Self care is not selfish thing

Often times, when we do something for ourselves, it is considered selfish. Growing up it is common to be taught to take care of other people and put others first. However, when it comes to our mental and emotional health, these types of actions of neglecting yourself to put others first can have huge consequences.

Self-care can be confusing and it can make you feel like you are putting too much attention on yourself. But remember, self-care never has and never will be selfish, especially when it comes to mental health.

In order to take care of other people, you must take care of yourself first. 

Why Self-Care is Important

Self-Care is one of the most important things that a person can do for themselves. It is not only vital for your physical health, but also your emotional and mental health as well.

There are many misconceptions around self-care and what exactly it entails. However, self-care is really not that complicated. At the most basic level,

self-care is just doing good things for yourself. This could be anything from working out, to taking an hour every night to journal, anything that makes you feel good.

Self-care requires you to know and understand yourself. You are forced to listen to your body and mind, understand what resources are running low and what you have to do to replenish them. 

There are many benefits that come with performing self-care. Some of them include increased productivity, improved resistance to illnesses & better physical health are just a few. These benefits are just the beginning.  Some of the other, more personal benefits are, enhanced self-esteem, increased self-knowledge, and most importantly, you have more to give to other people.

When you are mindful about reguarily carving out time for yourself and making sure that your physical, emotional, and mental needs are being met, you will feel better in all aspects of your life.

This makes it easier for you to work with and help others in their time of need. Just like when you are on an airplane, you have to take care of yourself before you can help anyone else. 

Stigma Around Self-Care

Self-care can be hard, not only because of the stigma that surrounds it, but because it can be extremely difficult to admit that you need help or to take care of yourself when you are struggling with your own mental health.

Growing up, it is extremely common to hear that you should put others before yourself. Kids are taught that being too vain or thinking about yourself is selfish. When you take time to take care of yourself, friends and family may start to get frustrated or say that you need to spend more time thinking about others and spending time with them.

Read also: We need support, not stigma. How do we end the stigma around mental illness and start talking about it?

However, the worst stigma, is self-stigma. The voice in your head that tells you to stop focusing on yourself, saying that you don’t deserve the time or attention that you are giving yourself.

You start to think about all of the things that you are neglecting and the people who deserve your attention more. However, this self-stigma, and any outside stigma, is far from true.

By taking care of yourself you are making sure that you will be able to help and encourage others.  

How you can Take Care of Yourself 

Self-care can be difficult because of the stigma that comes with it. However, understanding how, and being able to take care of yourself is one of the strongest things that you can do.

It is also important to distinguish between the things that actually make you feel good and things that you think make you feel good, but often have the reverse effect, like drugs & alcohol, over-eating, and taking risks. 

There are many different types of self-care; the most well-known is physical self-care. When people say that they are trying to take care of themselves this is often what they mean.

Physical self-care can be helpful not only for your physical health but also to help you let off steam. This doesn’t have to be going to the gym, it can also mean dancing around the house to your favorite song, doing yoga, or going outside and going for a walk. This could also be taking a nap when you need some extra rest or giving yourself a break when you are down or unwell.

However, while physical health is important and this type of self-care can make a huge difference, it can also be harmful to your mental health if you focus on your physical self too much and too often. Working out and getting the ‘perfect’ body isn’t what self-care is all about.

It is vital to remember the other parts of yourself that need to be taken care of, make sure that you aren’t focusing on the outer-self to avoid taking care of your inner-self. 

Sensory self-care helps to calm the mind. This will help you to live in the moment, focus better, and let go of the past and forget your anxieties.

This type of self-care is all about sight, smell, touch, and sound. This could be considered sitting outside at the beach, enjoying the feeling of the water on your skin from a shower or a bath, or listening to calming music. Anything that helps you feel calm and relaxed. 

Job Evaluation

Job Evaluation is an important part of Human Resource Management. It is a comparative process. Job Evaluation is a formal and systematic way of determining the relative intrinsic value or worth of a job in relation to other jobs in an organisation. It is a process which is very helpful for framing compensation plans by the personnel manager. Job Evaluation begins with job analysis and ends at that point where the worth of a job is ascertained for achieving pay equity between jobs and different roles. The objective of job evaluation is to determine which jobs should get more pay than others. Job Evaluation is usually based on compensation factors rather than on the employee which means that job evaluation is done for ranking of job and not the job holder. As job holders are rated through performance appraisal. Several methods such as job ranking, job grading and factor comparisons are employed in job evaluation. Job Evaluation forms the basis for wages and salary negotiation. The value or worth of the job varies from time to time and from place to place under the influence of certain economic pressure. Some of the features of job evaluation are it helps in building a base for salary negotiation, it assesses the job and not the employee, Job Evaluation is done by a group of experts and not individuals, Job Evaluation is the output provided by job analysis, last but not the least it helps the management to maintain high level of productivity and satisfaction among employees which motivates them to work hard. The main point which must be understood is that job evaluation is about relationship and not absolutes it cannot be the sole determining factor for deciding pay structure. As there are many other external factors like labour market conditions and collective bargaining. The objectives of Job Evaluation are –

  • To help in measuring the “intrinsic” worth of the job. This is based on the degree of complexity of job content and requirements.
  • To provide a rational basis for equitable remuneration within an organisation.
  • To rank the job in order of importance like job duties and responsibilities.
  • It helps in providing framework for periodic of wage rates and its revision too.
  • It helps in providing a benchmark for career planning of the employees in the organisation.
  • To identify a ladder of progression for future movement to all employees interested in improving their compensation.
  • To develop a base for merit or pay for performance.

Job Evaluation as a process is advantageous and important to a company in many ways:-

  • Helps in Wage and Salary Fixation – Job Evaluation helps the management so that they can establish a rational and consistent wage and salary structure. It lays down the base or foundation for wage incentive plan.
  • Helps in Recruitment and Selection – Job Evaluation provides useful information for recruitment of new employees. It is also helpful at the time of selection of candidates as the factors which we have determined for job evaluation can be taken into consideration while selecting the employee. Likewise, promotion, transfer and so on can be made on a rational basis for different employees in the organisation.
  • Improves Labour-Management Relation – Job Evaluation helps in eliminating wage inequalities within the organisation. And thus it helps in bringing and maintaining harmonious relationship between Employee and Employer
  • Fair Distribution of Rewards – As each and every human likes to get rewarded same goes with employees. They should be rewarded fairly in relation to others in the organisation and it helps to ensure that rewards are allocated without any discrimination.
  • Helps in Analysis of Company – It acts as a valuable tools for the analysis of a company. As it helps in identifying that whether there is any gap or overlap in responsibility.

As we know Job Evaluation is a very important part of Human Resource Management as it determines the worth of the job in the organisation.