Ever thought why do we get attract to someone? Well everyone has different answer to it. For some it can be the way one look, smiled, walk or may be their was an unusual aura around that one.
What is attraction?
Attraction, especially in a romantic way, is a complex process that take place in our brains, and has had it’s roots since it’s beginning of the humankind. It’s our minds way of telling us who has the potential to be our partner, our friend, or even our soulmate, and is based on a complex blend of our interest, values, experience, and desire. Physical and romantic attraction, which are often focused on, are only small facets of a much larger equation.
Psychologist look at the ingredients of attraction is in a form of pyramid, split into 4 different sections.
The base of the pyramid is made up of health and status:-
- Status – 1. internal (confidence, self set, beliefs) 2. External (person’s job, possession and appearance.
- Health – Physical attributes, smell, basic level of intelligence.
If the potential partners passes these initial requirements then we move to the center of the pyramid, which are the emotional factors:- includes
- trust comfort someone wants,
- their emotions intelligence, and
- unique characteristics.
The final portion of the pyramid is “Logic”.This is the part that differentiate us from other animals, and is the part where our brains seriously
- considers whether we are totally compatible for that person.
- It ensure that the other person is aligned with us in term of what they want – things such as marriage, children, even the city they want to live.
According to this model, the more alignment there is, the more attraction there is, but it doesn’t always have to follow from bottom to top – like online dating.
What makes someone Attractive?
The answer to this questions make come to our mind is physical traits. Due to the influence of media, we tend to favor women who is younger, and more feminine features, in men on the other side, qualities such as broad shoulders, a deep voice, and strong jawline are highly upon.
Scientists suggest that, these also have an evolutionary origin because these traits are associated with a higher chance of producing health offspring and passing of good genes. Also, values, culture, and the environment, that we grow in also plays an important role.
Hence, attractiveness is complex, there’s a number of different perspective to consider, and at the end of the day, there’s very little we can choosing who we are attracted to. As each person looks for unique set of traits and, while physical traits are often focused there are far more factors that come into play. A person’s upbringing, behavior and even lifestyle have major influence. The most important thing to remember is to be happy and make the most of it.