Don’t know what to gift your bookish friend?

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“Books are uniquely portable magic.”

Special occasions are named special as it means something to us, makes us happy, and feel blessed. On such special occasions, we gift our close ones to show our love. Who doesn’t love gifts!?

“There are exactly as many special occasions in life as we choose to celebrate.”

Gifts make us burst in joy. When gifted we feel important, valued, remembered and happy. It strengthens the bond between people. Here is a list of items that can make a bookworm the happiest

  • Books! Of course, you can gift books any day, anytime. Books are the top best gift for booklovers. You must know their favourite genre, author and their book collection. If not, I have a backup plan. You can gift them the below items.
  • MUGS AND CUPS
GLASS MASON JAR.

Mason jars can be used for domestic purposes too. They are used to drink hot water, juices, smoothies, and milkshakes. If you feel the toxic elements in plastics are dangerous in the long run, you can choose mason jars.

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COFFEE MUG

Most readers love to have a hot beverage while reading. There are super cute, adorable mugs on various platforms. Mugs are affordable and often used.

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  • KINDLE
AMAZON KINDLE

I have posted an article about kindles, do check it out for more information. You can gift them either a kindle device or pay for a kindle unlimited subscription. Kindles are a travel-friendly e-reader.

ARTICLE ABOUT KINDLE

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  • STATIONERY PRODUCTS
ECO-FRIENDLY STATIONERY

The pencils are made of recycled paper. They are special as it contains seed to plant. The notepad is made of handmade paper. We can bring a smile to their face and protect our environment.

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  • BOOKSHELF
BOOKSHELF

As per your friend’s book collection, you can get them a bookshelf. They are spacious and large. Most of the book lovers dreams are to get a huge bookshelf and turn our home into a library.

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  • BOOK SLEEVE
BOOKSLEEVE

While travelling readers use to carry books with them. Just in case, we need an escape from reality. Book sleeves are used to avoid book damages. They protect the book’s edges from creasing. Book sleeves have pretty prints on them which makes them look elegant. Some sleeves are made of gorgeous printed cloths.

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BOOK SLEEVE BY READINGOWLCREATION (IG)

CLOTH BOOK SLEEVES

  • BOOK STAMP
STAMPSTUDIO.CO (IG)

Why not make our books personalized? Book stamps are the best way to personalise books. They can be customised, affordable and adorable. Stamp studio. co is one of the Instagram pages which sells customizable stamps.

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  • CANDLES
CANDLES FROM CANDLESINDIA.IN

On Instagram, we can find plenty of pages that sell candles. One such page is Candlesindia.in, they are organic and exquisite.

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  • POSTERS
RADHOUSE POSTERS (IG)

How many of us have read a book just for the cover? There are stunning covers of books a reader would like to keep close. These cute little posters can be a great decor piece. Rad house posters is an Instagram page that helps us decorate our dream reading corner by selling these posters. They are customizable!

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Now, go get your reader-friend a cute gift for their special days. I believe then they would love you a little extra. Let me know in the comments you’re favourite bookish merchandise.

Disclaimer – Picture credits go to the respective owners.

Source – Amazon and Instagram.

Thank you!

Friends meaning

WHAT IS FRIENDSHIP?

The defining characteristic of friendship is a preference for a particular person. However, different people may have distinct definitions of and requirements for friendship. For example, very young children may refer to someone as their “best friend” two minutes after meeting, while very shy people or individuals from reserved cultures may report having only a handful of friends during their entire lives.

There’s no absolute definition of what does or does not constitute a friendship. However, some common traits of friendship include:

  • Some degree of commitment, both to the friendship and to the other person’s well-being.
  • A desire for “regular” contact with the other person. “Regular” contact could occur once every two days or once every two years.
  • Mutual trust, concern, and compassion.
  • Shared interests, opinions, beliefs, or hobbies.
  • Shared knowledge about one another’s lives, emotions, fears, or interests.
  • Feelings of love, respect, admiration, or appreciation.

Anthropologist Robin Dunbar theorized there was a limit to how many friendships an individual can have. In general, most humans have up to 150 friends, 50 good friends, 15 close friends, and 5 intimate friends. These numbers have shown to be consistent across time, from hunter-gather societies to the age of social media.

FRIENDSHIP AND GENDER

Culture strongly affects people’s understanding of friendship. In the United States and many other industrialized wealthy nations, women tend to have more friendships than men and to invest more energy in those friendships. Romantic relationships are, for many men, a sole or primary source of friendship. So as children grow into adolescents and adolescents become adults, boys may have fewer and fewer friendships.

Cultural norms suggest that women are “better” at friendship, more communicative, or more in need of intimacy from friends. This can create a self-fulfilling prophecy in which women are more likely to have friends. Women also spend more time investing in their friendships. A man might only talk to his closest friend once every few months, while on average, women in the U.S. tend to talk longer and more frequently to their friends.

Among people in long-term relationships, women tend to do more work to sustain friendships and other close relationships. This might include sending Christmas cards, remembering birthdays, making phone calls, and updating friends on major life events.

Researchers are increasingly sounding alarm bells about an epidemic of loneliness. Loneliness can shorten a person’s life and erode their health. It may even pose greater public health risks than smoking. This suggests that gender norms about friendships may actually harm men’s health. As marriage rates decline, men without friendships may feel progressively more isolated.

Gender may also affect whom one chooses as a friend. A 2018 study found that gender discrimination can decrease the likelihood that a person will form friendships with members of a different gender. Cross-gender friendships can foster empathy, break down gender barriers, and undermine gender stereotypes. Gender norms that undermine these friendships may therefore perpetuate gender stereotypes and misogyny.

FRIENDSHIP ACROSS A LIFESPAN

Lifelong friendships can be immensely rewarding. People may draw inspiration from talking to those who knew them when they were young. Lifelong friends connect people to their history, offer insight on how a person has changed and evolved, and are often deeply connected to one another’s families. These friendships offer a sense of permanency and consistency that can be deeply reassuring at times of ambivalence, loss, or anxiety.

Sustaining a friendship across a lifespan, however, can be difficult. People’s interests and lifestyles change as they age. In childhood, a friendship might be based upon geographic closeness or a single shared interest. So a move or a change of interests can affect even long-term friendships.

Some barriers to sustaining lifelong friendships include:

  • Changes in lifestyle. For example, if one friend has a child and a marriage and the other does not, the two may struggle to relate to one another.
  • Geographic distance. Childhood friends often walk next door or hitch a ride from a parent to see one another. When time together requires a plane or long car ride, the friendship is harder to nurture.
  • Time constraints. People’s lives tend to become more demanding as they get married, have children, become caregivers for aging parents, embark on challenging careers, and accrue more financial obligations. Finding time for friends can be difficult in adulthood, especially when friends have very different lifestyles or do not live near one another.
  • Cultural values surrounding friendship. In the U.S. and in many other countries, romantic relationships are treated as the primary and most important relationship. This can cause some people to value their friendships less as they enter adult romantic relationships.
  • Shifting understandings of friendship. There’s no “right” way to have a friendship. One of the challenges of sustaining a friendship is finding a shared understanding of what the friendship should look like—how frequently to talk, what to talk about, how openly to discuss disagreements, etc. As childhood friends grow up, their desires for their friendships may change. This can leave one friend feeling like the friendship doesn’t offer enough, while the other friend feels the friendship demands too much.

‘The Sleep’ by Elizabeth Barrett Browning.

Have you ever appreciated your ability to sleep? Now, you will wonder if being able to sleep is something to be praised. Yes, give yourself an applause for you have been given the best gift ever and you will have to cherish this gift. The poem ‘The Sleep’ by Elizabeth Barrett Browning brings out the importance of sleep and why it is to be cherished.

Of everything we have known about God from psalms and hymns, the poet asks if there is any gift which surpasses His gift – the sleep. As humans, what can we give to our loved ones? We can give the hero’s courage and determined heart to confront all the troubles; we can give them a poet’s lyrical verse to move them to ecstasy; we can give them a patriot’s voice to guide them through hurdles and motivate them; we can give them a ruler’s consolation to ease their burdens. But of everything we can give them, there is nothing that will surpass God’s gift to His beloved – the Sleep. 

“He giveth His beloved, sleep”

Sometimes we give our beloved words of consolation and sometimes we add to their difficulties, making their whole world burdened. But God’s gift – Sleep – puts an end to all such sufferings. No matter what words of consolation we say, we can’t solve the problems of our beloved. When things get hard and we have no words of consolation, all we can say to our beloved is to sleep.

“ ‘Sleep soft, beloved!’ we sometimes say,”

We say so, hoping that no bitter memories of hardships shall disturb their ‘happy slumber’. When we sleep, we forget our bad experiences and experience eternal peace. So, this peace gives us hope and when we wake up the next morning, we are prepared for the day. Now is there any gift which surpasses sleep?

Our earth is full of dreary noises and wailing voices of despair. We chase after money, wealth and other material prospects which might leave us anytime. So, God silences these wailings by putting everyone to sleep. God has created this earth and all natural elements and we humans sow and reap. Thus, Sleep is more delicate than the dew drops and clouds. It makes us feel as if we are on a delightful journey and makes us feel lighter.

We go on living, thinking, and feeling without even realizing what keeps us going everyday. It is the sleep which keeps us going everyday. When we sleep, we forget the hardships of today, and hope for a better tomorrow.

“Aye, men may wonder while they scan  

A living, thinking, feeling man  

Confirmed in such a rest to keep;”

Our world is a stage and we are like a tired child watching the performance of the mummers on the stage. So when our eyelids droop, we rest like a child on God’s lap. So, no matter how exhausted we are, it is the sleep which rejuvenates us at the end of the day.

The last stanza ends with the poet asking her friends not to mourn or weep when she dies, for she is just going to an eternal sleep and a state of peace after all. 

“Let One, most loving of you all,  

Say, ‘Not a tear must o’er her fall;  

He giveth His beloved, sleep.’“

The poem makes us understand how blessed we are to be able to sleep. We should no longer take our sleep for granted. Sleep improves both our mental and physical health. So, sleeping is the best thing ever. Finally, think if there is a greater gift than sleep.

“He giveth His beloved, sleep.”

Read the poem at https://poets.org/poem/sleep