Hope for the best, but expect less

I’m not in this world to live up to your expectations and you’re not in this world to live up to mine. -Bruce Lee

A friend’s status update on a social media site: ‘Who hurt you? My own expectations.’

Yes, we all have expectations in our lives: what we want out of life and who we want to become. I believe one of the keys to happiness lies within the management of your expectations of people and circumstances. If you do not have expectations, you can never be disappointed. Often we tend to believe that the way we treat others will be the way we are treated in return. But, unfortunately, this does not always happen.

The biggest disappointments in our lives are often the result of misplaced expectations. This is especially true when it comes to our relationships and interactions with others. You need to make sure you enter into relationship with someone who has as big of a heart as you do. If you do not, you may feel as if you are being taken advantage of. You need to find people who appreciate what you do for them and who will reciprocate those actions.

There are two ways to be happy: improve your reality or lower your expectations. Having realistic expectations will allow you to accept the flaws each person has. We need to learn how to take responsibility for our own lives and our own decisions before we can expect others to do the same.

One of the biggest challenges we face in life is learning to accept people for who they truly are. Once you realize that your expectations cannot change people, the better off you will be. Give without expectation, accept without reservation, and love with hesitation. Unrealistic expectations most often do lead to disappointment. Too many people are obsessed with finding the perfect career or the perfect spouse, and as a result become increasingly frustrated when this does not happen in reality.

Expectation is the root of all heartache. Try to remain confident while maintaining positive aspirations; just remember not to make the aspirations so high that they are impractical or unreachable.

Acceptance is an amazing trait that needs to be actively worked toward. When things do not work out the way we had planned, it is much more beneficial to realize that is how life works rather than becoming frustrated at the situation. Have hope rather than expectations and you will tend not to be as disappointed.

People rarely behave exactly the way you want them to. Hope for the best, but expect less. And remember, the magnitude of your happiness will be directly proportional to your thoughts and how you choose to think about things. Even if a situation or relationship doesn’t work out at all, it’s still worth it, if it made you feel something new, taught you something afresh.

GENDER GAP

Difference between the way men and women are treated in society.

• Technology is merely a product of the social set up –
gender gap has percolated into technology.

• Global System for Mobile Communications (GSMA)
estimates, over 390 million women in low- and
middle-income countries do not have Internet access.

• In India, only 14.9% of women were reported to be
using the Internet – women don’t get access to digital devices.
 Health access denied.
 Education services denied.

• Technology are created by men and so made for men.

 There are about two million apps, most of which
cater to young men. The numbers of apps that
cater to women specific needs are not many.

• Need of adoption of feminist technology or fem-tech.

Feminist technology – An approach to technology and
innovation that is inclusive, informed and responsive
to the entire community with all its diversity.
 In the 1950s, dishwashers and washing machines
were promoted as a method of emancipating women.

• UN Women + ICT – initiatives like EQUAL, Girls in ICT.
 To rope more women into STEM.
 Aims at transforming the making process of tech inclusive.

• Women and girls are the largest consumer groups left out of technology -could be major profit drivers.

International Telecom Union

• United Nations specialized agency for information and
communication technologies – ICTs.

• Headquartered at Geneva, Switzerland.

• Originally founded in 1865 as International Telegraph
union.

• In 1947 – became International Telecommunication Union.

• Tried to mainly promote cooperation among international telegraphy networks of those days.

• Standardised the use of the Morse code.

• Regulated world’s first radio-communication and fixed telecommunication networks.

Functions

• allocate global radio spectrum.

• Allocate satellite orbits.

• Develops the technical standards that ensure networks and technologies seamlessly interconnect.

• To strive to improve access to ICTs to underserved communities.