self-confidence. Sometimes it can be hard to develop confidence, either because personal experiences have caused you to lose confidence or because you suffer from low self-esteem.Self-confidence, then, is similar to self-efficacy in that it tends to focus on the individual’s future performance; however, it seems to be based on prior performance, and so in a sense, it also focuses on the past.

A confident person:
does what they believe is right, even if it’s unpopular
is willing to take risks
admits their mistakes and learns from them
is able to accept a compliment
is optimistic.
There are a number of things you can do to build your confidence. Some of them are just small changes to your frame of mind; others you’ll have to work on for a bit longer to make them familiar habits.
Look at what you’ve already achieved:
It’s easy to lose confidence if you believe you haven’t achieved anything. Make a list of all the things you’re proud of in your life, whether it’s getting a good mark on an exam or learning to surf. Keep the list close by and add to it whenever you do something you’re proud of. When you’re low in confidence, pull out the list and use it to remind yourself of all the awesome stuff you’ve done.
Think of things you’re good at:
Everyone has strengths and talents. Recognising what you’re good at, and trying to build on those things, will help you to build confidence in your own abilities
Set some goals:
Set some goals and set out the steps you need to take to achieve them. They don’t have to be big goals; they can even be things like baking a cake or planning a night out with friends. Just aim for some small achievements that you can tick off a list to help you gain confidence in your ability to get stuff done.
Talk yourself up:
You’re never going to feel confident if you have negative commentary running through your mind telling you that you’re no good. Think about your self-talk and how that might be affecting your self-confidence. Treat yourself like you would your best friend and cheer yourself on.
Get a hobby:
Try to find something that you’re really passionate about. It could be photography, sport, knitting or anything else! When you’ve worked out your passion, commit yourself to giving it a go. Chances are, if you’re interested or passionate about a certain activity, you’re more likely to be motivated and you’ll build skills more quickly.
Be honest with yourself about what you know and what you still need to learn
Practice doing the things you are unsure about
Embrace new opportunities to prove you can do difficult things

Good and Bad effects of competition in Life

Winner Winner Confidence booster!

Get set go!! What do you make of that? If you think its competition, you are absolutely right! In Today’s fast moving life,this phrase makes sense most of the time in every field. Yes, competition,the act of trying tobwin or gain something by defeating others, is the policy we bear in mind in completing any task how much ever minute it may be.

One of the main advantages of competition is, it provides purpose and firmness to the mind. It gives us an impetus to pursue our goal, despite the difficulties that comes along the way. Here, ego also plays a major part as losing means one is inferior to the other. This might help in increasing confidence level. If its a challenge, why not gain the pleasure by surmounting it?

Even for a trifle task, one thinks that he must be the first one to finish it, thereby forcing each one to give their level best into it, yielding a better result altogether. This trait can be observed in children too. They try to compete in any task given to them and feel very good about themselves once they finish it. This simple instance shows the infuence of competition.

Now-a-days, children are very witty, which increases the level of competition.With numerous opportunities and resources come greater competition. This can be observed in various competitive exams. The cut off marks are such that, by a point difference people lose.This induces more stress in people which might be positive or negative, depending on each individual and circumtances.

Competition provides the opportunity to select the best among the bests. It is the best way to analyze ourselves and keep a track of where we stand among our peers. It also gives us chance to improve ourselves and achieve better when the next opportunity knocks our doors.

The monthly or annual exams students face is a trailor to the future competitions we might encounter. Many children as well as adults bear the opinion that exams are unnecessary and irrelevant. On the contrary, without a definite reason, it is highly unlikely that people learn what is to be learnt.

The importance of competition is such that we must always engage in improving ourselves to be on par with the bustling world. Only when we compare and compete with people, our areas of strength and weakness is revealed to us. This is help in finding direction to move forward in life.

Coming to the disadvantages, it depends on one’s mentality and view point. If one is pessimistic, the idea of competition might be discouraging to him. Whereas, if he is optimistic and ready to take on challenges, it might actually help in pushing oneself to improvise on all levels. The reality stands that competition is everywhere. One can either moan about or make the best out of it.

In conclusion, one musy always try to have healty competition in mind. Especially in this competitive world, competition is a must and the one conpeting with full determination will be the winner of the competition called life.

Quest of self-love

Self-love involves holding a great value for your welfare and pleasure. Self-love suggests considering the care of your requirements and not surrendering your happiness to satisfy other people. Self-love also indicates not settling down for less than we deserve. self-love word indicates on its love for self. But we always wonder what does that means, It is also known as a state of gratitude for oneself. It comprises owing your inner and outer beauty, flaws, and appreciation. Self-love is not just about started feeling well for oneself but it is a much wider term. But we always get confused about its real meaning. Does it only include love for oneself or in self-love everything and everyone is being included? During loving yourself you started having empathy, sympathy for yourself. It’s not including chasing some emotional and physical high. Self-love is that thing which we all should try to build in ourselves. Yes, it won’t come overnight it sometimes takes months to months and years of years.

SELF-LOVE

Do you wonder that why self-love is important?” Many of us ask this question,  for several reasons, we take this as for granted then a necessity. Ironically, self-care might be required several by those of us that serve extremely strong and who are continually attempting to transcend us and apprehend the shape-shifting vision of fulfillment.

It’s necessary to go easy sometimes with self-love and to forgive ourselves in case of some unusual event or about something that we are feeling guilty of. It sometimes gets challenging for us to recognize ourselves and to change some habits that are built in our system. when we face hard times and facing difficulties, it becomes a daunting task to start practicing self-love. But we shouldn’t forget that we all are special and unique from one another. It’s never late to start something new so get prepare yourself and give a promise that you are going to give your fullest to start your journey of self-love. Inhale and exhale and huge tightly and follows some basic steps to reach your journey

  1. Clear all the negative thoughts and emotions which preventing you to achieve your goal, detoxify your mind and soul by taking deep breaths, and by focusing on nothing.
  2. Try to find something about which you can feel gratitude and during those bad days and difficult times find one thing to show some gratitude.
  3. Treat others with kindness and respect even when you are not in a good mood and when nothing is going well.
  4. Try to go in a quest of finding a passion for something, that one thing, which directs your soul to work on every day, day in and day out.
  5. In your busy schedule find some mean time to meditate and listen to some calming music to relax your mind.
  6. Self-love is a lifetime mastering skill, it will evolve slowly by slowly so be patient and persistent because this is the key.
  7. Just embrace and love what makes you different from others, remember god makes us.

‘Still I Rise’ by Maya Angelou

When we aren’t confident about ourselves, we definitely can’t win anything in our life. Are you scorned, oppressed, and belittled? Want a little bit of confidence boost? Then the poem ‘Still I Rise’ by Maya Angelou is for you. 

People may picture you however they want. They may lie about you, spread rumors, and pull you down to gutters but you should never give in to such slanders. Even if they make you look dirty, like a dust which never settles down, you ought to rise. 

You may trod me in the very dirt

But still, like dust, I’ll rise.

People, who talk ill about you, do so because they are blinded by petty emotions like jealousy and insecurity. They may not like you when you differ from the crowd and when you are being yourself while they cannot. You may find your happiness in small things and this might irritate them. So, they might try to bring down your confidence, even then you must rise. 

Why are you beset with gloom?

’Cause I walk like I’ve got oil wells

Pumping in my living room.

And, when you rise, rise like the sun or the moon, which rises everyday without fail with its fullest radiance. Like the tides which hit the shore with certainty and hope which springs higher in the darkest times, you too should rise. You know why you should rise? Simply because everyone is watching. They want to see you broken, shoulders fallen, heads down, kneeling and desperately crying at misfortunes. So, rise beyond expectations.

They may label you haughty when you differ and might be offended when you laugh happily. Even though they slander you, belittle, treat you indifferently and hatefully, you must rise like air which sees no confines. 

You may shoot me with your words,

You may cut me with your eyes,

You may kill me with your hatefulness,

But still, like air, I’ll rise.

They will be jealous and afraid of you rising, and so they will try to pull you down. But you must rise. People oppress others based on economic conditions, race, ancestry, and color. Even then you must rise. 

Out of the huts of history’s shame

I rise

Up from a past that’s rooted in pain

I rise

I’m a black ocean, leaping and wide,

Welling and swelling I bear in the tide.

The poetess was strongly fighting against the oppression of black people and women. People of her race were ill treated and subjugated. She, the black ocean, is resolute to send tides of opposition against such oppressions. Though she had suffered and lived painfully, she will march into daybreak, proud of her identity that her ancestors had given her, and will rise and rise and rise. 

Leaving behind nights of terror and fear

I rise

Into a daybreak that’s wondrously clear

I rise

Bringing the gifts that my ancestors gave,

I am the dream and the hope of the slave.

I rise

I rise

I rise.

Hence, never let yourself be held back by restraints and limitations. You are you and be confident about yourself. If you do so, you shall also rise.