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A trip to cherish!

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When my Nani and I were drinking chai and chatting about random topics a few days ago at her home in Surat, she began talking about her early years spent in Ahmedabad. She told me about her family, the people there, the delectable food, the holidays she celebrated with them, and the spots where she used to hang out with her friends. Her descriptions piqued my enthusiasm for travelling to Ahmedabad and exploring the city.

          So, the following morning, I was prepared with my bag and a train ticket in hand and departed for the station after bidding my family farewell. I travelled with one of my cousins because she had visited Ahmedabad previously and was familiar with the area’s landmarks. We left Surat station at eight in the morning and arrived at Ahmedabad station around noon after a four-hour journey. Later on arriving at my cousin’s home, we relaxed there for a while before starting our city tour. I still can remember how I couldn’t contain my excitement to explore the places.

                    We started our trip at Jama Masjid. 

            We learned that the mosque was constructed by Ahmad Shah in 1424. The mosque’s architecture was such that it gleamed beautifully in the sunlight. 

                   The tombs of the male and female members of Ahmad Shah’s royal family, Badshah no Hajiro and Rani no Hajiro, respectively, were the next stop on our tour. Since women couldn’t enter Badshah no Hajiro, we snapped some photos of the monument from the outside.

                  On arriving at the female tomb, we discovered that the street leading there had changed to serve as a neighbourhood women’s market. I was surprised to find an antique jewellery piece at the market that I could afford to buy for my Nani as a souvenir, given that antiques are typically pricey.

                  After a few hours of exploring these monuments, we went to Manek chowk’s hustling and bustling market. It was late in the evening so it was pretty crowded with people. The aroma of the delicious street food hit us and we decided to dive in. We tried some of the popular food items of the chowk which includes Ghugra sandwich, Gotala Dosa, Fafda Jalebi, Dhokla and Methi Gota. I can still remember how delicious they tasted. We wound up exploring for the day.

                On the second day of the tour,  we started with having breakfast at a well-known neighbourhood eatery and later travelled to the Sabarmati Ashram. We learnt about its history and spoke with the women who worked there, who gave us information about the Ashram and the city’s rich culture. The ashram was exquisitely constructed.

                 The Sabarmati Riverfront was our next stop, followed by the lakeside flower garden. From the riverfront, there was a breathtaking vista.

                 The third and final day of my journey to Ahmedabad, I made the decision to wrap it up by going to the Utkantheshwar Temple in Sarkhej. It made me feel divine and grateful for my decision to travel to Ahmedabad. This city is truly, incredibly extraordinary.

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Key to Happiness

What is happiness? It is something demanded by each and every being on this planet. People search for happiness in books, lectures, speaker sessions, etc, but where actually happiness lies? This articles discusses some key points of happiness and how to achieve them:

“Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.” – Abraham Lincoln

Happiness is the end of every action and is the ultimate goal of human being. As defined by Aristotle :

“Happiness is the meaning and the purpose of life , the whole aim and end of human existence.”

Feelings

Do you have any idea what feelings actually are? There are people who know it, there might be people who don’t know. Feeling are actually your true personality.

Feelings actually represent your true personality. Like for instance we know many people around us cry by Justin emotional scene in the movie, what does it represent? It represents that they are soft hearted people it’s a part of the personality, they are emotional.

And in this world you cannot actually categorise feelings because in human there are so many types of feeling that we can’t even express many of them. We have sometimes very weird feelings that we can’t even express them. Just think it yourself you might be having such feelings at some point in your life.

A feeling of joy, a feeling of happiness, a feeling of sadness, a feeling of embarrassment etc. The list goes on and on and on. Here we meet categorised feeling in some of the specified sections, but the reality is that they are really very vast.

Sometime we have combinations of feelings together that we can’t give it a new name. And in reality your personality e is Defined by how you feel about each and everything around you. Feelings are a part of your thoughts. How we think of each and everything, ultimately develop feelings in everybody. That’s why everybody have different feelings in a same situation.

What it means when you find yourself detaching from society?

Do you constantly find yourself cutting off from people without any reason? The feeling that you don’t belong? A major reason for such thoughts is that you find it difficult to blend in with your friends and family. While such mindset is not something permanent, it can develop from a constant state of neglect and lack of affection.

It is not necessary that such state of mind arises in only those who are generally closed off by nature. There is a larger percentage of so-called ‘extroverts’ who also suffer with the same complexion.

While this situation generally arises from a change in friend circle, or after losing a loved one, breakup, or a change in surroundings. Some other reasons like depression, heavy medicines, illness or other social factors can also be an imminent variable.

Some people can also call it a ‘Retreat’, a means to detach from society in order to better focus on their upcoming projects, a major people comprising this class will consist of authors, artists, and such other people in need of peace and tranquility.

The case is not always same for teenagers and young adults. Retreating from society in an abrupt manner is major teller of mental illness, depression, as it is generally termed. While it is not uncurable, a major support is required from family and loved ones in most cases. Emotional support goes a long way in providing support and a feeling of togetherness.



This does not mean that a person who appears to be detached from the general colorful society is weak. That would be a gross understatement. Such people are generally in need of a closure with whatever is it that they have suffering with. No other person can help solve this condition other than the person who suffers from it. All others can-do is provide an understanding gesture and emotional support.

The best ways to deal with such a swing of emotion could be to try to talk to someone and share your thoughts. Other than that, going out for a walk or eating your favorite dish will help make you feel better! The one thing that is imperative through the whole process is that you will emerge Stronger. A better version of your own self. With a better view of your dreams and desires. The only quality required is to have faith and be kind to yourself.

Think of your future self 5 or 10 years from now and how thankful they would be to you that in spite of all the hardships thrown your way, you held on, that is all that is required.

Just hold on!

Written by: Ananya Kaushal

What Is Happiness?

Happiness is an electrifying and elusive state. Philosophers, theologians, psychologists, and even economists have long sought to define it. And since the 1990s, a whole branch of psychology—positive psychology—has been dedicated to pinning it down. More than simply positive mood, happiness is a state of well-being that encompasses living a good life, one with a sense of meaning and deep contentment.

Feeling joyful has its health perks as well. A growing body of research also suggests that happiness can improve your physical health; feelings of positivity and fulfillment seem to benefit cardiovascular health, the immune system, inflammation levels, and blood pressure, among other things. Happiness has even been linked to a longer lifespan as well as a higher quality of life and well-being.

Attaining happiness is a global pursuit. Researchers find that people from every corner of the world rate happiness more important than other desirable personal outcomes, such as obtaining wealth, acquiring material goods, and getting into heaven.

How to Be Happy

Happiness is not the result of bouncing from one joy to the next; researchers find that achieving happiness typically involves times of considerable discomfort. Genetic makeup, life circumstances, achievements, marital status, social relationships, even your neighbors—all influence how happy you are. Or can be. So do individual ways of thinking and expressing feelings. Research shows that much of happiness is under personal control.

Regularly indulging in small pleasures, getting absorbed in challenging activities, setting and meeting goals, maintaining close social ties, and finding purpose beyond oneself all increase life satisfaction. It isn’t happiness per se that promotes well-being, it’s the actual pursuit that’s key.

Signs of a Happy Person

A couple celebrating.

Happy people live with purpose. They find joy in lasting relationships, working toward their goals, and living according to their values. The happy person is not enamored with material goods or luxury vacations. This person is fine with the simple pleasures of life—petting a dog, sitting under a tree, enjoying a cup of tea. Here are a few of the outward signs that someone is content.

  • Is open to learning new things
  • Is high in humility and patience
  • Smiles and laughs readily
  • Goes with the flow
  • Practices compassion
  • Is often grateful
  • Exercises self-care
  • Enjoys healthy relationships
  • Is happy for other people
  • Gives and receives without torment
  • Lives with meaning and purpose
  • Does not feel entitled and has fewer expectations
  • Is not spiteful or insulting
  • Does not hold grudges
  • Does not register small annoyances
  • Does not angst over yesterday and tomorrow
  • Does not play games
  • Is not a martyr or victim
  • Is not stingy with their happiness

Myths of Happiness

Misperceptions abound when it comes to what we think will make us happy. People often believe that happiness will be achieved once they reach a certain milestone, such as finding the perfect partner or landing a particular salary.

Humans, however, are excellent at adapting to new circumstances, which means that people will habituate to their new relationship or wealth, return to a baseline level of happiness, and seek out the next milestone. Fortunately, the same principle applies to setbacks—we are resilient and will most likely find happiness again.

Regarding finances specifically, research shows that the sweet spot for yearly income is between $60,000 and $95,000 a year, not a million-dollar salary. Earnings above $95,000 do not equate to increased well-being; a person earning $150,000 a year will not necessarily be as happy as a person earning a lot less.

The type of thoughts below exemplify these misconceptions about happiness:

  • “I’ll be happy when I’m rich and successful.”
  • “I’ll be happy when I’m married to the right person.”
  • “Landing my dream job will make me happy.”
  • “I can’t be happy when my relationship has fallen apart.”
  • “I will never recover from this diagnosis.”
  • “The best years of my life are over.”

Positive Psychology

Positive psychology is the branch of psychology that explores human flourishing. It asks how individuals can experience positive emotions, develop authentic relationships, find flow, achieve their goals, and build a meaningful life.

Propelled by University of Pennsylvania psychologist Martin Seligman, the movement emerged from the desire for a fundamental shift in psychology—from revolving around disease and distress to providing the knowledge and skills to cultivate growth, meaning, and fulfillment.

Happiness Over the Lifespan

Every person has unique life experiences, and therefore unique experiences of happiness. That being said, when scientists examine the average trajectory of happiness over the lifespan, some patterns tend to emerge. Happiness and satisfaction begin relatively high, decrease from adolescence to midlife, and rise throughout older adulthood.

What makes someone happy in their 20s may not spark joy in their 80s, and joy in someone’s 80s may have seemed irrelevant in their 20s. It’s valuable for people to continue observing and revising what makes them happy at a given time to continue striving for fulfillment throughout their lifetime.

Happiness and Health

Health and happiness are completely intertwined. That’s not to say that people with illnesses can’t be happy, but that attending to one’s health is an important—and perhaps underappreciated—component of well-being.

Researchers have identified many links between health and happiness—including a longer lifespan—but it’s difficult to distinguish which factor causes the other. Making changes to diet, exercise, sleep, and more can help everyone feel more content.

Dance A Stress Buster

Dance wether zumba, hip-hop, Kathak, bhangra, garba, dandiya, shuffle, house, chicago or freestyle is a way to express our thoughts and feelings without the need of words or expression.

It’s an art that let’s your creativity being expressed through the medium of your hands, legs and body. It does not have any specific way to do it, it is unique to everyone’s own creativity. It is just expressing your heart out. It need not be in front of everyone to show-off your skills in dance, it is actually to free yourself and dance the way you want, maybe in a closed room in front of a camera of mirror.

The actually essence of dance is being what you are, doing what you like, just for yourself and nobody else. It is like a stress buster, which helps you to take all your worries, frustration, anger, happiness out and makes you feel a relaxed. And if you dance happily it even have positive effect on your body, helps you to stay fit. It helps to develop your personality.

If you are really want to dance you can join a dance club or group, which helps you to interact with new people, expand you world from just home to school, college or office. You find like minded people it motivates you to be more expressive in your life.

And ultimately I want to say, you want to join a club or not it’s your decision, it actually doesn’t matter, the thing matter is just ‘Dance Your Heart Out’ that’s it, no matter in club, stage or just in a room.

DANCE YOUR HEART OUT

Secrets to becoming wealthy from Famous Billionaires

Secrets revealed by famous billionaires being successful in this or that way is what we all want to achieve from Mark Zuckerberg to Elon Musk following their simple success principles is guaranteed to change your life.

Find your goal and formulate it correctly

Steve Jobs did not want to release a phone his goal is a phone that could function as a computer but was easy to use your goal should be specific. For Example, you like to bake cakes and you would like to do it more often and give some profit out of it I want to bake cakes for money is an incorrect way to formulate your goal the right goal would be to open a bakery where my cakes will be sold if you dream of a world tour it will be wrong to set a goal I want to travel the world it’s a wish not a goal the right formulation would be I want to earn twenty thousand dollars for my travels. 

Make a plan and follow it

Hypothetically if we explain the situation then it should be, How are you going to travel around the world what kind of Transportation are you going to use what will be your route when are you going to start planning short term and long term goals to help to identify weaknesses and major tasks that need to be focused on perhaps after drawing up the plan you will understand that your goal is not to earn twenty thousand dollars for a trip on a liner but to find like-minded people for hitchhiking around the world Elon Musk wants to colonize Mars having drawn up the plan he concluded that the main obstacle was the high cost of flying to the Red Planet now Elon is busy developing more economical space transport.

Don’t hold yourself back

You’ve probably heard about such a thing as emotional intelligence it is the ability not to suppress but to manage your emotions and display them where it’s appropriate also suppressed emotions are worse than physical well-being therefore do not be shy to show you true feelings and emotions at least for visiting doctors less often look at Oprah Winfrey for example that strong powerful woman always speaks up and shows how she truly feels about something that matters to her. 

Love what you do

Truly loving what you do and believing in its importance if you are not obsessed with your own business or the goal you are aiming at the path to success will be long and most likely endless if you’re not in love with your job it’s difficult to change your attitude towards it if you cannot quit trying to consider your current position as a tool to achieve your goal. For example, Once Mark Zuckerberg shared his favourite story that in 1962 John Kennedy visited the NASA Space Center in one of the offices he noticed the cleaner who was so engrossed in sweeping the floor that he did not even notice him, “Hi I’m John Kennedy what are you doing here” Kennedy addressed him then the janitor answered, “I’m working so that humanity could go to the moon Mr. president”.

Do what feels right to you

There will always be people giving you advice and offering you once-in-a-lifetime opportunities they might be indeed doing it trying to help you however taking the decision only out of fear that the opportunity will be lost is wrong let your personal beliefs and inspiration move you not fear only do what feels right to you and when it feels right to you follow Warren Buffett’s advice “you don’t have to swing at everything you can wait for your pitch”.

Spent money consciously

If you are obsessed with your goal then the refusal of a dress or any other impulse purchase will be an easy task for you. For Example, If you need to buy another dress go ahead but before you do it consider how much closer this dress will bring you to your goal Steve Jobs used to say spending a dollar wisely is more difficult than earning it that’s very wise weren’t you going to travel around the world maybe it’s better to buy sneakers in which it will be more comfortable to hitchhike or to take a foreign language course without which it will be difficult to organize a budget trip 

Use your time wisely

Time is a valuable resource and one should also approach it in a conscious way just like spending money Mark Zuckerberg is positive that you can’t succeed if you spend your energy on stupid and frivolous things so he is trying to cleanse his life from things that don’t have any sense choosing clothes is one of those things according to him no surprise we see him in the same great t-shirt every day we all have more significant time consumers than choosing clothes, For Example, the inability to say no to gossip social media the wish to do several tasks simultaneously and then stop halfway all these things consume the time that would be better invested in yourself just like other resources.

Set priorities

It is impossible to be successful in everything. For Example, Elon Musk believes in solar systems but understands that he doesn’t have enough strength for everything that’s why he dedicated himself to Tesla and SpaceX and the Solar City project is managed by other specialists the habit of prioritizing is useful not only in work but also in other aspects of life if you decided to spend an evening with your family do not get distracted by work and friends the desire to succeed in everything will not only lead to failure but will also consume your energy.

Say no to Stereotypes

Many of you have heard these things from other people that, “woman’s place is in the kitchen”, “real men don’t cry”, “we need children to have someone taking care of us when we are old” how often do you hear those stereotypes distort our perception of reality and also prevent us from having a good life achieving our goals and being happy it was the desire to be different from others that helped many billionaires become what they are today. Steve Jobs knew what he was talking about your time is limited that’s why you shouldn’t lose it by living other people’s lives do not fall into the trap of dogma do not let the noise of other people’s opinions beat your inner voice.

Live not only for yourself

For modern billionaires philanthropy is a spiritual priority many of them spend money to support the needy to develop art education and medicine Bill Gates and Warren Buffett started them The Giving Pledge campaign the idea of which is donating 50% of their income to charity there are more than 150 participants in this campaign including Mark Zuckerberg, George Lucas, Victor Pinchuk, and Vladimir Putin in giving someone your time attention and energy means investing in them prioritizing correctly is important children in orphanages or animals and shelters need your time.

The principles described above won’t make your billionaire overnight but success doesn’t always mean money it’s also about doing what you love and feeling happy.

Mini Movie Review|It touched the hearts but not the brains

A character played by Kirti Sanon personifies surrogacy through Mimi who was aspired to chase her dreams but couldn’t fulfill it.

Nothing like you are expecting!!

Cast: Kirti Sanon, Pakaj Tripathi, Sai Tamhankar, Supriya Pathak, Manoj Pahwa

Director: Laxman Utekar

In a patriarchal society like India, women have always been under the umbrella of the community. It’s barely seen in the families who support a girl’s dream and accept her to be a dancer.

The movie begins with the introduction of a foreign couple who came to India in the search of a surrogate. After long hours of work, they were finally able to find a girl with the help of the driver (a role played by Pankaj Tripathi) in a hotel. Mimi(the girl) was a dancer and getting influenced by its flexibility they decided to offer her 20 lakhs to be the surrogate. Being an ambitious 25-year old woman agrees to take the risk for the same of becoming a famous Bollywood actress. She decides to live at her friend’s house by convincing the parents saying, she is going to a film shoot. With the required procedure, Mimi becomes the surrogate, and for the first four months, she was having a good time with the pregnancy. However, after eight months tests revealed that the baby is suffering from some mental disorder. This news outraged the couple and they decided not to accept the baby after birth and told Mimi to abort. This became the turning point in her life. She sacrificed all her dreams by deciding to give birth to the child and raise him. Later, the couple returned to her after 2 years when they came to know that the baby was born healthy. Mimi refused to give the child back and in the end, they decided to adopt a girl.

Message

  • A girl is also born with a dream and her character is not decided with what she pursues but what she is.
  • The support of family is crucial in the darkest times. Mimi faced all the criticisms from society but her parents never let her alone and accepted her as she was.
  • Killing is not an option. It’s not the fault of a child to be born unhealthy.
  • One loyal friend is more important than a group of unloyal ones. The driver and the friend were with Mimi till the end, helping her go through all the difficulties with a smile.

Every coin has two sides. Even though the movie won the hearts of the audience, it faced several criticisms like not following the laws related to a sensitive topic of surrogacy, using the term casually, and disrespect towards the decision of abortions.

It played with the emotions well, yet failed to manipulate the thoughts.

Book review: A novel: It ends with us

BOOK:- It ends with us

AUTHOR:- Colleen Hoover

GENRES:- It is a standalone contemporary romance novel, fiction.

RELEASE DATE:- 2nd August, 2016.

ADAPTATIONS:- It ends with us (play) and It ends with us (movie).

MAIN CHARACTERS:- Lily Bloom ( female protagonist), Ryle Kincaid ( Lily’s husband, a surgeon) & Atlas Corrigan ( Lily’s teenage love interest, a homeless boy later owner of a restraunt). And many supporting characters like Lily’s father, her mother, ryle’s sister, his sister’s husband, ryle’s mother.

“ Fifteen seconds, That’s all it takes to completely change everything about a person. Fifteen seconds that we’ll never get back.”

– Line said by the protagonist Lily in the book.

SUMMARY:-

The book starts with introducing the female protagonist Lily Bloom. Lily is a twenty-three year old business graduate. She has grown up in an abusive family where her father was usually abusive towards her mother. At the age of fifteen she fell in love with Atlas, a eighteen year old homeless boy from her neighbourhood. She cares for Atlas. She loved him so much. But he left her promising to come to her when he will join military. She was all alone at this time but she didn’t loose hope. She left her past life and started her own flower business in Boston.

In Boston, she met Ryle, a neurosurgeon and soon fall in love with him. But he was not ready to be in a relationship and they parted their ways. After six months, Lily hired an employee named Allysa, who was Ryle’s sister. After many encounters Ryle finally realised that he can’t live without Lily so decided to marry her. Everything was perfect, the romance between Ryle and Lily was increasing day by day. One day Ryle decided to meet Lily and her mother, there she encounters Atlas, and was not able to control her feelings, which was not loves by Ryle for sure. Slowly he started to abuse her,Whenever he can. Lily always told herself that she was not like her mother and Ryle was not like her father.

She started to live with Ryle and she found a deep dark past of Ryle and was shocked. His behaviour towards Lily was being more and more abusive day by day until one day when he can’t control himself and almost raped her. She asked Atlas help in that situation and found that she was pregnant. She doesn’t know whether to love Ryle or hate him for his behaviour. After two months she witnessed a knock on her door and she was sacred to find that he was none other than Ryle. He told her that he just came to talk to her and he did so, but she wasn’t happy with it. She missed him. But also she cannot forget what he did to her. And the story continues how ryle’s sister and Lily’s mother help her, how she allowed Ryle to be with her in her pregnancy dates, how she told Ryle what she felt about him.

BOOK REVIEW:-

Overall the book is just beyond fabulous The characters, the narration and everything seems to be perfect. I personally loved the character of Lily and Atlas. Lily’s strong decision and ability to do justice to herself and her daughter was remarkable. The narration was so strong that you will personally think of yourself in the characters place.

Firstly while reading the book I thought it will be just an average but as soon the book started every single page hooked me to read more and more. Especially I loved the narration it was just awesome. The character of Lily was so very incredible. Atlas has great chemistry with Lily like after so long they had the same feelings for each other.

This is the must read book though sometimes the story didn’t bother me but it was such a great piece of writing that can’t be expressed in words. I hadn’t given the spoiler because it would be far better to read and enjoy it at the same time.

Simple Steps to Overcome Anxiety

Here are some steps that will help to overcome anxiety –

  • Just Breathe

One way to reconnect the mind to the body is breathing. Deep breathing helps you calm down and put your mind at ease. Take a slow breath in through the nose, hold it for 1 or 2 seconds and then exhale slowly through your mouth. Wait a few seconds before taking another breath. About 6-8 breathing cycles per minute is often helpful to decrease anxiety. As clinical psychologist Ryan Howes, Ph.D., “A big struggle right now is that with all the emotions people are feeling, it can be hard to tease out and identify what’s going on.”

  • Writing Down Your Thoughts

Writing down your thoughts, positive or negative, helps you gain perspective and feel better. It is one of the effective ways to monitor and control your anxiety is to keep track of your symptoms and the techniques that help you control them.

“You cannot always control what goes on outside, but you can always control what goes on inside.”

– Wayne Dyer

  • Get Quality Sleep

Anxiety is directly connected to sleeping problems. Excess worry and fear make it harder to fall asleep. Sleep is the time when your body gets time to recharge. Trying relaxation techniques or breathing techniques can help you to fall asleep quickly. Try to get at least 7-8 hours of sleep each night. 

  • Exercise Regularly

Exercise not only helps to prevent anxiety but also improves several mental health-related problems including depression, anxiety, and panic attacks. Regular exercise helps you take your mind off worries and releases feel-good endorphins that can enhance your sense of well-being.

  • Positive Thinking and Self-Talk

Positive thinking doesn’t mean that you keep your head in the sand and ignore life’s less pleasant situations. Positive thinking just means that you approach unpleasantness more positively and productively. You think the best is going to happen, not the worst. Positive thinking often starts with self-talk. Self-talk is the endless stream of unspoken thoughts that run through your head. These thoughts can be positive or negative. This enables you to cope better with stressful situations.

  • Work-Life Balance

Work-life balance is adjusting your day-to-day activities to achieve a sense of balance between work life and personal life. Balancing the demands of a busy lifestyle is not an easy thing to do, but is best managed by regularly reviewing and assessing your priorities. Anxiety can develop if an individual is unable to achieve a healthy work-life balance.

  • Positive Affirmations

Positive affirmations can change your negative thoughts to a positive ones. If you start focusing on what can be done rather than what can’t and begin to focus more on solutions than problems, then this can lower your stress levels by helping you feel more in control. Surrounding yourself with positive people who love you and believe in you.

  • Adjust Your Diet

There aren’t any diet changes that can cure anxiety. Try these steps –

  • Drink plenty of water
  • Limit or avoid alcohol
  • Limit or avoid caffeine 
  • Eat complex carbohydrates 
  • Eat lots of fresh fruits and vegetables, and don’t overeat

CHOOSE HAPPINESS

 LIFE

“We cry , since the day we were born” and so we have heard this line a lots of times . 

But as we grow we choose whether we want to cry or whether we want to remain strong , because who cries is a weak person . This mentality makes a lot of person depressed . They try not to show there emotions and they die inside everyday . Were you born to die like these? . No one will agree with these line . We are born to live life enjoy life and to utilize its maximum potential . 

WHY PEOPLE GET SAD , DEPRESSED?

Many a time you see , youngsters they say I am sad because my girlfriend left me .We laugh on such situations but is it a point of laughing . It is not , someone is sad and you choose to laugh is not that great idea . They are going through a phase that we might not understand . We are humans we need to understand our friends , our families and there pain.

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Choose happiness whenever you can . Teach others also how they can remain happy . Self satisfaction is the key .

Expectation

” The two way to be happy : improve

your reality or lower your expectation. “

Expectation. The real killer of our happiness is our expectation. What does an expectation mean we all know but why do we expect? Is it worthy? Do we get something more by expecting?

I think a person is solely responsible for their happiness. And you give that responsibility to another person when you expect from someone. Many people will now get frustate and say, “what rubbish are you saying? Expecting from someone we love or from someone we are attached to is not wrong.” Yes, of course it’s not wrong but it’s the enemy. Enemy of our happiness, our smile if they remain unmet. You don’t need to end up your all expectation. No. You just need to set a limit for then beyond which you can’t expect at any cost as if you did so, you are opening up a way for lots of disappointments. You often believe that like the way you have treated others, you will also get the same treatment in return. Here, the life plays it’s game and gives you a surprise with a very different behaviour. Either it will met you expectation or will go beyond your expectation, can ne very good or very bad.

See, if you have thought in advance that yes I’ll not get the same thing back, it can be good or bad, then congratulations buddy, you have prepared yourself for whatever the result would be. Nothing can disappoint or harm you then. If you don’t have expectations, you can never be disappointed.

” Expectation is the root of all heartache. “

                                                        –Shakespeare

Keeping too much expectation can destroy a relation too. Look, if you have high expectation from someone and if they fail to fulfil them, then what would be the result. Of course misunderstandings. And those misunderstandings are enough to break that relation.

” We can’t expect others to change – 

the only thing we can depend on successfully

changing out attitude towards them. “

Other people are not aware of what you are expecting from them and when those expectations remain unmet, we get upset that the person is not like what we have expected. How would he be? Did the person is aware of what you are expecting from him? The answer is no. It’s not the mistake of that person, it’s the fault of yours.

We don’t only expect from other humans, we also expect from our life, situations, etc. Life is not fair with anyone. Every person has a breakdown in their life at some point of their life. Reason for that can be anything. At that point many  people ask from their life, why me? Dear, you need to accept the fact that life is not fair with anyone and it’s not necessary that it will be fair with you all the time. It will check you over and over again. Rather than questioning you need to learn and fight.

Keeping high expectation either from life or from any person will always hurt you, disappoint you. So, if you want to live fearless and happy, just limit your expectations as much as you can and from everyone no matter how much you love them. The people we love the most can also turn into the person who can hurt us the most. Enjoy things while they last. Be okay when they break. Living without or little expectation requires accepting the worst and aiming for the best.

LIFE

LIFE

 

INTRODUCTION :

Life is a combination of good and bad times and one who has life probably seen different shades of life. In some cases the tones are striking and splendid and in some cases they are simply high contrast. Life is a test and one who has the fortitude and solidarity to confront it boldly is the person who goes through it and arises as an extraordinary and fruitful individual throughout everyday life. Each individual who has life is offered different chances to make his life cheerful and prosperous and the person who comprehends this clearly prevail throughout everyday life. Individuals who imagine that life is simple should realize how individuals who don’t have a home to live and food to eat get by on this planet.

PHASES OF LIFE :

Life places us in various circumstances of distress, melancholy, joy, rout, love, contempt, disappointment, achievement and substantially more. So one should understand this reality that life isn’t a walk in the park, it even has thistles which we need to acknowledge so we don’t get into a condition of sorrow and face existence with mental fortitude and energy.

There are times when we are cheerful about specific occasions throughout everyday life and celebrate such events with incredible excitement however we ought not fail to remember that life won’t generally give you organic products with out planting seeds occasionally. Along these lines, ensure you generally put forth the most ideal attempts to acquire accomplishment in life as without endeavors you can’t accomplish anything throughout everyday life.

VIEW ABOUT LIFE :

One should acknowledge this unpleasant truth that all sorts of challenges never keep going forever so one ought to consistently be prepared to confront troubles in life regardless of whether he’s on the highest point of the world. Furthermore, the person who is experiencing torment and wretchedness ought to likewise realize that there will be the point at which every one of his sufferings will end and life will offer him new freedoms to succeed.

CONCLUSION :

Life is lovely when you acknowledge each easily overlooked detail and disregard those that make you endure. It’s our own viewpoint that makes our life cheerful or hopeless, so one should have an uplifting outlook towards life to make it occurring and commendable.

 

 

Happiness

Is being happy a Sin? Happiness is something that each and every human needs and it is the most demanding thing in this universe. Sometimes we are hurt and we when we find our happiness missing, that will be the saddest part of human life. Happiness is the only thing that can expand your life span. But people now a days are dying at thirty’s and forty’s because of heart attacks and other sudden incidents. Peace gives you more birthdays’s in earth. Lead a peaceful life in this earth. There is only one life and we don’t know who cherished our birth and we’ll not know who cries on our death. Meanwhile there is this thing called life and we meet different people at different occassions. Just give them love and do something to add a smile on their faces. What you may do is a small help but because of that if someone receives a priceless reward called happiness then don’t ignore to keep them happy. Happiness is something that most people don’t receive because of their surrounding. The most happiest period is childhood and sone kids don’t even receive that because of broken families. Some lose their happiness among their co-workers in work place. Learn a simple principle in life, You are going to lose nothing by making others happy, by adding smile to someone else. Just make someone happy and you will know how happy it is to make someone else happy.

Music Therapy

Did you ever feel that therapy involves talk by a psychologist and nothing else could come under the domain of therapy?If your answer is yes,Then you are wrong!!Well times have changed my reader~

Therapies have come a long way to incorporate other clinically approved methods such as animal assisted therapy,food therapy,aroma therapy etc.Music Therapy is one clinically developed program by psychologists to assist speedy healing of their clients.In this blog,the readers would be introduced to the world of Music therapy.So lets get started!

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WHAT IS MUSIC THERAPY?

Music Therapy is the clinical and evidence-based use of music interventions to accomplish individualized goals within a therapeutic relationship by a credentialed professional who has completed an approved music therapy program.It is is an established health profession in which music is used within a therapeutic relationship to address physical, emotional, cognitive, and social needs of individuals. After assessing the strengths and needs of each client, the qualified music therapist provides the indicated treatment including creating, singing, moving to, and/or listening to music.

Through musical involvement in the therapeutic context, clients’ abilities are strengthened and transferred to other areas of their lives.This therapy also provides avenues for communication that can be helpful to those who find it difficult to express themselves in words. Research in music therapy supports its effectiveness in many areas especially emotional rehabilitation.

history

You all will be shocked to know that both world wars were the trigger that initiated the development of this therapy.During and after both World Wars, doctors and clinicians began to realize the powerful effects that music has on the healing process and requested that professional musicians be hired by the hospitals.This therapy first got officially recognized in the Michigan state university of the United States of America.Ultimately,The American Music Therapy Association (AMTA) was formed which focuses on creating more awareness about this wonderful therapy.

BENEFITS

Music therapy can benefit many individuals. The diverse nature of music means it can be applied in the treatment of concerns both physical and psychological.Since music can evoke positive emotions and improve brain health,Music therapy is said to manage and alleviate symptoms of mental health concern such as Depression, Mood issues,Anxiety,Schizophrenia,Substance abuse,Autism,Personality issues,Insomnia,Dementia etc.

In addition,Music therapy can improve the social,cognitive,emotional and motor functioning.This therapy was also effective in controlling patient’s situation in Alzheimer’s,Cancer and Hypertension.

Music therapy is frequently administered to reduce stress levels and pain perception of females in labor.This novel therapy has also been linked with improvements in self-esteem, self-concept, verbal communication, prosocial behavior, socialization skills, group cohesion, and coping skills.

Limitations

Even the most beautiful things have flaws,and so has music therapy.One of the major drawback is that this therapy cannot be used as a stand-alone therapy.The music therapy is also known as music assisted therapy implying it’s sole purpose is to assist the main therapy applied by the clinician on the client to produce fast results and relief.

Also,the music therapy like all other therapies is individualized.This is not a major drawback but should be kept in mind before going in for this option.All individuals are unique and so is their taste in music.Thus the therapist has to do additional tests to see which type of music and musical instrument works better for the client.

ALWAYS REMEMBER,WHERE WORDS FAIL,MUSIC SPEAKS…..

Thus in short we need to know that music therapy is a wonderful form of therapy which strengthens an individual and increases his/her quality of life.Choose Music for a better Life!

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The practice of gratitude

“Acknowledging the good that you already have in your life is the foundation for all abundance.” – Ekhart Tolle

Gratitude, thankfulness, or gratefulness, is a feeling of appreciation felt by or similar positive response shown by the recipient of kindness, gifts, help, favors, or other types of generosity, towards the giver of such gifts. Gratitude turns what we already have into enough. It gives us a feeling of satisfaction and eternal peace. Gratitude is the best medicine, it heals one’s mind, body, and spirit, and it attracts more things to be grateful for.

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Why do we need to practice gratitude?

“The struggle ends where gratitude begins”.

We all are surrounded by beautiful nature, we have our favorite people around us and we have enough food, clothes, and facilities. But, it is quite common that we take these things for granted. When we take things for granted, we are not satisfied with what we have and we strive to get something else, if we get it, then again we want something else, and we are never satisfied. Consider the present situation where we all are sitting at our respective houses. Earlier we could freely roam around, walk-in streets and parks, visit beautiful places, enjoy the fresh air and beauty of nature. But, we used to take all these for granted. We were really not grateful for the places around us, the beauty around us. But, now we realize its importance. The reality is that we always have enough of the resources around us for our survival. But, sadness drives in when we don’t appreciate what we have and take that for granted. Each one of us is living a life that is actually a dream life for a second person. So, just embrace it.

Imagine your life without the people around you, who are always there with you and support you. If you remove them from your life and think deeply, you will realize that they have a big role to play in your life which you never really thought about. The people around you are precious, value them, and be grateful to them that they are with you. Imagine a day without food, clothes, shoes, or air. If you do this exercise, you realize that you have enough of these things. Your desire to eat in a restaurant and to wear stylish clothes was really not that important. You get your food every day, you have clothes and shoes to wear. So, be thankful for what you have. Each and everything we get in our life, each and everything happening to us is very valuable to build us, to build our personality. Everything happens for a good reason. Being thankful for everything we get and for every event we come across gives us a satisfactory feeling, it eliminates negativity and makes our life more pleasurable. Saying thank you to another person pleases them and us too.

What do we get out of it?

A grateful heart is a magnet for miracles. The day you start practicing gratitude, it never ends. The more you express your gratitude for what you have, the more things you will have to express gratitude for. It gives you immense peace, happiness, and satisfaction. It rewires our brain and reduces stress. It boosts our immunity, improves relationships, and makes each day more beautiful. It makes sense of our past, brings peace for today, and creates a vision for tomorrow. Gratitude is the most wonderful feeling. Once you start practicing it, there is no way back.

“Thank You ” is the best prayer anyone could say.

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Can Money Make You Happy?

Money. It’s either the root of all evil or the best thing ever. People are arguing about the merits of wealth since they started saving it up. We’ve all faced the question of if we should always pursue money for its own sake, or if we might be happier without it.

Science increasingly shows that there’s a correct quantity of cash for happiness, but that countless variables make the quantity change for a small reason. The problem must be approached another way.

Philosophers have asked the same question. Every thinker who has tried to answer the question of how to live has had to wonder how much money was right to have. Here, we have got the ideas on how money affects happiness from ten philosophers which may assist you to decide what proportion money is enough.

Aristotle

In Aristotelian philosophy, virtue is the key requirement for a life well-lived. But while his stoic contemporaries thought virtue alone would assure a good life, Aristotle knew that a few other things would be needed. Among them are friendship, good luck, and money.

While he saw money as merely a tool to market other goals, he’s open about the very fact that the great life requires that you simply have a good amount of it. One of the things on his list of virtues needed to measure a full life is magnificence, which involves the donation of huge sums to charity.

He warns against the life dedicated to pursuing money, however, as this is often a life spent chasing something which is “useful for a few other ends” without ever reaching that end.


“The lifetime of money-making is one undertaken under compulsion, and wealth is evidently not the great we are seeking; for it’s merely useful and for the sake of something else.” —Aristotle, Nicomachean Ethics

Thoreau

Henry David Thoreau is legendary for retreating to a cabin near Walden pound and writing a book about his experiment of living an easy, self-sufficient life within the wilderness. While his experiment is usually presented as quite it had been, his cabin wasn’t that far away from a town and his mother usually cooked and cleaned for him, his ideas on the straightforward life are still worth considering.

His time within the woods showed him the advantages of living simply; like what proportion humanity can gain by spending longer in nature and the way getting faraway from material pleasures can help us live a fuller life. While his self-imposed situation came with great security, we will all stand to find out from his ideas on the way to earn less and live more.

To have done anything by which you earned money merely is to have been truly idle or worse- Walden

Epicurus

Epicurus was a philosopher with some bold ideas on the way to make people happy. He lived in the countryside in a large house with a dozen other people where they all lived communally. He argued that the path to happiness was moderation, strong friendships, and philosophy.

Rather than accumulating wealth, one should attempt to live an easy life and find joy in things like friends, the pleasures of labor, and philosophy. While he wasn’t against having some wealth, he feared that having an excessive amount of it might lead an individual to measure immoderately, which might cause vice and unhappiness. The moderate life, however, didn’t require much money in the least.

If you would like to form Pythocles wealthy, don’t give him more money; rather, reduce his desires- Epicurus

In The Pursuit of Happiness

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If there’s one thing which will be said about happiness, it’s that it’s wholly and utterly subjective. What makes one person happy — picking flowers on a sunny day, perhaps — may make another person decidedly unhappy. John Locke, however, believed that happiness is the wild of humanity. As Locke wrote on the topic, humans “are drawn by the forces of delight and repulsed by pain” Exactly what gives that pleasure, again, varies widely. Researchers believe that the buildup of wealth may be a major source of delight. Material gain within the sorts of money, property, and private possessions is not the only way most people pursue happiness, however.

In the same poll, people that were married — regardless of what their income level was — were happier than single people. Although we may sometimes neglect to cultivate our happiness, feeling happy is intrinsically important. If we are happy it’s added play effects and benefits. These include us becoming more compassionate and feeling healthier both physically and emotionally. We become more creative, witty, energetic, and fun to be around and it also can lead us to become more financially successful. Very few folks live our lives in complete isolation. We will have partners, families, friends, and work colleagues with whom we interact on a day to day so if we’re happy, then it’s likely to mean that they’ll feel happier too. Therefore, through our happiness, we are giving something to people too, and enabling them to feel happy also.

For happiness to be attained, it’s important to be open and willing to the concept that it is often attained. For us to try to do this, we’d like to rid ourselves of the negative energies which occur in our lives daily and which cause us to feel unhappy or at the best, make us feel as if we are simply existing or drifting through life. Remember, it’s a natural state to feel happy. We are all programmed to feel happy because of the norm. It’s what we let get within the way that alters our programming for the worst. Therefore, by ridding ourselves of negative thoughts, self-doubts, rationalizing problems and seeing them as challenges to be overcome, we get obviate feelings like depression, fear, worry, dissatisfaction, boredom, and grief then, by ridding ourselves of those, all that’s left is happiness, contentment, and peace of mind.

Some will wonder how we will do that when numerous negative things happen to us. In answer thereto, it’s because we LET this stuff. After all, us to possess negative reactions. For example, we’ll have all gone to figure and had a nasty day and are available away carping to a colleague, “The boss got my copy today”. However, he only did that because YOU let him have that effect on you.

In truth, nobody can ever make someone feel anything. Outside behaviors and influences have the facility to trigger negative thoughts but which will only happen if you permit it to. Change the way you answer those triggers and consequently they will haven’t any effect on inflicting any quite misery upon you. This won’t encounter as being a simple thing to try to but if you consciously make the trouble and tell yourself that you simply are getting to be happy and that no-one has the proper to form you are feeling unhappy or can take those feelings away, then you’re in sole control of your feelings of happiness and it’s an incontrovertible fact that by placing happiness at the cornerstone of your very existence, then you’ll be far more effective at creating the type of world you would like.

How Social Media Affects Your Self Awareness

I recently acquainted myself with a new term called ‘Smiling Depression’. This term is unusually used for people who appear happy on the outside but are in actual fact not happy. Because of social media, this condition has become more prevalent in social media users. 

We all know of Maslow’s hierarchy of our basic needs- self actualisation is one of the needs we have as an individual and we are constantly making efforts to craft this image that is better than the current one. We try so much that this becomes almost obsessive. As humans, we are set up with the basic instincts of self-improvement and we always somehow seem to know how to identify someone who we feel is ahead of us. This creates the an endless loop of ‘smiling depression’. 

Social media is an easy and dreamy out to reality. To create the image of a person who simply wakes up fresh and rejuvenated face, has time for make-up and heads out stylish without even trying to be, but how many of us can testify it as that easy? Very few if any. We all need to realise that regardless of the amount of time we spend creating these social identities online, we are only simple humans. Others are just better at creating and embracing these images and facades on social media.

So next time you are scrolling through your Instagram or Facebook feed, realise these points before you slip into ‘smiling depression’:

  1. You need a time-out from social media, maybe even for the rest of the day. People are not who they are online, their image on social media is highly curated and does not always represent reality. 
  2. Confront the negative thoughts and ask yourself  ‘Where are they coming from?’. Remind yourself we all wear a mask online, no one is as happy as they appear to be on social media. Everyone has problems, even celebrities. 
  3. If social media is your boredom killer where you scroll endlessly the whole day, logout and grab a book or download gaming app or do something that you like and you’re good at. Be more productive in real life and less online.