How to gain more self knowledge

  1. Confrontation styles: We are having four kinds of styles when we confront others: passive, aggressive, passive-aggressive, or assertive. Our behavior depends on the situation we are in.

2. Criticism: We respond to criticism in a variety of ways, like denial, self-loathing, acceptance or positive transformation.

  • Vague Ambitions: We talk of helping others, or being creative, or changing the world. Admirable they may be, but the ambitions are vague because we don’t know ourselves.
  • Attitudes To Ambition: Most of us suffer from a problematic attitude towards success. Our thoughts move us towards inaction and doubt, leading to failure. Our attitude makes us apply conditions to our happiness(I will be happy when I have this), leading to misery.
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Self-knowledge makes us understand how we impact others, allowing us to adjust ourselves, being more interested in the other person rather than just ourselves.

Strangers are surprisingly good at guessing stuff about us, though we find it difficult to grasp. We don’t realize what information we give out to others, or how our behavior annoys them. They might find us hogging the limelight or only talking about our own struggles and experience, unable to be impressed by what others are doing.

  • How We Feel About Our Family: We all have complicated feelings towards our family members, and may have unconscious attitudes and biases that can play havoc. It can be guilt, envy or disloyalty.
  • Blame And Self-knowledge: We blame our parents for things that are clearly not their domain. They may not be perfect, but it doesn’t help to shift all responsibility to your guardians and be miserable or emotionally crippled your whole life.
  1. Self-knowledge can describe accurately how one is feeling, through introspection or self-inquiry.
  2. Knowing yourself also means being aware of your self-machinery, or how your mind operates and distorts the world around you.
  3. The primitive, part of our brain is interested in our survival and does not have the capacity for morality, empathy or being deeply insightful.
  4. The evolved, mature brain, the neocortex, which came much later, is sophisticated but is not as strong as the primitive brain.
  5. Our hopes, fears and desires belong to our reptilian minds and overpower us most of the time.

Developing a capacity to observe our basic instincts: The times when our minds are free from subjectivity, defensiveness and self-justification(like late at night when it is quiet), we get a glimpse of truth, a tiny moment of wisdom or insight about how we behave.

Developing a capacity to understand other people’s behavior: We normally react automatically, almost reflexively, to how others behave. Our natural reaction matches the primitive action we see in others. A better option is to understand the person’s primitive action as a sign of distress and hurt, rather than their being evil.

According to a Buddhist world-view, our anxieties and worries are not really important or purposeful but only seem so. Buddhist meditation wants our thoughts and anxieties to bother us less and tells us that these thoughts are nonsensical or meaningless.

Philosophical meditation does the same but does not tell us to empty our minds and discard the thoughts, as they are signals with complex clues that can help us develop ourselves.

  • Set aside 20 minutes on a daily basis and sit with a paper and pencil, asking yourself simple questions like: What am I regretful, anxious or excited about in the present moment?
  • Write down what comes to your mind immediately without censoring or thinking. Do it as unselfconsciously as you can.
  • As we practice this meditation, we help ourselves by understanding our internal conflicts, desires and problems, and find clear insights in the otherwise confusing set of chaos and floating thoughts. Problems don’t go away, but demystify themselves, becoming manageable.

We can get to know ourselves by conversing with others, but not how we think a conversation should be. The key to a great conversation is asking the right questions and then listening well.

Some examples: Think about what flaws of yours you want to be treated in a better way, or what compliments would you like to get; Ask about some incident they want to apologize for.

Be vulnerable, foolish and real. Talk your heart out!

Self analysis and Self knowledge

Self-knowledge is the ultimate knowledge, and to know yourself is to know the meaning of life. There are millions of things we could know about ourselves, ranging from anecdotal to emotional or psychological matters. There are certain key bits of self-knowledge that we think might benefit us, like our work talents, or a partner who would be compatible with us.

Self-knowledge provides us with a route to a happy and fulfilling life. A lack of self-knowledge makes our lives accidental.

  • LOVE

1. Choosing the right partner: We often look at a partner who is kind, attractive or fun to be with. We don’t consider our own neurotic, unbalanced or immature behavior, and how it would affect our partner.

2. Childhood patterns are repeated: Like the ‘bad boy’ syndrome, most of us repeat unhealthy patterns from our childhood unconsciously, going for people who will be miserable for us in ways that are familiar to us.

  • WORK

Without self-knowledge, we are vague about what we want to do with our lives. Money always tends to be an urgent need, and we rush towards jobs that lock us into cages for decades, and we start to believe we are good for nothing, or not cut out for bigger roles.

  • SPENDING MONEY UNWISELY

Without self-knowledge, we have hunches on what makes us happy: We wrongly calculate what our purchases, or impulse buys would make us feel. We travel to a certain place and feel disappointed. We buy the latest dress, hoping to look good, but are only surrendering to consumerism. Without knowing ourselves, we cannot spend money in a fulfilling way.

  1. The unconscious mind performs most of our tasks and even how we behave.
  2. Our mind is divided into three parts: the primitive the limbic(emotions and memories) and the neocortex (higher reasoning). We are mostly operating from the primitive or emotional parts of the brain, resulting in a lack of self-inquiry.
  3. There is a natural resistance to unravelling the unconscious into the conscious, as we do not tap into ourselves out of fear of knowing the truth.
  4. We are not given adequate feedback about our own identity by others, who dislike us or don’t want to hurt us. For example: Friends don’t want to sound impolite or upset us.
  5. We haven’t lived long enough to realize the importance of self-knowledge, and haven’t tried out stuff to know the difference through experience. Example: While choosing the right career, we are still in a trial-and-error mode, switching from one job to another.
  6. We are vague in our judgement, and are living life in binary mode, where things are either good or bad, black or white, sweet or sour.
  7. We aren’t introspecting enough, as we don’t know that we can self-analyse or opt for psychotherapy, unpackaging our thoughts.
  1. People with self-knowledge are less prone to blame their problem on others.
  2. They admit to the full extent of responsibility when things go wrong.
  3. They are less frustrated at work, even though they don’t have the perfect job.
  4. When problems arise, they don’t panic, as they are in control of the psychological fear, like humiliation, rejection or boredom.
  5. They are not envious, less stressful, and apologize as soon as a mistake is committed.
  6. They tend to be great conversationalists and they feel complete within themselves.

In the next article, we shall talk about how to gai more self knowledge!

Being Spiritual but not Religious (SBNR)

In India, millennials are ditching orthodox religions and embracing spirituality. There is a distinct movement towards spirituality, and it is led by the young crowd.

SBNRs don’t look at old books or doctrines for guidance, but look within themselves. They connect with their true self and find the answers inside.

Religious Authorities predictably denounce self-spirituality, and provide their reasons. They say this leads to narcissism, hedonism, or both, but in reality, they are terrified that people are allowed to choose not to follow any religion, and eventually will not participate in hating other religions as a side-effect.

The term spirituality has one of two connotations: One is a classic religious one; the other is inspired by New Age Culture. Both categories embody spirituality better than cold, hard reason.
In a broad sense, both categories seem to move away from a world of science and reason.

  • True spirituality is defined by the skepticism of both today’s religions and today’s science. Spirituality is individualistic, and the opposite of dogmatism.
  • True rationality is open-ended and skeptical about itself even if it does its best, understanding that it is not possible to know everything.

Self spirituality has its roots in the 1960s counterculture and the ‘Rights Revolution, and focuses on individual rights, where there is no one size fits all rules.

They feel complete within themselves and have no inclination towards joining any religious institution which has specific rules, as for them it is just another cult full of greed, corruption and fear-mongering.

Humanity is sacralized in Self-spirituality, which automatically makes it an obvious choice for the millennials and youngsters already fed up with how the world works.

This also makes them make sustainable choices like recycling and veganism. While the old-school conservatives label these human-centric feelings as lacklustre, many of the liberals celebrate the individual freedom it provides.

  1. People that believe there is more to the world than meets the eye, more than the mere material.
  2. People that attend to their inner life (their mental and emotional states) in the hopes of gaining self-knowledge.
  3. People that value the following virtues: being compassionate, empathetic and open-hearted.

Spirituality is a framework for understanding the world. It enables people to make sense of that which, for them, science and religion fail to address: religion because it’s outdated and out of touch with scientific progress, science because it’s incapable to answer some of life’s most crucial questions (of purpose, meaning and value).

The Dalai Lama once joked: “While the West was busy exploring outer space, the East was busy exploring inner space”.
Regardless of the veracity of this, it does seem that for contemporary western societies, silence and stillness are an exception, not the rule.

It means acting wisely in the world by first reaching a high level of self-knowledge.
This is acquired through meditation, self-reflection, and psychotherapy and leads one to become more sensitive to the emotions of others, and even to one’s surrounding environments.

The fear of Failure and Procrastination

We usually procrastinate instead of being productive due to various reasons like having fun being distracted (like playing video games) or just lounging around as the task is too easy (or too difficult).

We start with a big, audacious goal and quickly realize that it is not feasible. Our lack of expertise is also a perfect excuse to slack around, as we fail to break down the task into smaller ones or take the first step.

There is a denial of procrastination, where we are telling ourselves that we are working as we should and there is no problem at all. The valid justifications we make to cover the problem or delay is essentially an excuse.

We make excuses as it is a valid cover to protect our self interest, and we often blame other people and circumstances to cover our own failure. If we could simply stop making excuses and start calling a spade a spade, we would learn a lot from our own behavior.

Recent studies on procrastination seems to suggest that the fear of failure could be a core reason for postponing tasks, as it is hard to:

  1. Amend mistakes.
  2. Lack of expected progress even with the effort being put.
  3. A wasted day having a spillover effect on the next day.
  4. Lack of practice.
  5. Lack of trying again.

We need to detect patterns in our behavior and recognize the cause of any hidden or camouflaged fear.

One can diminish the value of an achievement so that non-accomplishment isn’t a big issue.

One also falls into a self-fulfilling prophecy, that if one isn’t interested in doing a task, that task must not be interesting or important enough in the first place. This leads us to switch our goals, leading to excuses and missed opportunities.

  • We mistakenly think that if something feels difficult and out of our comfort zone, then it is not ‘us’, paving the way for resistance.
  • The task is difficult because we haven’t done it before, and avoiding it only hinders our growth.
  • Inversely, anything looks easy when you know exactly how it’s done.
  • Great achievers fall prey to this line of thinking when they are termed overly ambitious.

We think we have worked all these years and achieved a certain level, and attempting something new and outrageously out of our league will make us into a ‘newbie’, something learning the ropes and making mistakes.

Getting out of our comfort zones may not feel ‘comfy’ but is good for our personal growth and eventual success. Reaching the next level is not easy, but pays off big in the long run.

Life isn’t black and white, but in a shade of grey. Our expectations about doing things perfectly and wanting the results in absolute terms is often unrealistic and hinders our progress.

We need to take the first step and get used to action, without being stressed up about the results. We can improvise and optimize as we go.

Loss aversion is a big reason for fearing to do a project. Making progress sounds great, but correcting mistakes and counting your losses seems like an avoidable activity.

We want things to be perfect, and bad days are not really motivating for us. We need to embrace the imperfections, uncertainty and the so-called bad days and move ahead with our goal.

We usually want to take action as fast as we can, but with important decisions, we tend to wait and research more so that we can check the options and not make any mistakes.

The preparation time we need is often fear-based because we don’t want to mess up and it can look like procrastination.

People can lose time, money, respect, resources among other things when faced with failure, and that leads to fear-based procrastination. We need to keep in mind that mistakes happen, and only with action and errors does one learn something and moves towards growth.

Focus on action and learn to stop worrying about failure, taking it as a learning tool.

The secrets to happiness

Having good, supportive friendships, a strong marriage or close and loving relationships with our family members will make us much more likely to be happy.
Action steps: Take time, today, to spend time with your loved ones, to tell them what they mean to you, to listen to them, and develop your relationship with them.

People find greatest enjoyment not when they’re passively mindless, but when they’re absorbed in a mindful challenge. This is flow, when we’re so immersed in our task that we lose track of time.
Action steps: Find work and hobbies that you’re passionate about and that fully engage you.

These are some of the best indicators of people who lead happy lives. Happy people feel empowered, in control of their lives, and have a positive outlook on life.
Action steps: Get into the habit of squashing all negative thoughts and replacing them with positive ones.

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Things within us that to appreciate – they can make us happy, no matter what’s going on outside:

  1. Being generous

2. Being loving and kind

3. Feeling compassion and empathy

4. Being skilled at something

5. Being a good listener

6. Knowing how to appreciate the beauty in nature and in others

7. Being determined

8. Being creative.

Phenomena that happen outside of us don’t cause happiness. They might be correlated with happiness but it’s not a cause-and-effect relationship.
The most important part is what happens in our brain between the external event (a good cup of coffee) and our state of happiness.

The key skill is to learn to notice, accept and appreciate everything around us, and everyone we see and interact with.
Often if we fail to see good in things or people around us (or ourselves), it’s a failure to pay close attention. All around us are examples of beauty, creativity, inspiration, triumph, pain, joy, life.

Commitment issues

Many people have unrealistic expectations of dieting, viewing it as a temporary solution, seeking immediate results, or resorting to exotic and extreme fad diets.
Balance and moderation should be your motto, and you should never give up. Good health practices become a habit and a way of life.

Sleep helps maintain a healthy balance of the hormones that make you feel hungry (ghrelin) or full (leptin). When you don’t get enough sleep, your level of ghrelin goes up and your level of leptin goes down; this makes you feel hungrier than when you’re well-rested.
Get 7-8 hours of sleep around the same time each night and you will be ready to seize the day.

By incorporating a little exercise whenever possible — such as choosing to walk or bike instead of driving, or taking the stairs instead of the elevator — you will burn calories and slowly build up stamina.
If you’re timing your meals right and getting enough sleep, you should have plenty of rest and energy to burn more calories than you’re consuming.

Irregular eating schedules have subtle, yet traceable negative health effects and are associated with increased risks of obesity, diabetes, hypertension, and inflammation.
Simply by staying in sync with your circadian rhythm will facilitate weight loss. Try eating breakfast every day within one hour of waking up, then having a healthy snack or meal every three to four hours.

By keeping an honest diet journal, you can begin to have a better awareness of your calorie intake. Dieters who keep a daily food diary tend to lose twice as much weight as those who do not.
There are many other important factors to consider in choosing your next meal. For example, if the food you eat contains fiber, it will keep you feeling full longer, which can prevent you from reaching for “extra” calories in order to fill yourself up.

1.) Get painfully candid with yourself about your food intake. Be aware of every bite that crosses your lips that has a calorie attached to it.

2.) Set a pattern of consistency with the way you eat so you can see your trends and areas of opportunity to modify. While not every day will go off without a hitch, you can string together more days if you have a system for tracking the days you were on or not.

3.) Realize that your path will have potholes and detours. Plan for them, expect them and have a workaround for when they occur (also know as “Plan B”, “In The Event Of Emergency” or “Things I Crave When It’s That Time Of The Month.”)

4.) Commit to a longer term than something which promises results in 30-days or less. No one fixed their marriage, their job or their outlook on life in less than 30 days. Your food plan will be no different.

5.) Try to have some fun along the way. Learn to experiment with different recipes, cuisines and cultures to develop a wider palette of tastes and foods.

Things You Need To Understand About Anxiety And Depression

Anxiety is a mental health disorder characterised by feelings of worry, anxiety or fear that are strong enough to interfere with one’s daily activities.

So, here, I’ve made a list of things you need to understand and avoid anxiety attacks (hard to breathe moments).
• Think of your anxiety as a biological problem, rather than thinking there is something wrong with your head. Anxiety is just a physical state that has its mental side effects. Treat the physical effects, to feel less stressed. 
• It won’t leave you alone, anxiety is repetitive. If you ever get an anxiety attack, chances are you’ll get them again. However, anxiety symptoms are also the same. You can to straight your back and cultivate a habit that will help you become more resilient to stress biologically.
• Stop taking stimulants, cigarettes, caffeine, and alcohol, they might give you your worst nightmare. Weed might calm you down (it works for me) but if you see the anxiety symptoms don’t push it. And also, it’s illegal, so I’m not promoting it. 
• Keep a good diet, eating at least three times a day is the least can do for the better of yourself. Complex carbs, healthy fats, and protein. Eliminate sugar or at least don’t add another cube in your drink. 
• Don’t have to go to the gym if your work schedule doesn’t allow you. Though you have to start exercising, start with bodyweight exercises like push-ups, sit-ups, squats and maybe some pull-ups. You won’t have enough energy to stress out after having a good hard work-out, believe me, it’s tried and tested. 
• Nothing is happening on your mobile screen, put it down and have a good night sleep. It is important for your body and brain, to repair all the damage you have taken to get done with the day. Disturbed or insufficient sleep regularly will definitely give you anxiety. Aim for a good-long 8 hours sleep and don’t worry if most of the night you able to get only 6-or-7 hours sleep.
• Have to start meditating because controlled breathing is the best way to avoid anxiety. There are a lot of resources available on the internet that can teach you meditation, you can also use Headspace one of my favorite app for meditating. Especially, if you have never tried meditation before, use Headspace mobile app and just fall in love with the magic of mindfulness. 

Life could have been easy if people love to share what they have. But the fact that we all are selfish in one way or another has pulled down humanity down in the dumps where almost no one is happy. Why are we like this, why can’t we share the knowledge that we have, power that we possess, the money that we have earned to help someone less unfortunate? Is it because bad things always feel good. But let’s not stray from our main topic and recall what we have learned so far.
• Anxiety is a physical, biological problem. Treat it as such and don’t worry about the psychological effects.
• Re-read point one. And then do that again.
• You are not taking any stimulants from now on. 
• Pay attention to what you eat. 
• Exercise. Daily, until you’re tired.
• Make good-sleep your utmost priority. 
• Learn the breathing techniques, meditation is one way to go.
• And this one is not added in the main points but see the doc if you still haven’t found 

How to make your day more productive: Complete guide

Some mornings we feel motivated to create a to-do list, but that is often the exception. We need to get things done, even when we feel disengaged.

Start by setting the alarm for your daily planning session at the same time every day. Tack your new daily planning session onto an existing habit like drinking your morning coffee.

• Break down your big goals into daily tasks. You can’t add “Get in shape” to your daily to-do list, but you can add “spend 30 minutes on my bike.”

• Consider your week as a whole. You likely have multiple goals. Some goals benefit from daily activity, while working towards others a few times a week can create momentum.

• Add your have-to-do tasks last. We often fill our to-do lists with have-to-do tasks that crowd the whole day. Adding it last forces you to fit your have-to-do tasks around your goal tasks.

Many of us start our mornings with dozens of things we need to get done, but later realize that we haven’t crossed any of them off our lists. We did get stuff done, but none of the things we planned.

A balm against hectic days that pass without progress is to choose a single activity to prioritize and protect in your calendar. If you struggle to select your top priority, ask yourself, when you look back on your day, what do you want the highlight to be? That’s your priority.

‘Eat the Frog’ is an excellent productivity method for putting your highlight into action early.

It is often the task we most want to avoid (therefore, eating the frog). It could be a task that feels too big or makes us uncomfortable. During your planning session, put your “frog” at the top of your to-do list and assign a time. Then add your other tasks below.

With the Time Blocking method, split your day into distinct blocks of time. Then, dedicate each block of time to completing only a specific task or set of tasks.

Ensure to include blocks for things like lunch, breaks, and commutes for the most accuracy. If a task takes less or more time, make modifications to your list to gain a better understanding of how long tasks take.

Now that you’ve decided on the productivity approach, it’s time to pick your tools:

• A to-do list app: A digital task manager is great for those who are tech-savvy.

• A digital list is useful if you’re not into a task-manager but still want a digital solution, such as a word processing app or Google sheets.

• A digital calendar: Many people opt for a daily planning tool, like Apple Calendar or Google Calendar.

• A paper planner can take several forms, including notebooks, agendas, or specialized planners.

• A digital and paper hybrid: You might enjoy a paper first, digital second option where you transfer your to-dos from a paper onto a digital task manager for easy reference.

• Eliminate disctractions that pull you away from your objectives for the day. Work with most of your desktop programs closed, your phone on silent, and your notifications off.

• Track your time. Tracking your time can help you work more effectively.

• Try hourly check-ins. Regularly check in with yourself to notice if you’re moving through your day with focus.

• Readjust your plan. When unanticipated work arises, take a few minutes to readjust your plan for the day. Then work off of your new plan.

• Get to “To Do List Zero.” While you want to have zero tasks on your to-do list, it is an opportunity to take stock of where you’re at, re-evaluate your tasks, and re-plan them.

ALL ABOUT BIPOLAR DISORDER

Bipolar disorder is a serious mental condition that causes major abnormalities in mood, thoughts, energy, and behavior—the kind of changes that cause noticeable impairments to your day-to-day life. We all have ups and downs, but people with bipolar disorder experience these in extreme states, called mania and depression (though they may also go for stretches when they have no symptoms at all). These intense mood shifts can interfere with personal relationships, harm careers, and disrupt your ability to just get through the day.

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But bipolar is manageable. The right combination of medication, therapy, and healthy lifestyle changes can help most people with bipolar live productive lives full of fun, meaning, and connection.

  • Having high levels of energy and exhilaration
  • Experiencing grandiose or overblown self-esteem
  • Speaking so loudly or quickly others can’t understand you
  • Not sleeping well and/or having little need to sleep
  • Engaging in risky behaviors like unprotected sex or gambling
  • Being easily distracted
  • Being easily irritated
  • Feeling sad
  • Feeling lethargic
  • Eating too much or too little
  • Feeling worthless
  • Having thoughts of suicide

But there’s always a confusion with regards to recognizing the symptoms of bipolar disorder, particularly when it comes to mania: Some people with bipolar disorder simply don’t realize what’s going on, often because they actually enjoy the high—it can make them feel like they’re on top of the world.

They have an abundance of energy, they’re more creative than ever, they’re friendly and talkative. They may even feel that it’s the best part of their lives. Mania has been described as being on speed without the speed, which makes sense: The same chemicals that are released in the brain from amphetamines may be released in the manic phase.

Experts don’t know exactly why someone develops bipolar, and there’s no one factor that sparks it. It’s likely a combination of some or all of the following:

Genetics: It’s unclear specifically how, but genes can play a large role, and bipolar disorder tends to run in families.

Gender: While men and women get bipolar at equal rates, women have a higher risk of rapid cycling (going up and down in mood quickly), and they tend to have more depression than men.

Stress: Highly upsetting events—like divorce, the death of a family member, or losing a job—can trigger a bipolar incident. Also, people who’ve experienced a traumatic event—such as sexual or physical abuse, neglect, or the death of a parent early in life—have an increased chance of getting bipolar later.

Substance abuse: Those who abuse drugs or alcohol are at a higher risk for developing bipolar disorder.

  • Talk therapy can help people understand what’s going on and provide coping strategies to better handle the issues you face with the disorder.
  • Lifestyle changes that ca e practiced include:
    • Charting your mood. Sometimes specific things can trigger an episode. Recognizing these particulars can help you manage them more effectively—or even avoid them altogether.
    • Sticking to a regular routine. Keeping to a schedule seems to help those with bipolar sidestep unexpected triggers for mood swings. Sleep, in particular, is clutch: Deprivation can set off manic episodes. A regular exercise habit can help too.
    • Practicing stress-management techniques. Since bipolar disorder can be triggered by stress, activities such as yoga or meditation can help calm the mind.
    • Electroconvulsive therapy (ECT) is an option for people who have intense depression that hasn’t responded to medications, or for those who can’t be on certain meds, such as pregnant women.

How exercise benefits us in our daily life

Most of the people link exercise with just weight loss ad muscle gain, but what if I told you that exercise can reap more benefits to your body than you can imagine? Let’s talk about some of those today.

Stressful situations are less stressful

You can thank those daily workouts for your newfound ability to handle stressful situations with aplomb. Exercise, of almost any kind, reduces stress hormones and stimulates the production of endorphins—meaning a calmer and more relaxed you.

So, whether you’re having a hectic day at work or the kids are driving you crazy, exercise will make it easier (or at least easier to handle). Sometimes that means fitting in a full workout before or after work. And sometimes it’s as simple as a walking lunch break or meeting.

Your mood will improve.

Regular exercise makes you healthier. Since your health is everything, this improves your life as a whole. Exercise reduces blood pressure, ensures a healthier heart, and reduces your risk of major diseases, meaning you won’t need to take as many sick days.

And really, a healthier life is a happier one. When you’re feeling your best, you’re more likely to enjoy your personal and professional life.

You’ll do better at work.

Working out takes the cake when it comes to developing mental strength. There’s a reason kids have gym class and recess. Exercise improves the performance of our brains, naturally.

Along with added mental clarity, exercise slows cognitive decline, improves your memory, and enhances your creativity. So yes, crushing that run also means crushing that new project you’ve been working on forever. Or, winning at chess. Either one.

Prevents you from having reproductive diseases.

For men, regular exercise is a great way to prevent or help treat erectile dysfunction. This doesn’t mean you have to max out on the weights every day—even walking is beneficial.

You’ll sleep better.

Exercise is a natural remedy for insomnia, so it stands to reason that a regular workout routine means better sleep, consistently. Science has confirmed that your quality of sleep increases with regular exercise. Better yet, there’s a cyclical effect here: regular exercise means better sleep, and better sleep means a higher quality workout the next day.

If you’re having trouble getting sleepy despite exercise, make sure that you’re setting yourself up for success at night—you want to create a calm environment to take over where that workout left off.

Help Kick Bad Habits

Once you’ve experienced even a few major fitness benefits, you’ll feel encouraged to keep up the good work. That could mean that you’re making healthier decisions when it comes to diet, getting up early, or keeping your house cleaner—anything to complement your fitness goals.

Likewise, it’s a super confidence boost knowing that you’ve reached a goal (weight loss, muscle gain, whatever), and that will carry over. If you’ve lost 10 pounds, surely you can quit smoking or stop drinking soda.

Although dedicating time to workout on a regular basis isn’t easy or always convenient, it really will pay off in dividends. Consistent exercise leads to fitness benefits in all areas, not just the waistline.

The “I am not like the other girls” phase

“You’re not like other girls,” a man says to a woman. “You’re different.”

She’s supposed to be thrilled that this guy sees her inner uniqueness and beauty. She’s supposed to blush and say thank you. But wait. What’s wrong with other girls? What’s wrong with being a woman?

We all want to feel special. It feeds into that adolescent insecurity that we are ordinary and boring and will never stand out to our seventh grade crush in the hallway. That is why this trope is such a staple of novels marketed at teenage girls. A perfect, handsome and often supernatural guy comes along and sweeps the damsel off her feet, seeing a special light in her that her uncivilized peers have missed. She’s “not like those other girls.”

But what does that even mean? It implies half the world’s population is all the same. It says that feminine things are ultimately inferior to things that are masculine.

It also says women are one-dimensional. They only like specifically feminine things. They can’t like both shopping at the mall and playing sports. Girls can’t watch chick flicks and also care about politics. The “other girls” are usually stereotypes, obsessed with “girly things.” They are thought of as shallow and dumb because of these feminine interests.

When you say “you’re not like other girls” or “I’m not like other girls,” it shows that you don’t like most girls automatically. It tells us you think being a girl is a bad thing. It says you don’t see them as multidimensional people.

It also puts women into a competition with each other that they didn’t ask for. Society doesn’t constantly compare males to each other this way. Apparently, a woman can’t be praised without putting her whole gender down in the same sentence.

Women don’t need to be complimented like this. It’s an insult at the same time. It’s saying a part of her, her gender, is inferior. It’s insulting her mother, her sisters and all women as it “compliments” her.

Women are varied and unique people. We can get excited about New York Fashion week and beat you on the soccer field. We can flawlessly contour our faces, get a hundred Instagram likes, and still get that job at big companies. There’s no point in tearing down our whole gender trying to impress one person.

As young girls, we separate ourselves from our womanhood. We want to prove that we can be worthy. We think I am not like other girls because I have a brain. I’m not one-dimensional. I have interests and hobbies. We don’t understand that women don’t have to choose between being a girl and being able to contribute to society. When we say “I’m not like other girls,” we are screaming to the world, “I am a person with ideas and thoughts and morals and I just want to be heard.” We don’t realize that being a girl does not equate to being dismissible or insignificant. We don’t realize we can have value and be female. 

The only thing that can actually differentiate you from being in the normal crowd and help in in standing out, is being yourself and speaking your mind. You don’t need to change to yourself because this mindset is so common among women that if you follow it as well, you will practically “be like the other girls” in fact.

The state of Transgender People in India

The Central Government has informed the Kerala High Court that currently, transgender persons are not legally allowed to enter the National Cadet Corps and the armed forces. The Government also stated that it is their prerogative to create a new division for the third gender. In light of this statement, let us look at the rights afforded to transgender people under the law.

In India, the Transgender Persons (Protection of Rights) Act, 2019 protects the rights of transgender persons and provides for their welfare.

A transgender person is any person whose gender does not match with the gender assigned to that person at birth. This includes:

  • A trans-man or trans-woman
  • A person with intersex variations
  • Any genderqueer person
  • People having socio-cultural identities such as kinner, hijra, aravani, jogta, etc.

Educational institutions which are funded or recognised by the government must provide inclusive education and opportunities to transgender people under the law. These educational institutions are not allowed to discriminate against transgender people and have to treat them on an equal basis with other people.

No establishment should discriminate against any transgender person in matters relating to employment, including recruitment, promotion, etc. This applies to establishments including government bodies, companies, firms, cooperatives, associations, agencies, and other institutions. 

Further, no person or establishment can discriminate against transgender people by denying them healthcare services. Transgender people cannot be denied access to goods, accommodation, benefits, opportunities, etc. that are available to the public. Moreover, no one can deny a transgender person’s right of movement and right to occupy or purchase any property.

A transgender person has the right to be recognised as such a person, and has a right to self-perceived gender identity. Any transgender person can apply to the District Magistrate for issuing a certificate of identity as a transgender person. In the case of a minor child, the application should be made by the parent or guardian of the child.

  • Transgenders do not enjoy a legal recognition in India like most of the Asian counterparts.
  • However, some states like Tamil Nadu, Kerala and Odisha recognise transgenders as the third gender.
  • The Transgender Persons (Protection of Rights) Bill, 2016, intended towards the protection of transgenders is yet to be passed.
  • The Bill defines a transgender person as one who is partly female or male; or a combination of female and male; or neither female nor male.  In addition, the person’s gender must not match the gender assigned at birth.
  • The bill includes trans-men, trans-women, persons with intersex variations and gender-queers.

The law punishes anyone who:

  • Forces or convinces a transgender person to get involved in forced or bonded labour.
  • Obstructs a transgender person from having access to a public place to which other people have access.
  • Forces or causes a transgender person to leave a household, village, or other place of residence.
  • Injures or endangers the life, safety, health, or well-being of a transgender person.

The punishment for doing any of these acts is imprisonment of six months to two years, along with a fine.

the fear of missing out

The basic definition of FOMO is – “Anxiety that an exciting or interesting event may currently be happening elsewhere, often aroused by posts seen on social media.”

The most important element in FOMO is the word “fear,” It makes us to do things even when we necessarily don’t want to. It’s logic versus emotion: When a compelling option is presented to us, we feel like an outsider if we say “no” to that. We may even fear that we’ll miss the opportunity of a lifetime if we say “no.”

At the same time, we know that we probably shouldn’t say ‘yes’ because we may be spreading ourselves too thin. Also, there are going to be plenty of other opportunities out there, so missing this one probably won’t make a difference after all.

When you are a victim of the fear of missing out, you are going to experience at least one of the following:

Procrastinating — Being Unfocused and Stressed

It’s obvious that when the temptation to say “yes” to a request is too big, you accept yet another task or project.

In practice, you are spreading yourself too thin. Not only are you stressed out by too many activities in your life, but it increases the likelihood for procrastination. This is because you cannot keep up with your schedule and you start finding excuses for not doing something you promised.

Losing Money

Sometimes you don’t want to feel like being an outsider in a group by making different decisions than the rest of the people, so you start spending money on the things you don’t even want because you don’t want to feel left out or miss out on anything which could have been “fun”.

Feeling Overwhelmed

Being overwhelmed is one of the symptoms of fear of missing out. When you are unable to say “no,” feeling overwhelmed is destined to happen at some point.

There are certain things you can do when you experience FOMO.

1. Be Aware of It

The first thing is to be aware of the feeling. Stop for a moment and acknowledge when you are having a feeling of FOMO.

Understand that this is a natural (although undesirable) way of reacting in a certain situation. We all wish we could say “yes” all the time, but we’re only human.

2. Be Honest With Yourself and Others

Honesty is one of the best ways to deal with the situation.

First, you have to be honest to yourself: If you say “yes,” you have to understand that you may be spreading yourself too thin.

Second, it is also important to be honest with others, too. They have to be aware that you may not be 100% committed to their requests if you have plenty of action going on at the same time.

3. Make a Quick Decision Regarding the Situation

One of the worst things you can do is be on the fence. As long as something is left undecided, it is using your brain capacity for nothing.

That’s why it is imperative to say “no” to an opportunity as quickly as possible if you feel you are unable to commit to it 100%.

When you say “no,” you may even regret your decision at first. On the other hand, if you are meant to experience the opportunity at all, it will come available to you at a later time.

4. Change Your Perspective

Lastly, one step in defeating the FOMO is to see if a situation or event supports your short or long term goals.If it doesn’t, it’s likely better for you to get off social media sites that can increase FOMO and say no. Instead, focus on everything you have to be grateful for in life at this moment. Try spending time with friends and family and improve the important relationships in your life. These are the things that you’ll really regret missing out on and what will ultimately improve your life satisfaction.

FOMO can lead you to distraction and can push you to do things you really don’t care about. However, there is a way to overcome the fear. Once you learn to handle it, you will feel better and will feel ready to take on more things that add genuine fulfillment to your life.

More about Demisexuality

In today’s world where dating is complicated and sex is seen as a necessity, there exists a section of people who don’t feel sexually attracted to a person unless you form an emotional connection to them. These people require having a meaningful attachment with a person before wanting to take things any further with them. If this sounds familiar to your perspective towards sex, relationship, and emotions, then chances are you ‘demisexual.

The true meaning of ‘demisexuality’ can be defined as- ‘A sexual orientation in which someone feels sexual attraction only to people with whom they have an emotional bond.’ The term comes from the asexuality spectrum. However, this doesn’t mean a demisexual doesn’t aspire for sex. In fact, every demisexual experiences sexual desires.

We understand this can be a little confusing. After all, we only read about sexual and asexual in our biology textbooks, isn’t it? If you are still not sure, demisexuality is for real. To understand better, we suggest you look out for these following signs of a demisexual.

  1. Sleeping together with someone entices you more than having sex: Sex isn’t the most important factor for any demisexual. The idea of sleeping (and spending more time) with your beloved is more peaceful than the act of making love.
  2. You like to befriend people before dating: Did you and your partner started off as friends? As a demisexual, you have to be friends first before dating someone. This gives them the time to know each other. However, when it comes to friendship, if a demisexual says,” We are just friends.” They mean it!
  3. Personality plays a vital role overlooks: A demisexual doesn’t get turn on by looks; they thrive for deeper connection in people. A good personality is sexy for them.
  4. One night stand or casual sex is not your cup of tea: Casual sex, a one-night stand or even kissing strangers is pretty much a no-go for a demisexual.
  1. You just don’t feel like being intimate or having sex at all- If you show these signs, you might simply be asexual.
  2. You stay away from intimacy for religious purposes or societal pressure- It is very common to feel ashamed of having sex before marriage in some communities but this doesn’t make you demisexual.
  3. Personal choice- If you want to stay away from any kind of personal contact for personal reasons, you don’t fall under this category either.
  4. you are afraid of sex- If you have a psychology of being afraid or ashamed of having sex for various reasons, you are not demisexual.
  5. You don’t feel attracted to the opposite gender in any way- You might be gay ,lesbian or simply asexual if you don’t feel attracted to the opposite gender, but not demisexual.

Sexuality is more of a spectrum than a definition and hence, we should embrace it rather than trying to label it or fit in a certain sexuality all the time.

How can more job opportunities be created in India?

With the increase in population through these years in India, the unemployment rate has taken a massive hike. While the government fails to create more and more job opportunities, the talented lot of our country continues to move to foreign countries in search of better job opportunities, a better pay and a better lifestyle overall. But how can we try to fix this problem?

The first field on which we shall focus for more job creations and greater productivity is of course-

1. Awareness. Most of the people in the rural areas have immense talent but these areas lack a medium of awareness. The main source of distribution of the awareness and developement is done through television. But most of the people of the rural areas don’t have TVs at home, so I propose the government does it through pamphlets and banners. The government can also set up a small committee in every district to recruit people from a village who are capable enough to send them for higher education. For this purpose, funds can be raised by the village or by the government. The testing for this would be done by many practical and psychometric tests.

2. Education- The schools and especially government schools should have a curriculum where they focus on practical studies equivalently. They should be given more case studies and be made aware of the upcoming opportunities and internships. The quality and focus of studies in government schools too require a lot of improvement.

3. A lot of India’s best talent is immigrating to countries like the US, UK, etc. because of better pay and lifestyle. Here, I propose the government increase the pay scale for projects and reduce corruption, plus they should also keep a strict check on the project deadline.

4. India should impose stricter laws on multinational companies investing in India so that the unskilled labor force can work there and gain experience without the fear of exploitation.

5. Investment in better technology and infrastructure- Investing in technology is a massive multiplier. It will lead to the creation of many prestigious and well-paying jobs.

6. Encouraging tax free start ups, not just in metros but also in villages can help to a lot of extent. Even farming sector can be “corporatised” with the use of technology in produce , supply chain, research, survey and so on and this needs the effective use of technology.

Whereas, infrastructural reforms will lead to more people being employed in the sector and hence, more job creations. Better infrastructure will also attract more tourists while can serve as a means of a improved lifestyle for geeral shopkeepers.

Personally, I feel that the development of ‘skills’ in the Indian youth can only be engraved through a curriculum that focuses on practice and working of the brains and not only cramming. We need disposable income to spend, for which we need a strong growing economy which is the responsibility of the government. The programs of the government need to include classes on this issue even outside of school (and even online).

The importance of menstrual cups

Many girls of the rural areas don’t attend school during their menstruation because of the stigma attached to it and the unavailability of proper supplies. The issue of affordability and privacy in the rural areas can be resolved through availability of better alternatives to sanitary pads. One very good option for the latter is using menstrual cups. The pros of using such a cup are as follows –

  1.  These cups are reusable and can be used for 3-4 years if maintained with good hygiene.
  2.  Menstrual cups are also very environment friendly unlike pads as they are mostly made of silicon, rubber or latex , unlike sanitary pads, which are made of plastic and can only be used once. On an average, a woman utilizes 3,500 sanitary pads throughout her lifetime. That, alone, is enough to suggest how much of money and resources we would be saving if we shifted to using menstrual cups.
  3. They prevent discomfort and leakage while walking and sitting as well.  If placed righteously, menstrual cups can be a safer options for school going girls as it would provide them will ease while doing activities and resolve their fear of leakage in school.
  4. Menstrual cups also prove out to be the best alternative because they are a one-time investment. In rural areas, regular supply of sanitary pads is a big issue. In this scenario, menstrual cups can persist for a much longer time.
  1. Although India is a progressive country, the mentality of some people of the rural area refuses to change. In some households, it is a myth that wearing a menstrual cup can lead to the breakage of the “hymen” of a girl. Hymen is a tissue while surrounds the entrance of the uterus of a girl. The condition of the hymen is heavily linked to the honor of the family since they consider it as a proof of her “purity”.
  2. Menstrual cups are still not available in almost any of the chemist shops in India in the urban areas only, let alone the rural areas. As of now, menstrual cups can only be ordered online, which the people from the rural area don’t have the access to.
  3. There are still a lot of myths in the society surrounding the usage of menstrual cups with regards to safety and health which need to be debunked as soon as possible!
  4. Menstrual cups and other period supplies are still not a part of the period education which is imparted in schools. The girls need to be made aware of the mere existence of these products firsthand.

If more awareness is raised about the affordable alternatives to sanitary pads and about periods in general, we can succeed in finishing the problem of period poverty and the stigma that periods make you impure, in this country. The education of the girls of our country shouldn’t continue to pay the price of this mindset and belief system !

The absenteeism of girl children from schools during their periods

According to research, 40% girls remain absent from their schools at the time of their menstruation. The statistics are even worse when we take only government schools into consideration. And these numbers are degrading day by day as the topic remains a big taboo in the parliament and in general households even till this date.

  1. Lack of awareness- The downfall of our literacy rate has been the root cause of this problem. It is very obvious that the households where the parents are illiterate engage in such practices. These belief systems are then passed on to the younger generations by them.
  2. Lack of proper hygiene products- More than 60% of women in India use cloth during their menstrual cycle. This is because either they don’t have access to sanitary pads (and cannot afford them) or they are not properly aware of the ill effects that can be caused by using cloth.
  3. Lack of privacy and cleanliness in schools- Unfortunately, most people in the rural areas still consider menstruation as impure and hence, talking about menstrual hygiene is still a massive taboo there. Some parents don’t send their daughters to school in the fear of invasion of her privacy while tackling her periods.
  4. Girls report substantial embarrassment and fear of teasing related to menstruation in the various interviews, and said that this, together with menstrual pain and lack of effective materials for menstrual hygiene management, led to their school absenteeism.

The school washrooms are also not considered a safe and clean space for the menstruating girls.

Although, the change that we can brought about would have been bigger if we would have gotten a chance to personally distribute these cups and raise awareness among the girls of the rural areas, but looking at the current scenario, there are other alternative techniques that we can adopt to make a change.

  1. Individual initiative and the chain following it- Through some appraisal, we can ask individuals to do their part towards our mission by telling them to talk to their house workers regarding the mentrual cups as they are a very affordable alternative to sanitary pads and that can make a big difference when combined as a whole. We can also request them to provide their female house workers with these cups, if possible,(since they don’t cost much) and ask them to give it a try. The house workers can then educate other ladies of her community for the same.
  2. Spark a dialogue- The social media platform is the most powerful tool to raise an argument regarding an issue. But apart from raising awareness, we can launch petitions to make sanitary pads tax free and accessible to all.
  3. Busting the myths through our articles and posts- Lastly, we can educate people more about the stereotypes surrounding the usage of menstrual cups and the menstrual cycle in general.

Also, menstrual cups should be used with good care as, if mishandled, they can be the cause of many diseases down there. Therefore, people need to be advised about which type of cup is to be used and how to handle it in a way which prevents it from spreading infectious diseases.  

Our main motive shall be to raise awareness as well as to experiment, and then, to spread more awareness about the latter. We shall also focus on finding better solutions which are viable for the issues which are being faced by the women of the rural areas in the long run. The aspiration should be grounded to making small changes from time to time if we really want to bring about a great revolution in this world one day!

“It’s never too late to start.”

                                                         

Should community service be made mandatory for children?

“The best way to find yourself is to lose yoourself in the service of others.”

-Mahatma Gandhi

Community service is voluntary and unpaid work, which is done for a social cause and to help the under privileged people/animals. It includes working in NGO’s and activism regarding a social cause.

Community service is an essential part of our society as it inculcates better learning and cooperation skills in young children. It also provides them with a sense of responsibility and self- sufficiency.

The habits learned at a young age gets embedded in one’s personality and we all know that. But we seem to be raising children who are not taught how life skills play a very massive role in their personality development and ,empathy and selflessness is the emblem of being a proficiently raised human being.

 

In schools, from the very beginning, children are taught to sprint towards scoring the best marks but we need to apprise them with the fact that education can make them literate but community service can transform them into a good citizen because this is the need of the hour.

Even in this time where COVID cases keep on increasing day-by-day and there is a pandemic on the shoulders of this world, students can sit at home and help in raising funds and helping the needy through the screens of their laptops and gadgets. Can anything be more powerful than this? But the field where we, as the society, are lacking is-awareness. And there will be proper awareness about this only when this particular area will mandatorily be a part of our curriculum.

Community service also provides students with better job and college opportunities and increases their chances of getting a scholarship in the future. So, what I believe is that the young minds have a lot of potential and chance of changing their world for the better but they can only grab this chance when they provided with the right appraisal from the very beginning of their lives.

There are various NGOs and websites which are willing to hire more and more people who have a passion about bring a change in this world. The following are some roles you can take up to work on in the latter-

  1. Content writer- Words have the power to transform this world and if you think that your words have that power, you can write for various NGOs and help in raising awareness about their upcoming programmes .
  2. Social media marketing- If you have good advertisment and marketing skills and have a good amount of knowledge about varios social media platforms, you should opt for this role, as it would require you to spread and market NGO campaigns through social media.
  3. Research work- This is in high demand when it comes to websites and NGO’s. If you are good at reaching conclusions and going in the depth of concepts, you can go for this.
  4. Fundraiser- If you work within a large community or have a big audience on social media or in general, you should work in this feild. With the introduction of covid-19, this field has came out to be the greatest need of the hour.

Community service should not only be a part of our college or job resume, but also a part of our personality, character and humanity.

Nyctophobia- A Disease?

“ Did you finish watching that horror movie?”

Yes!

“ What did it cost?”

36 mini heart attacks and 2 sleepless nights. That’s it.

If you can relate to this, guess what, you are nyctophobic. In simple terms, nyctophobia means the fear of the dark.

But don’t panic, you are not alone. Nyctophobia is the third most common phobia of all phobias, so you are not the only one who sees immortal figures at night. But that does not mean that you shouldn’t take it seriously. Also, guess what? It can go away.

Nyctophobia should not be confused with phasmophobia though. Phasmophobia is the fear of ghosts but nyctophobia includes a lot of things. Fear from anything which has an evil or a dark side.

While this type of phobia cannot surely be referred as a mental disease, it is, however a mental condition. But you do need to go to a psychiatrist for it and again IT SHOULD NOT BE IGNORED.

SO let us talk about it for once.

Physical symptoms include:

  • trouble breathing
  • racing heart rate
  • chest tightness or pain
  • shaking, trembling, or tingling sensations
  • lightheadedness or dizziness
  • upset stomach
  • hot or cold flashes
  • sweating
  • crying out of stress

Emotional symptoms include:

  • overwhelming feelings of anxiety or panic
  • an intense need to escape the situation
  • detachment from self or feeling “unreal”
  • losing control or feeling crazy
  • feeling like you may die or lose consciousness
  • feeling powerless over your fear

Basically, a person with nyctophobia sees things that aren’t present there. Not only ghosts or monsters, but they can also imagine that somebody wants to kill them or something. Most people with this condition cannot even sleep alone with the lights switched off, because they are not able to convince their mind that THEY ARE sleeping alone in fact. If you know what I mean.

In my case, for example, whenever I used to sleep alone and I closed my eyes, my mind used to tell me that there was somebody standing inside the room staring at me and I used to end up opening my eyes each time. According to my mom, it was very normal of anybody on this planet to not be able to sleep alone for about 2-3 nights after watching a haunted movie or something and so I do not need a psychiatrist. But you know that you are nyctophobic when there is another haunted movie going on inside your head each day even without taking a glimpse of it on tv. So now, after a lot of persuasions, my mom is convinced to allow me to see a psychologist.

This war is difficult to win and I know it because you have got to fight a long battle with your own mind over here and oh boy your subconscious is more powerful and strong than you know. So, the following are some things you can do to get a strong spell on your own subconscious and overcome this fear of the dark:

1. MEDITATE – This one is very important. It is going to help you to peace out your mind. It will help you get in terms with your subconscious. You can meditate daily for 20- 30 minutes any time of the day.

2. Believe in god- Even if you aren’t a very religious person, just believing that there is a greater force out there that is holding something positive for you can help a lot. And yes, it is tried and tested.

3. Medicate- Yes, there are drugs like Antidepressants and anti-anxiety medications that can control the physical reactions you have to the dark, like racing heart and panic attacks. But this cure is pretty temporary and not really advisable because it may start to affect your health.

4. Cognitive Behavioral Therapy [CBT] – The success rate of this therapy is over 90% and it is very much long-term. You will have to consult a therapist or psychiatrist for this.

5. Avoid watching movies or shows that scare you. This can decrease your level of anxiety at night.

6. Start with little steps. You can start by leaving a little light lamp ON at night and then go to sleeping in complete darkness.

7. CONSULT AAAAA THEERRRRAAAPIISSSSTTT ! Because if you simply don’t, this fear can start to have adverse effects on your health. It will affect the amount and quality of your sleep and cause sleep deprivation. THIS can interfere with our daily life chores. This fear can lead you to take sleeping pills, which as we all know are not trustable enough in regards to our health as well.

And finally,

There aren’t any well-defined causes of this type of fear. It can be genetic or hereditary, if any of your parents have it, there are high chances of them passing it on to you. It can also be caused through the memories of any bad incidents in the past like the death of a loved one, or an accident. Or it can be NATURAL, and it might go away with your growing age.

Lastly, you should definitely not ignore this phobia as it can persist for a lifetime if not taken care of. You should not, however, panic or feel embarrassed because of your fears and should tell your parents asap because these types of phobias are pretty common and can naturally be found in any person. So just cherish your life and realize that there is a bodacious side to the darkness that is waiting to be discovered and admired by you : )

The Profession of Perfectionism

As beautiful but unachievable as the word “Perfection” sounds, the meaning behind the word “perfection-ism” is quite the opposite. Perfectionism starts because of low self-esteem and leads to even lower self-esteem. As I am writing this article, perfectionism is trying to trap me and halt my productiveness, it’s telling me that I shouldn’t write this article if I can’t write it with uttermost perfection in this world. Perfectionism is like unconditional love, we spend our whole lives chasing it, while the ‘intellectuals’ of this world try to figure out if it even exists or not.

Have you seen those paper balls lying around an author’s desk in movies or in real life? Well, they would define perfectionism better than some mere words. But here is the real definition. Perfectionism is often defined as the need to be or appear to be perfect, or even to believe that it’s possible to achieve perfection.

It is not a mental disorder, however, it can be considered as a mental condition. To get a better insight on this, we need to know about the 3 ‘P’s- Perfectionism, proficiency and procrastination. Basically, perfectionism can lead to either proficiency OR procrastination. In simple words, proficiency is- expertise or improvement and procrastination is- what you have done your whole 11th grade. And sadly, perfectionism has a better chance of putting you into that loop of procrastination than increasing your proficiency.

“Perfectionism in itself is imperfection”

What makes you a perfectionist? -Unrealistic Expectations. Unrealistic can be parental or through your peers. But how can you identify that you, in fact, are one? Let’s take a walk on this.

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The loop of perfectionism
  1. You focus on the results more than the process- If you are not a big fan of making your journey at beautiful as your destiny, you might fit into this category.
  2. You are always afraid of not being enough- Constantly having a feeling that you can never be a 100% in your life can get you into the feedback loop from hell which can effect your self esteem to extents.
  3. You are too afraid of failure- Again, perfectionists get that fear of failure inside their head even before getting started with the assigned task.
  4. All or nothing- You have a thought process that you shouldn’t do that work at all if you can execute it with ultimate perfection which leads to procrastination.
  5. You can’t even take constructive criticism- You see criticism regarding your performance as a degradation to your personality and not as a stepping stone towards improvement.
  1. Start your day with a fresh mind- Morning meditation can help you in diving deep into your conscience and getting to know it. It also gives a productive start to your day.
  2. Follow the loop of productiveness- According to this, one completed task gives us the motivation to start with another task on our list. You need to follow this and alarm yourself if you feel that your chain is breaking.
  3. Stop overthinking- Whenever you feel like you are blaming yourself a little too much for something, think about something which is going to destress you. For me, it is dogs and music, likewise, you will have to do some self analysis to find your contentment.
  4. Don’t push yourself for every small mistake you commit.
  5. Go to therapy- No, I don’t mean listen to Taylor swift songs duh! I am insisting on really going to therapy for this.
  6. Take out time for yourself- Everyone has that one thing they’d do if nobody would be there to judge them. JUST DO THAT THING, without the pressure of being perfect at it.
  7. Remember that you don’t have to be productive all the time- In my case, I used to procrastinate the whole day and feel guilty about it at the end of the day and procrastinate even further. SO PLEASE START NOW if you haven’t already.

Just remember that you aren’t the only one who finds themselves stuck in this loop everyday. You just need to be reminded that you can’t get out of any loop until you change your direction.

Perfection is not attainable, but if we chase perfection we can catch excellence.

Is social media liked to the developemet of various mental disorders?

Social media is currently a vital component of enhancing communication amongst friends and families through the sharing of personal content. The use of social media platforms has gone a notch higher, especially among young adults who are striving to develop their identities, for self-promotion, as well as establishing their social norms. The sharing of information and ideas through the Internet or mobile platforms is facilitated by social media. According to research, most of the people who access the Internet using personal computers spend 20% of their online time on accessing social media sites while those who use phones utilize 30% . This study points out that social media is heavily linked to the development of mental disorders such as anxiety and depression in people.

Studies also show that social media has positive and negative influences on the mental health of young people from 14 to 35 years. The researchers recommend changes to be made to protect the young kids and adolescents from the negative impacts of social media such as Internet addiction and low self-esteem without interfering with the positive aspects like sharing of experiences by the sick, ethnic minorities, among other minority groups.

In the following article, we shall discuss some of the mental disorders which are particularily triggered by excessive usage of social media.

The list

Various studies have associated the use of social media with reduced subjective mood, life contentment, and comfort. The studies blame too much loneliness and decreased people bonding on the passive use of social media content in place of face-to-face communication. This is perhaps due to the envious feelings about other people and the unfounded belief that they are more successful and happier in their lives than the social media user. As a result, the envious person may feel inferior and depressed with time.

What we, as conventional social media users need to realize is that all our “influencers” are not leading their best lives at all points of time in their lives.

Various studies indicate a relationship between the use of social media and undesirable results, for instance, high levels of loneliness, narcissism, depression, and uncontrollable behaviors. Too much social media utilization by young adults leads to an increase of the negative impacts. This is because in the race of gaining more and more followers and trying to ‘seem’ like a better version of yourself than you are, we often tend to forget to make real life human connections.

Research establishes that learners who spend much of their time in social media have a lower sense of worth as compared to the ones who use lesser time on the platforms. In turn, low self-esteem makes an individual vulnerable to depressive mental disorders or worsens the conditions. It was also found out that students with many friends on Facebook had few live interactions with their college mates and were likely to experience high levels of loneliness. 

Research also associates high social media usage with raised level of anxiousness. Younger generations were found to experience higher levels of anxiety than adults when they failed to access their social networks and text messages. Children also tend to become less outspoken, confident and open when they spend all their time on social media.

The people who are preoccupied with social media use also spend most of their time seated and have little time for physical exercises. As a result, they become vulnerable to sedentary behaviors, the activities that mainly include sitting or lying. These behaviors have been associated with physical health issues such as obesity, heart diseases, and high blood pressure. Simply, taking up more oxygen through physical excercises or going out in the nature can reverse these physical and mental conditions.

The mobile devices such as computers and smartphones, if utilized for the access of social media sites, interrupt the natural sleep cycles of the users. The screens of these devices release high amounts of artificial blue light whcih can hinder the chemical working of our brains. People with daily high usage of social media report that sometimes, they don’t feel sleepy at all.

High social media usage is linked with negative thoughts as well as feelings of guilt about your unproductivity which puts the user in the “feedback loop from hell” where he/she constantly feels guilty about feeling guilty thereafter. Overall, researches conclude than people who consume a controlled amount of technology and especially social media, are likely to lead better lives than the ones who don’t.

The Art of Fashion Designing

 Do you often catch yourself redesigning the clothes you see in markets? Does your world revolve around fashion? Do you often check out fashion bloggers on social media and wonder about the efforts that go into it? Well, you are at the right place, because today, we are going to decipher the whole journey of fashion designing from A to Z.

 Fashion Designing is the ‘art’ of applying designs, aesthetics, and creativity to clothing and accessories. We generally have this idea that fashion designing is only concerned with clothing but we need to understand that designing can be related to a variety of accessories like handbags, necklaces, shoes, etc.

The foremost qualities one needs, to take up any form of career are- Aspiration and inspiration. But in this segment, we aim at talking about the ‘skills’ which are needed to take up fashion designing as a career. The questions we face from most of the aspirants of this field vary from “Do we need to have a professional degree for taking up this career?” to “Do we need to be really good at drawing to master this course?”

These questions turn out to be very hypothetical and hence, have miscellaneous answers. Although we do not NEED a professional degree to enter the world of fashion designing, an associate’s or bachelor’s degree in fashion designing would be considered more in big institutions and jobs. You also do not purposefully need extreme drawing skills to be a designer as we have mentioned first hand that designing includes a wider range of accessories other than just clothing but this skill would also be appreciated when it comes to employment.

How to Become a Fashion Designer (Career Path)

Any student who has passed their class 12th with any stream (Science/commerce/arts) can take up this course at the Under Graduate level and then apply for a master’s degree in the latter. The course fees lies from 7 lakhs rupees to 23 lakhs rupees in private colleges and 11 lakhs to 15 lakhs in public colleges.

The best colleges for the course are:

PRIVATE COLLEGES

 Pearl Academy, Delhi

NIFT, Kolkata

Symbiosis Institute of Design, Pune

Pearl Academy, Jaipur

Amity School of Fashion Technology, Noida 

PUBLIC COLLEGES

NIFT, Delhi

NIFT, Bangalore

NIFT, Chennai

NIFT, Patna

NIFT, Gandhinagar

 After getting into a good college, you are automatically offered various internships, jobs, and fashion shows to work in. If your work is good enough, you might be offered to work with fashion magazines and even be offered sponsorships. If you have great competency skills and a sense of responsibility, then these fashion shows are made for you because you get to face new challenges and challengers and open up to the world when you go for the latter. If the authority takes a glimpse of your great potential, they might also give you sponsorships for the expenses of your designing and become your mentors! Apart from this, Free-lancing is coming out as one the biggest employer of fashion designing aspirants and is totally based on your talent!

  Although, online courses don’t provide you with as much expertise as manual practice does, it seems to be a great introduction to the world of fashion designing since we are all stuck at home because of the pandemic! Some websites than provide you with good internships regarding this field are- Internshala, Handshake, Pearl Academy and a thousand more. You can look for various diplomas on their websites. It is also advised that once you get the chance, you should definitely try your hand at a face-to-face coaching because they give you a much better inspection of your practical work. Also, rejection and the struggle to overcome it is the key to success, remember it! Conclusion- In this modern world, where figures are valued more than the clothes that grip it, fashion designing seems to be losing its essence. But while fashion blogging has its significance, fashion designing is, and will always be the key behind it because fashion designers don’t only design clothes, THEY ALSO DESIGN DREAMS ALONG WITH IT !!

Pollution- The biggest threat to india

Pollution is a cause of grave concern for the whole humankind. The last century has seen the rise of this menace to gigantic proportions, so much so, that it has spread its tentacles to envelope the entire nature and the world.

 

Pollution is popularly categorised as air pollution, water pollution and noise pollution respectively.

Air pollution is that form of pollution which refers to the contamination of air, irrespective of indoors or outdoors. It occurs when harmful gases, dust and smoke enter into the atmosphere and make it unhealthy for humans, animals and plants as the air becomes dirty. Air pollution is a by-product of the unprecedented industrial growth that we have seen in the last few decades.

The establishment of large scale factories belching out smoke, fumes and chemically hazardous waste, has now started having a telling effect on the environment. This coupled with the unprecedented growth of automobiles and the ever-increasing human population, are some of the factors that are making air pollution a cause for concern.

The effects of air pollution are all-pervasive. The immediate consequence is the reduction in oxygen content in the air, the release of potentially harmful gases causing asthma and even lung cancer. They also damage plants and crop yields. Global warming and ozone depletion are other fallouts of the same.

Similarly, water pollution is the contamination of water bodies (example lakes, rivers, oceans, aquifers and groundwater). Water pollution occurs when chemical wastes and plastics are directly or indirectly discharged into water bodies without adequate treatment to remove the harmful compounds. It has led to dwindling aquatic life in rivers and oceans. This also adversely affects the soil where river water is used for irrigation.

Causes and effects of water pollution

 The third category which is noise pollution is the presence of excessive noise that may harm the activity or balance of human or animal life. The source of most outdoor noise worldwide is mainly machines and transportation system-motor vehicles, aircraft and trains.

 Noise pollution can cause hypertension, high-stress levels, hearing loss, sleep disturbances and other harmful effects.

 The threat from all the three kinds of pollution looms large before the Earth putting at risk the healthy existence of life.

 It is essential to control all three forms of pollution. To control air pollution, environmentalists suggest emission norms for vehicles and industries. Also, extending and preserving the green cover is one of the measures to combat air pollution as trees inhale carbon dioxide and release oxygen into the air.

Population also plays a big role in this, as the increase in population leads to more usage of resources and hence, more pollution.

 Besides, the Indian government has also set emission caps for industries. To control water pollution, the government has set-up enforcement and monitoring agencies to oversee that industrial waste is discharged into water bodies only after proper treatment. The government has also taken steps to curb the noise generated by industries through licensing etc. and discouraging honking, late-night loud music etc.

While the government is doing its bit to combat all kinds of pollution, it is also our responsibility to lend a helping hand in this monumental task.

 It is common to cuss nature when it comes to devastation due to its unpredictability but this is something we owe to ourselves and to our future generations, for this evil if not kept under check can obliterate life on Earth.

Designing the Buyer Centric Funnel

In these industrial times, all the companies want to bait their customers, in fact for a much longer time than just one visit or purchase. This leads to continuous, relentless competition in the markets for the purpose of bagging more and more loyal customers. This is where the use of a Sales Funnel enters the talk. But is it possible to keep your customers devoted to your product without a well-designed, blockage-free funnel? The answer is ‘no’.  A sales funnel signifies the path which is taken by a customer from being just an explorer of your product to being a loyal customer for a long time. Through this article, we will go into depths of a customer’s psychology and get some insights on how to design a “buyer centric-funnel”.

Understanding the Funnel

The requirement of an effective method for better sales of a company’s product cannot be dismissed, keeping in view of the increase in a feud for loyal customers in the market. Also, with the coming up of e-commerce sites, grabbing a customer’s attention will be the predominant field to work upon, for the sellers. 

  1. Awareness- This is the key point that should be kept in mind while designing the funnel. Awareness does most of the work when it comes to putting the customer in a phase of scrutiny. To start with, we need to put forward a problem in front of the customer and provide a promising solution for the latter to build up the curiosity. At this stage, we wouldn’t mention our product to the customer.
  2. Consideration- Here, we need our customer to get so intimate with the product that he/she starts knowing about it like the back of his/her hand. We need to give out demos, free trials, triggers and customer stories to the customer to build up their trust in our firm because, to sell to a customer, you have to barge into the thought process of a customer.
  3. Purchase- Now you have to sell the product to your buyer and assure your product stands out from the products of all your competitors.
  1. Get into your buyer’s head- That’s where the whole concept of ‘Understanding the buyer’s psychology’ comes in. We need to ask ourselves questions like “What inspires them to buy our product?”, “How can our product be a solution to their problems?”, “How can we redesign our product to fit their needs?” and work on the answers to these questions.
  2. Slogans- Through close study, we come to a conclusion that firms with good slogans are doing better off in the market. The slogans and advertisements of these firms draw customers by getting stuck inside their brains.
  3.  Quality Maintenance- The quality of your product and extended benefits to loyal customers also gives your firm a new standing among the competitors. We also need to carefully appraise the field where our product fails to deliver and redesign it with wit.

Flipping the Sales Funnel refers to the process of retaining the loyal customers of the firm to gain new customers. Some firms in the market tend to forget its old customers in search of a bigger reach and new customers which lead to the degradation of the firm’s reputation in the market.

To gain ground, we need to build new customers on top of the old ones which can be done by referrals of the consumers to one another. Referral and reputation go and hand in hand. In fact, referrals are the leading intermediary stage for building a good reputation for the firm. According to a survey, 92% of people trust referrals from people they know.

We also need to adapt to the new rules of the market and focus more on redesigning products according to the wants of our targets for our technique to be successful. Rewarding the everlasting customers will be a plus point to this.

The design of a proper sales funnel is the most crucial part for the firm and should be done with patience and sheer determination through proper study and fact consideration, for the firm to leave its mark in this market race.

“The best sales questions have your expertise wrapped into them.”

-Jill Konrat

How simple lifestyle changes can reverse most chronic diseases !

“Change comes with habit and perseverance.” Said my father through-out his whole existence. He always taught me the importance of “habits”. He emphasised how adapting to changes for your own good becomes easier when you start making it a part of your lifestyle. I was always given an example of our ancestors and how they lived a simple yet healthy life.

Bad habits can lead to serious diseases, often known as chronic diseases. Chronic diseases are defined as a human health condition or disease that is persistent or otherwise long-lasting in its effects or a disease that comes with time. In this article, we are going to talk about the various habits and how they can help in providing us a long and efficient life.

Physical conditions-

  • Atherosclerosis
  • Heart disease and stroke
  • Obesity
  •  Type 2 diabetes
  •  Hypertension
  •   Colon cancer
  • Premature mortality

Mental conditions-

  • Depression
  • Schizophrenia
  • Bipolar affective disorder
  • Obsessive-compulsive disorder (OCD)
  1. With the increase in the technological support in our lives, which has made life easier for some, the ill wind of the latter keeps on increasing day by day as well. While our adults keep on insisting on the fact that an organic and natural lifestyle is a healthy one, the introduction of covid-19 into this world last year has made it even more difficult for children to cut out this technology out of their lives since their entire work life is based off on it now. But excess usage of gadgets can lead to sleep deprivation which can become the ground for many serious diseases in the near future. Excess usage of mobile phones and keeping your phone near to yourself while sleeping gives a lot of bad radiations to your body leading to a weak immune system.  
  2.  Apart from professionalism, somewhere, people are trying to replace human relations with gadgets and failing terribly to do so in the long run. They are making apps to kill loneliness but failing to recognize the walking apps i.e their friends and family in their lives. As a result, depression has now evolved to be included in the category of “chronic illnesses” and can lead to physical disabilities. Our society has been oblivious to discussions about mental health for so long that mental conditions are proving out to be more dangerous than the physical ones in these times.  But being on your phone all the time doesn’t solve it, in fact, it is the breeding ground of these mental conditions, a fact our generations fails to acknowledge. In this case, having more and more human interactions and exposure apart from technology is a crucial part of your life and can bring about a lot of changes in your mental as well as physical health.
  3. Importance of a healthy diet- “You are what you eat.”  A healthy diet doesn’t only provide you with nutrition, it has a lot of other benefits as well. When you eat healthy, your mind generates a sensation of joy and pride in yourself. But don’t only go with the prescriptions of dieticians and health experts because everyone has a different body system. You have to figure out what keeps YOUR body healthy and happy individually. And even if you are eating unhealthy once in a while, make sure you are in control of your portion size.   
  4. Meditation- Simply giving just 10 minutes of your day to meditation can give your body enough oxygen and reduction in stress and anxiety. Just make sure you meditate close to nature because going organic is the key. Even if you are at your home, you can go close to plants at your house or your terrace and even in your balcony!
  5. Cleanliness- Practices like changing your pillow cover every week and sanitizing your phone every 2-3 days can provide you with a good hygiene and prevent you from getting many skin problems in life.
  6. Sleep on time- Sleeping really late at night has also been linked to many skin related problems according to research. This generation has brought about a trend of being a night owl which can surely bombard them with health issues later in life.

Your body and mind are the only two things which will stay with you for eternity and if we fail to keep them both in check, we will fail as a human. But the journey of turning towards a better lifestyle is mainly about self-analysis and figuring out what suits you the best and what makes you happy! So keep spreading love and be your own reason to smile!

Should India adapt A two child policy ?

The population of India is approximately 1.38 billion (as of 2021) and the population growth rate for 2020 is 0.99%. The population of our country has been majorly blamed for many of the problems that reside here. And the fact that the poor population has been the one rising much faster makes it even worse.
To this problem, the solution suggested by most of the citizens has been “A two child policy” in India. Similar to the one child policy adapted by China. Well, today we are going to analyse if adapting a two child policy will even help India in any way or not .

  1. The monopoly behind subsidies- Government basically spoon feeds the poor of our country if it fails to provide them with enough job opportunities. In the greed of more and more subsidies, the people from the impoverished section of the country make more children, as suggested by statistics.
  2. Reservation- There is more than enough reservations for the socially and economically backward sections in jobs and colleges. These people particularly have a better chance of getting money through these jobs if they have more children. As a result of this thought process, their population keeps on increasing.

In this context, a two child policy where subsidies and reservations are only provided till the extent of two children only might help in slowing down our population.

  1. Lack of awareness and moral education- The people, especially of the impoverished section of the society have not compulsorily been provided with enough moral and sex education. Some of them also see women as machines for producing children and there is also a lot of gender based discrimination because of the lack of values.
  1. Gender discrimination- Some of our politicians and judges have argued that a two child policy might result in an even steeper fall in the sex ratio of our country . It might result into more female foeticide in the face of following the government policy.
  2. Unsafe abortions- This policy might also result into a higher abortion rate in our country. People will move on to more unsafe abortions, again, due to the lack of knowledge and increasing poverty.
  3. Increased population contributes to GDP- The reason of India being in the third place in the whole world in terms of GDP, is its population (the manpower). Here, we can state that India’s major problem is not its population, but its failure in putting the use of the potential of that population to a more superficial use.
  4. Generation gap- Through the observation done on a case study of China, it can be concluded that a two child or one child policy can result into lesser young people (the working population) in a country and hence, the depletion of our economy.

In conclusion, while better laws are big need of the hour, better education is a bigger need of the hour ! And a resourceful environment can only be built with better values and belief system.

lgbtqia+ community in india

This is the best time around to write about this. Although the pride month is dedicated to queer rights, they sadly have to fight for their right to existence 24/7 and not only for a single month in the year. And as our laws are turning progressive day by day, giving us all hopes, the general mindset of our country just isn’t.

The people (especially of India) like to dismiss this topic in the name of preserving their “culture.” So here, we are going to talk about-if our culture really prohibits homosexuality or not. I am mainly going to talk about hinduism in this article since I am one and I can speak out the perspective.

I have heard the saying ” Homosexuality is a foreign concept” in my life enough number of times to do a proper research on it. But is it really?

The research proves out to be quite conflicting. It is now being said that the stigma around homosexuality and sex education is, in fact, a foreign concept “gifted” to us by the britishers when they colonized us. The liberals keep their perspective that homosexuality and even polyamory was “recognized” in the ancient history of India, and they keep forward various ancient carvings, books and art as proof.

While on the other side of the spectrum, some people have argued that the carvings were made by poor carvers who projected their knowledge and fantasies through their art, since talking about it was socially unacceptable at that time. The truth can actually fall on any side of the spectrum but we can’t be oblivious to the fact that our gods did not forbid homosexuality either. In fact, they represented the communities.

“Many deities in Hinduism and Indian epics are represented as both male and female at different times and in different incarnations or may manifest with characteristics of both genders at once, such as Ardhanarishvara, created by the merging of the god Shiva and his consort Parvati whose half right body is full male body and half left body is full.

Many chronicles of changes in sex and polyamory are often found both in traditional religious narratives such as the Vedas, Mahabharata, Ramayana and Puranas as well as in regional folklore. But then again, there are no direct mentions and so, these interpretations might go on to hurt religious sentiments.

Regardless of whether our pasts and religions have shown proves of supporting the community or not, our society should unfold to progress towards a world where all human beings are valid and loved. Because in my interpretation of a “religion”, peace and love comes before beliefs and rules. God supports humans who support other humans in overcoming their battles in life.

  1. Moral education- We have been pressing on the topic of proper sex education in schools while letting the importance of home values and life skills slip. Because education starts at home and that’s where a child is mainly raised. Although, moral education in schools is very good start, it should be modified to not only focus on children, but on parents as well.
  2. Better inclusion in the parliaments and mainstream media – People and especially children need to realize that the people belonging to the LGBTQIA+ community are also normal human beings like them and are capable of handling honorable positions.
  3. Inclusion of struggles and stories in the curriculum- Children need to know from the very beginning that this world has been pretty cruel and this world needs determined people to bring about a change which is the need of the hour.
  4. Individual change- Speak up against any prejudice in your households or anywhere else. The topic of homosexuality is pretty massive, so don’t step back when it comes to educating yourself and other people about this.

“Equality means more than passing laws. The struggle is really won in the hearts and minds of the community, where it really counts.” – Barbara Gittings

Because nobody gets the right to prohibit someone else from living their lives. So just keep spreading love !

The rising rape cases in India

Rape is the fourth most common crime against women in India. And sadly, almost 95% of rape cases in India go unreported. The rape SURVIVORS (not victims) get oppressed because of the societal stigma.

There have been debates around how rapes can be stopped by giving a stricter capital punishment and appropriate sex education. But is that it? No, there are several contexts where we, as a society, are messing up.

  • It is more than obvious that our great society has gone to the extents of blaming a victim to the core for what she was wearing and at what time she was out of her home. But what these people tend to overlook are some basic statistics. In approximately 94.2% of rape cases, the accused was known to the victim and in most cases, relatives were found to be guilty for the latter. In contradiction to these facts, some reknowned people have also went on to give horrendous statements like-“Rape cases have been constantly rising because women have stepped out of their homes to work.” And these statements are mostly given by very educated people.
  • On the other hand, our laws believe that only one gender can be abused and is not ready for the inclusion of violence and non-consensual sex against anyone other than women in the list of “lawful crimes”. The definition of the term “rape” in itself gives an impression of a crime only a man can do against a woman.

Whenever a brutal rape crime shakes our country, people go on to demand mob lynching and death penalty for the guilty. But there are no statistics to prove that capital punishments will reduce this crime. In fact, it can result into repercussions on the victim itself.

Studies conducted by psychologists on rapists and murders side by side prove that- while murderers were well aware of what they were getting themselves into, rapists mostly blamed the victims for what had happened to them and it comes as no surprise that this notion comes from the societal practice of victim blaming.

  1. Moral education – The whole argument points towards moral education as a part of our curriculum as the need of the hour. People highlight the importance of sex education, but moral education would play a more massive role in this.
  2. Better environment for raising children- Parents should be given basic counselling on the values to be imparted to their children and how they should be raised. The way children are raised can affect a child’s mentality and the kind of human being they will go on to become in their future.
  3. Better conviction rate- The conviction rate in India is only 30%. In this case, rapists think that even if they get caught, there is very little chance that they will get actually get convicted or punished for the crime they have committed. The amount of pending cases in our courts make this scenario even worse.
  4. A better society- All the above points will automatically result in a better environment for the survivors and people in general which is the ultimate goal.

“Rape is the only crime in which the victim goes to become the accused.”

And are we ever going to speak up against that?

Climate crisis and the pandemic surrounding it

People have a perception that 2020 has brought them in the midst if a pandemic and it to be solely blamed for all the ruckus in their lives. What can I say, we all are humans ultimately, we are designed to blame other things in this universe for our own wrong doings. What most people don’t realize right now that isn’t supposedly just a limited pandemic which can be cured with the help of a vaccine, it is, in fact, a full fledged climate and health crisis. THESE ARE THE REPERCUSSIONS OF OUR OWN DOINGS !!

It comes as no surprise that India is ranked fourth among the list of countries most affected by climate change and it emits almost 7% of global emissions in the world. As a result, our daily temperatures keep on rising and glaciers keep on melting.

This crisis is being mainly caused by the society’s on-going cut throat competition regarding the limited resources of this planet, and of course, the merciless exploitation of our nature. We are over using our fossil fuels and the government keeps on cutting down trees to showcase the development being brought about by them. In India, all the issues over any crisis, soon goes on to become the puppets of politics.

This crisis is being mainly caused by the society’s on-going cut throat competition regarding the limited resources of this planet, and of course, the merciless exploitation of our nature. We are over using our fossil fuels and the government keeps on cutting down trees to showcase the development being brought about by them. In India, all the issues over any crisis, soon goes on to become the puppets of politics.

  • Power Plants
  • Transportation
  • Farming
  • Deforestation
  • Fertilizers
  • Oil Drilling
  • Natural Gas Drilling
  • Permafrost
  1. Population control- According to statistics, India is projected to overtake China in terms of population within forty years. The population of a country is directly linked to the amount of resources required to survive in it. The monopoly behind resources will continue to prevail till we don’t take adequate steps to control the population and curb the climatic crisis. For the same, many population bills were raised in the Indian parliament to they continue to be stuck in the roaring politics.
  2. Pollution control- This is one of the most obvious ones. Our government took many steps for this but they continue to fail because of the lack of dedication regarding them in the citizens and the government of India. Also, pollution can automatically be controlled by population control.
  3. Reuse, Recycle, Reward- The government can introduce certain awards and rewards to encourage people to go green. We all agree that one who misuses our resources shall be punished, but along with it, one who saves it shall also be appreciated. The government can voluntarily, also provide extended support to the producers and small scale shops who take an extra step for ensuring environment safety.
  4. Volunteer at NGO and in real life- Speak up for the right! You can also extend your support towards the cause by working in NGOs. You can also join protests regarding that.
  5. Environment friendly methods- This is where the talk about awareness and action comes in. On the internet, we can find tons of daily life ways on preserving the environment but what about the people who don’t have an access to the social media? Adequate laws and awareness programmes should be released.

I would like to end this with a powerful quote by MARSHALL MCLUHAN-

“There are no passengers on this spaceship earth. We are all crew.”

We already have the solutions to the problems. All we need to do is to wake up and change!

Casual racism in India

Racism against Indians living in the northeastern region has been increasing day by day and is an issue of concern. States like Assam, Nagaland, Mizoram, and others surrounding it are the main ones to be part of the northeast.

 Recently, a Youtuber even got arrested for allegedly “defaming” the people of Andhra Pradesh and accusing them of being Chinese. While this was a good step and start, we are all aware of how casually the people of northeast India are called slangs like “Ch*nki”, “momo” etc. and no action is taken against them because it is so very engraved in our society now, that practicing this is not an offense. We must not forget how many spectacular pieces of art the north Indian part has contributed to India and continues to do so even now.

The simple answer to this is- The mentality. It’s not a big revelation that casual racism is not faced only by the northeastern people but by all the people belonging to different and seemingly “unconventional” parts of India. It comes out that our Indian society likes to put people into boxes and parts according to their skin color and way of living.

When I look around myself, I usually have this realization that most people are not even aware of the fact that using slangs and treating them differently is, in fact, wrong, which pilots us to our first point –

  1. Awareness- This is the most obvious but crucial point. People need to know that THIS is wrong in the first place. And I know that it is better said than done, but, at this point of time, even the so-called “progressive youth” of India is simply not ready to take up this topic into talks. “Black lives matter” was in the news rigorously for so long, as it should have been. But in my opinion, we should focus on making things right in our country first.
  2. Better representation in the media and government- This is absolutely no diversity when it comes to people from differing communities being recruited in the mainstream media and the parliament. This will even be a catalyst in achieving a society and country where decisions are made equally in the favor of all communities.
  3. Highlighting the achievements- The media plays a very big role in this one. We need to show our people that people from the northeast contribute a lot to the potency of India as a country.
  4. Better job opportunities and laws for all Although it’s nice to see that small steps have started to be taken by our government now, we all know that we still have a very long way to go to attain utter equality in all the fields.
  5. Speaking up -This point is valid for any kind of prejudice you witness in your life and can make the biggest change ever. Don’t be a standbyer when someone is being mistreated in this world because hashtags can’t save the world, only we can.

Ultimately, We are the change that we seek in this world.

Today, China is trying its best to gradually break India apart and snatch it’s parts little by little. And will Indians be able to survive this if they make it easier for China to tear us apart by disintegrating themselves on the basis of their race and language and whatnot? I wish I could say ‘yes’ to this question right now.