Friends meaning

WHAT IS FRIENDSHIP?

The defining characteristic of friendship is a preference for a particular person. However, different people may have distinct definitions of and requirements for friendship. For example, very young children may refer to someone as their “best friend” two minutes after meeting, while very shy people or individuals from reserved cultures may report having only a handful of friends during their entire lives.

There’s no absolute definition of what does or does not constitute a friendship. However, some common traits of friendship include:

  • Some degree of commitment, both to the friendship and to the other person’s well-being.
  • A desire for “regular” contact with the other person. “Regular” contact could occur once every two days or once every two years.
  • Mutual trust, concern, and compassion.
  • Shared interests, opinions, beliefs, or hobbies.
  • Shared knowledge about one another’s lives, emotions, fears, or interests.
  • Feelings of love, respect, admiration, or appreciation.

Anthropologist Robin Dunbar theorized there was a limit to how many friendships an individual can have. In general, most humans have up to 150 friends, 50 good friends, 15 close friends, and 5 intimate friends. These numbers have shown to be consistent across time, from hunter-gather societies to the age of social media.

FRIENDSHIP AND GENDER

Culture strongly affects people’s understanding of friendship. In the United States and many other industrialized wealthy nations, women tend to have more friendships than men and to invest more energy in those friendships. Romantic relationships are, for many men, a sole or primary source of friendship. So as children grow into adolescents and adolescents become adults, boys may have fewer and fewer friendships.

Cultural norms suggest that women are “better” at friendship, more communicative, or more in need of intimacy from friends. This can create a self-fulfilling prophecy in which women are more likely to have friends. Women also spend more time investing in their friendships. A man might only talk to his closest friend once every few months, while on average, women in the U.S. tend to talk longer and more frequently to their friends.

Among people in long-term relationships, women tend to do more work to sustain friendships and other close relationships. This might include sending Christmas cards, remembering birthdays, making phone calls, and updating friends on major life events.

Researchers are increasingly sounding alarm bells about an epidemic of loneliness. Loneliness can shorten a person’s life and erode their health. It may even pose greater public health risks than smoking. This suggests that gender norms about friendships may actually harm men’s health. As marriage rates decline, men without friendships may feel progressively more isolated.

Gender may also affect whom one chooses as a friend. A 2018 study found that gender discrimination can decrease the likelihood that a person will form friendships with members of a different gender. Cross-gender friendships can foster empathy, break down gender barriers, and undermine gender stereotypes. Gender norms that undermine these friendships may therefore perpetuate gender stereotypes and misogyny.

FRIENDSHIP ACROSS A LIFESPAN

Lifelong friendships can be immensely rewarding. People may draw inspiration from talking to those who knew them when they were young. Lifelong friends connect people to their history, offer insight on how a person has changed and evolved, and are often deeply connected to one another’s families. These friendships offer a sense of permanency and consistency that can be deeply reassuring at times of ambivalence, loss, or anxiety.

Sustaining a friendship across a lifespan, however, can be difficult. People’s interests and lifestyles change as they age. In childhood, a friendship might be based upon geographic closeness or a single shared interest. So a move or a change of interests can affect even long-term friendships.

Some barriers to sustaining lifelong friendships include:

  • Changes in lifestyle. For example, if one friend has a child and a marriage and the other does not, the two may struggle to relate to one another.
  • Geographic distance. Childhood friends often walk next door or hitch a ride from a parent to see one another. When time together requires a plane or long car ride, the friendship is harder to nurture.
  • Time constraints. People’s lives tend to become more demanding as they get married, have children, become caregivers for aging parents, embark on challenging careers, and accrue more financial obligations. Finding time for friends can be difficult in adulthood, especially when friends have very different lifestyles or do not live near one another.
  • Cultural values surrounding friendship. In the U.S. and in many other countries, romantic relationships are treated as the primary and most important relationship. This can cause some people to value their friendships less as they enter adult romantic relationships.
  • Shifting understandings of friendship. There’s no “right” way to have a friendship. One of the challenges of sustaining a friendship is finding a shared understanding of what the friendship should look like—how frequently to talk, what to talk about, how openly to discuss disagreements, etc. As childhood friends grow up, their desires for their friendships may change. This can leave one friend feeling like the friendship doesn’t offer enough, while the other friend feels the friendship demands too much.

Importance of educating a girl child

In today’s competitive world educating a girl child should be our topmost priority. Girls can handle the tasks well in a calm manner and can come up with well-defined solutions. Educating a girl child will have a huge impact on society and the environment. There are lots of NGOs supporting in educating the girl child. It will help her in the future because women cannot depend on her man all the time. It will be bad for her self-respect. Having a job helps her to speak and make her own decisions in front of her family members.

In India, many girl children are getting married at a young age and working as slaves for their husband and his family. She is overworking, producing children without her consent, and working as a slave to her in-laws.  All these things happened because she is not educated enough to stand on her own and to give her points and decisions for herself. 

There are lots of advantages of educating a girl child. Educated girls come up with better solutions. If they get educated they can lead a healthy lifestyle. They are now looked at with dignity, honor, and self-respect in our society.  Now many governments and non-government organizations are providing funds for educating the girl child. Educated women are so bold and they won’t afraid to speak their views in front of others. 

Nowadays, there are separate internships for women. When women are applying for an internship in Internshala they can apply filters for Internships for women. It is an added advantage for women to find the right position and job. Girls play multiple roles in our life. Educating them increases the chances of helping our society. 

The main view of Indian parents is once a girl child is born they should be raised and once they reach their minimum age they should be married and sent off to another house where they have to take care of that family. This view should be changed because girls should also be considered as legal heirs of the family. Nowadays many boys are disowning their parents and sending them to old-age homes. But girls are taking care of their parents even after getting married. There are many girls in our society who left their marriages to take care of their parents. If parents think girl child will be of no use in future then they are the perfect cowards to our society. 

There is a famous quote that is Once a woman went for a date with men and the men rejected her because she is not gorgeous enough to date with. Later after some time, the girl rejected him for not studied well enough. See education has made her take the right decision and helped her to teach a good lesson to him. 

Many people think women are just produced to cook, take care of household activities. But they too have feelings and have the right to achieve their dreams. Everybody has dreams and we should support them to achieve them, not disown them. We as young generations should change the views of society. Make women achieve their dreams and come up with flying colors. 

If she is educated she can help her husband financially in the future if any need arises. If her husband dies, then she has to take care of that family. She can do this only if she is educated well enough. Otherwise all she is left with is to do some odd jobs.