Attraction

Ever thought why do we get attract to someone? Well everyone has different answer to it. For some it can be the way one look, smiled, walk or may be their was an unusual aura around that one.

What is attraction?

Attraction, especially in a romantic way, is a complex process that take place in our brains, and has had it’s roots since it’s beginning of the humankind. It’s our minds way of telling us who has the potential to be our partner, our friend, or even our soulmate, and is based on a complex blend of our interest, values, experience, and desire. Physical and romantic attraction, which are often focused on, are only small facets of a much larger equation.

Psychologist look at the ingredients of attraction is in a form of pyramid, split into 4 different sections.

The base of the pyramid is made up of health and status:-

  • Status – 1. internal (confidence, self set, beliefs) 2. External (person’s job, possession and appearance.
  • Health – Physical attributes, smell, basic level of intelligence.

If the potential partners passes these initial requirements then we move to the center of the pyramid, which are the emotional factors:- includes

  • trust comfort someone wants,
  • their emotions intelligence, and
  • unique characteristics.

The final portion of the pyramid is “Logic”.This is the part that differentiate us from other animals, and is the part where our brains seriously

  • considers whether we are totally compatible for that person.
  • It ensure that the other person is aligned with us in term of what they want – things such as marriage, children, even the city they want to live.

According to this model, the more alignment there is, the more attraction there is, but it doesn’t always have to follow from bottom to top – like online dating.

What makes someone Attractive?

The answer to this questions make come to our mind is physical traits. Due to the influence of media, we tend to favor women who is younger, and more feminine features, in men on the other side, qualities such as broad shoulders, a deep voice, and strong jawline are highly upon.

Scientists suggest that, these also have an evolutionary origin because these traits are associated with a higher chance of producing health offspring and passing of good genes. Also, values, culture, and the environment, that we grow in also plays an important role.

Hence, attractiveness is complex, there’s a number of different perspective to consider, and at the end of the day, there’s very little we can choosing who we are attracted to. As each person looks for unique set of traits and, while physical traits are often focused there are far more factors that come into play. A person’s upbringing, behavior and even lifestyle have major influence. The most important thing to remember is to be happy and make the most of it.

Can Life Be Perfect?

To start with, all of us battle all through life — some more than others. Indeed, even the one individual in the world who battles the most un-actually faces huge difficulties — a piercing battle — on the grounds that they’re a human. It truly isn’t simple being us… you!

Similarly evident, most people are equipped for living in delighted harmony and a characteristic high — feeling satisfied every second. That has been known since old occasions. Understanding this in some capacity, the vast majority of us long for the existence of which we can just dream.

Things being what they are, how would you get from one finish to the next, from the pain that accompanies being a human to the pinnacle life of which individuals are skilled? To help you start that excursion, we should start with this provocative inquiry: Can life be great?

The greater part of your masterminds will quickly shake your head and say, “obviously not. Nothing is great.” Or, “What does consummate even mean? It’s anything but quantifiable.”

Some of you more emotive perusers will say, “obviously, everything is simply amazing the manner in which it is.” You know, the “it’s all acceptable” people. (Obviously, frequently that is until it’s anything but.)

To respond to this significant inquiry, here are a couple of things you should know.

In the first place, individuals will in general compare ‘wonderful’ with ‘ideal.’ I believe they’re extraordinary. ‘Ideal’ to me implies that you have some biased vision. That you are envisioning an ideal, quintessential, cliché best life or thing. Those thoughts generally get embedded into us from our youth and mainstream society, despite the fact that — might I venture to say — we think they are our own.

Second, we are all — we all — customized to look for optimal life, the best mate, youngsters, guardians, adolescence, get-away, future, work, character, outfit for the gathering… you get the thought.

Do those things exist? No, really. They’re just ideal for you. A few things may approach: “Hello, I do look great” or “Amazing, my children are marvelous.” But this normally accompanies a: “indeed, however assuming just _ were a smidgen more… .”

More often than not life, mates, youngsters, guardians, adolescence, the future… .you, don’t approach your expectations and assumptions. We could all compose a book on ran expectations and assumptions. (That occurs, coincidentally, in any event, when things go “well” apparently. Consider the miserable existences of some rich and well-known individuals.)

All in all, there is no optimal anything. Nothing actually can meet the high bar your psyche can make. Which is the reason a large number of you would answer my inquiry with: “By no means, life can’t be great.” And as it were, you’d be correct.

Notwithstanding, ‘wonderful’ can mean something different. It can mean some inborn, worked-in quality that something has on the grounds that it exists. You can see this as the least demanding when you’re genuinely infatuated.

At the point when you’re enamored with an individual, spot or thing, like a child, a darling, or a house, that assists you with coming nearest to seeing its “flawlessness.” You love “your old house” not regardless of the way that it’s anything but current or enormous, but since you consider it to be as having appeal or warmth — possibly stacked with recollections. At the point when you’re enamored, you like the way that your darling has somebody include others wouldn’t track down all that engaging. To you, it makes the person in question “charming.” The child’s crapping and peeing is cute when you’re infatuated with it (a condition normally saved for grandparents).

Things being what they are, I ask you once more, can life be perfect?

Indeed, in case you’re in love with it! That is the way to euphoric harmony and a characteristic high. To feeling satisfied every second.

Love and Life

The greatest feeling in this earth is to love and to be loved

Somewhere between birth and death each one of us goes on a journey called life. No one knows when the journey ends. But all that we care while we live in this world is about what? Each one holds different dreams and goals to achieve. Every person in this world is unique in some or the other way. Life is unpredictable. I don’t know my life span. But I can do something that is worth in this lifetime. What is worth? Each one will have different answers but mine is to love the people who love me. Not everybody in this world can love you, because we live in a world where betrayal is the most common suffering many undergoes. “The beauty is unless and until it is done by your so called trust worthy it’s not called as betrayal”, there are people who suffer with heart breaks more than heart attacks. Love is something that can be built but cannot be broken, and if it’s broken then there is no love. Break up can never be in love but it can be in a relationship where there is no love. Sometimes everything seems to be imperfect and it feels like “When everything is fake why the pain alone is real”, but the thing is not everything is fake but the reality is that hurts us. What made you smile was unreal and what breaks you later is the reality. When there is true love and affection one dare not hurt you, but when the love fades they don’t care about how you feel. Life is only once and LIVE just don’t exist. “One can never hate love and one can never love hate” and none can oppose this. Give love to people as much as you can. May be that can save a billion people’s lives. Earn more love than any other thing in this world because tears are the final valuable gifts that every human being takes back. To hate a person is easy and to love a person is hard ’cause in love you should have trust and love. Love the very word is just simple which fails to be defined by words. It’s a feeling that can never be felt by the ones who don’t treasure it. Love with all your heart and you’ll get back your reward for it. All that people need is love and to be loved and that is the greatest comfort one can have in times of difficulties. Love yourself and love your loved ones too to lead a happy and peaceful life.

It’s a Marriage..!

There are a lot of people in this world who are definitely sure about the fact that they are going to walk the aisle once for sure in their life can be more too lol. But is this decision that important is there a need to marry! So if you ask me it is equally important as well as not so important and it’s totally dependent upon your personality, your mindset and your aspirations and your desires.

So let’s start with why is marriage an important part in anybody’s life. This thing is for certain that before you get married make sure that you have experienced everything there is to experience in this whole wide world which doesn’t happen most of the time. But Ladies and Gentlemen no worries you can always roam with your mio amore but make sure that you are ready to settle down to start something calm, stagnant and homely as marriage without these three sounds like a Banana. Find someone you love and then you can actually live a life worth living. As marriage is something which gives us a sense of sensibility and a pride to prejudice sorry Jane Austen this world ain’t made for your book. Jokes apart lets proceed to the fact that why is marriage so important and why it isn’t. So if you really find your soulmate or that person who maybe your soulmate is as usual definition goes and i quote as someone who accepts you for what you are and not for your bank balance or your job or your looks then no harm comes from getting married. But we can’t forget the gospel that not everybody is supposed to get soulmates, is the place where people actually do mistakes. According to me if you are not so attached with that whole scenario of walking the aisle then it’s best not to get married as when you put a piece of really expensive stone on your so called soul full relationship it may last and it may not and nowadays it’s the latter rather than the former. Never ever compromise your happiness, your personality and your mental stability and integrity for one idiotic or lost being , well I mean there are eight billion humans on planet earth for god sake you will find another one for sure but if you can help the idiotic ones please do help them. So live for yourself and love your family and if you get a chance do fall in love as that feeling to surrender yourself to a single person with body, mind and soul is something heavenly and it’s the creation god indeed.

then comes the mother of demons ‘Arrange marriages in India. If you think about it arrange marriage is one of the most flawed concepts which we possess as im gonna get married but my parents will decide the one for me. Well in a manner Indian parents act as it’s some kind of moral obligation they have towards their children but in reality it’s a really messed up thing Parents opening up accounts in matrimony sites is one of the most violating thing one can ever imagine. To all the parents out there if you are so into deciding your boy’s or girl’s partner take control of their dating sites Tinder and Grinder will accept you with open arms And most importantly know this that we don’t choose who we fall in love with and putting a name on it is your decision as such yours and yours only for now and for ever……….. Love is a weird thing as it makes ones life enough to seek Hadraniel and to ask him for refuge as he also stands defeated in the acts of love!