Cozy Reads

Fall is for fires and books.

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The perfect season to fall into reading is finally here! Fall is all about warm and cozy stuff. Nothing can beat a hot beverage, crackling fire, your favourite blanket, falling leaves and an amazing book. Fall is a manifestation of endings and beginnings, this is probably the best time to curl with a book and just enjoy.

Curated below is a list of 3 books that you have to checkout this fall.

1. The Chocolate Thief

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 Laura Florand’s, ‘ The Chocolate Thief ‘, tells the sweet tale Cade Corey and Sylvain Marquis’s escapades with chocolate.

Cade Corey belongs to an American family which is famous for their Corey Chocolate Bar, making millions through their chocolate business. Infatuated with chocolates and determined, Cade wants to launch an exclusive line of chocolates rather than her family’s mass made bar. Her dream and determination land her in Paris, in quest of the number one chocolatier in Paris, Sylvain Marquis, who can help her materialise her long envisioned premium chocolate.

Cade was already smitten with Marquis’s exceptional skills long before meeting him, what Cade did not expect was for him to be extremely handsome and basically a jerk. Sylvain is rude, arrogant, bitter and horrified at Cade’s idea of putting out a mass produced chocolate on his name. Their first meeting is an absolute disaster which is followed by equally disastrous thinking on Cade’s part when she decides to break into Sylvain’s laboratroire and steal his chocolate. What follows is an interesting tale of a drama and a blooming romance, sweeter than chocolate.

2. I Have Never

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Camilla Isley’s, ‘ I Have Never ‘, revolves around Twenty nine year old Blair Walker, whose life revolves around a list of dos and don’ts, that would according to her help her lead the perfect life and put everything right in terms of her career aspirations and love life.

Never did Blair ever imagine to be thrown out of running for the dream job she wanted to land because someone bought their way to the top, get fired from her current job and get dumped her boyfriend of all in one day. Dealing with the happenings of her life at a local bar, Blair reads the list of things she vowed never to do and decides to just do them. What follows is something entirely unlike her, waking up in a stranger’s bed, who assures that they didn’t sleep together and offers her a job, working as the  ‘Beauty and Fashion editor’ of an online magazine and dealing with her hunk of a boss who though quite taken with her has a complicated dating history. Blair does all that she thought she’d never do.

3. Dark Skye

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Kresley Cole’s’ ‘ Dark Skye ‘, is a story of scarred warrior prince and a bewitching sorceress who has the power to heal his scarred body and perhaps heart.

Thronos,the prince of Skye Hall, was in love with his childhood best friend, Melanthe, a Sorceress. They are torn apart by a family feud and several misunderstandings only to reconcile centuries later as each other’s mortal enemy, yet the fierce pull between continues to make them yearn for each other. As the story builds, Lanthe and Thronos come together to fight certain wars while subsequently at each other’s throat. Time spent together, helps with the bittersweet memories of the past and helps them discover the actual happenings of the fateful day, they were separated and helps them rediscover their love and yearning for each other.

Other Cozy Reads:

  • When Sparks Fly ( Helena Hunting)
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  • Eleanor & Park (Rainbow Rowell)
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  • The Rosie Project (Graeme Simsion)
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  • Fangirl (Rainbow Rowell)
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Glow Up Tips

Old ways won’t open new doors.

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There is so much more to a glow up than just physical transformations and alterations. While physical changes do play a significant role in bringing about that sublime transformation, a positive change in one’s personality and thought process can play a vital role in adding incredible results and it absolutely shows.

An overall change for overall development is better than just striving to change your body. An overall effort on one’s part can help one become the best possible version of themselves.

Glow up is a process that one should luxuriate in order to feel amazing and be amazing.

As mentioned, a glow up entails so much more than just dressing pretty, it is a kind of recuperation process that helps one improve their wellness and become the absolute best for themselves.

Here are certain things that you should start doing, if you are thinking of an epic glow up!

1. Drink lots of water

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This might just be the game changer in your quest for a heathy glow up. Drinking the right amount of water every day is absolutely imperative. Drinking water has so many positive effects on the body, that it is a therapy on its own. Water detoxes the body, helps with sunken eyes and dark circles, gives the skin a fresh, soft and plump finish. Since water helps flush out major toxins from the body, it makes you feel energized and well in general.

You can use other detoxes such as cucumber, lemon , mint with water to reap all those benefits and more.

If you are thinking of a glow up proper intake of water is an absolute must. Period.

2. Eat Healthy

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Your body is what you eat. Eating healthy is vitally important to bring about any positive transformation in your life. Healthy eating is a habit that is a must for every person, more so for people looking to go further in terms of their health and wellness. Healthy eating has innumerable benefits; it can help you lose weight, increase productivity, help handle stress better, help you get beautiful and healthy skin, help get better rest and sleep, it enhances the overall fitness.

Inculcating a healthy eating regime in your life doesn’t have to be complicated, you do not go on to fancy or extreme diets, cutting off all the harmful sugar and soda would be the perfect first step towards a dazzling glow up.

3. Work out and Meditate

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Exercise and meditation always go in tandem for the body and soul. Exercising leads to great results in terms of health and meditating is an amazing time out for one’s mental health, daily. Exercising has so many health benefits that include; stress and anxiety relief, improved mobility, better sleep and energy levels, good health and higher self-esteem. Meditation helps physically, mentally and even spiritually. It helps feel a sense of tranquillity, peace and balance and sort through thoughts and emotions.

Working out and meditating is a leap towards overall fitness and that imminent glow up.

4. Set up a skin and hair care routine

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Skin care and hair care are important aspects of pampering oneself. Skin care modified according to your skin type will help enhance your beauty and reflect upon your self-care and wellness. Our skin needs nourishment which often times we have to provide via external sources, skin care therefore becomes a necessary step in a healthy glow up.

Hair care is important, as hair contributes to your personality greatly. A proper routine will not only ensure proper hair growth and give you luscious and beautiful hair, it may help you get more comfortable and confident and help you strive towards your glow up goal.

Again, you do not need to set in an extremely complicated routine for your hair and skin, cleansing, toning, moisturising would do for the skin and proper conditioning for hair along with hydrating masks for both face and hair would be perfect.

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To Read List (Non-fiction)

The challenge of non-fiction is to marry art and truth.

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Introduction

The biblical definition of non-fiction is prose writing that is based on facts, real events, and real people. Non fiction encompasses the factual and literal aspect of the literary canyon, which includes everything from biography, history, self-help, health and fitness, politics, religion, spirituality, business and money, parenting, relationships etc.

According to recent findings by several sources including Forbes, non-fiction literature is rising in ranks compared to its other fictional counterparts. “Revenues for adult non-fiction have rapidly risen every year since: $4.97 billion in 2014, $5.59 billion in 2015, $5.87 billion in 2016, and finally $6.18 billion last year.

Non- fiction helps its readers get in tandem with the real world and connect to the everyday happenings as fiction sweeps them through different realms. Reading non-fiction can help one acquire knowledge about subjects crucial to the capitalist world today.

Curated below is a list of 4 non-fiction books that you must check out!

1. The Secret

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Rhonda Byrne’s, ‘The Secret’, is among one of the most celebrated and widely endorsed self help books ever. This book sets out to piece together a secret by sifting through age old oral traditions, religions, literature philosophy blending it with the acumen of modern day experts, ultimately giving rise to a secret like no other. This secret based on several simple factors, has perhaps what it might take to transform lives.

This book in a methodical manner unravels the secret and teaches its application in our everyday lives. This secret has the means to explore all that energy within you that you think is redundant and possibly channel it in a positive manner.

2.Blink: The Power of Thinking Without Thinking

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Malcolm Gladwell’s ‘Blink’, is best described by its title itself. Based on psychological aspects of decisions made in the blink of an eye, this book might after all, give answers to some of questions that everyone has had at some point about intuitions, good decisions and bad decisions.

Blink gives us insight into the makings of quality decisions and the minds of quality decision-makers. It explores a vast world of thinking or perhaps not thinking sometimes and explains how those decisions come to play.

3. Tuesdays with Morrie

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Mitch Albom’s, ‘Tuesdays with Morrie’, is an inspirational story of Mitch Albom’s reconciliation with Morrie Schwartz, his college professor from nearly twenty years ago who gave Mitch advice and understanding when he was lost and needed it the most. After Mitch meandered through life, after losing touch with his mentor, with several haunting questions of his.

As he meets his mentor, suffering from a fatal disease, almost two decades later, they get into a routine from the college days with Mitch visiting Morrie every Tuesday. Tuesdays with Morrie morph into insightful last lessons on life and living.

4. How to Win Friends and Influence People

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Dale Carnegie’s masterpiece, ‘How to Win Friends and Influence People’, has influenced millions of people since getting published in 1936. This book contains solid and practical principles that can help one attain a steady footing on the ladder of success. This book focuses upon maximum discovery and use of one’s potential in the best ways possible.

One of the must reads in self help, this book preaches the principles to make people like you, to win people over by your way of thinking, to change people without arousing resentment.

To Read List (Romance)-2

 “The greatest thing you’ll ever learn is just to love and be loved in return.”

Nat King Cole, ‘Nature Boy’ lyrics

Today, we continue to meander through the spectral world of love.

1. I Owe You One

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Sophie Kinsella’s, ‘I Owe You One’ is a tale of self discovery, empowerment and love.

Fixie Farr’s father has always taught her to value family, above all else and that is what Fixie endeavours to upkeep after he passes away, leaving his business of housewares store to his wife and children. Since all her other siblings are out there doing something on their own, Fixie has no choice but seize the reins of her father’s store.

When one fateful day, a charming stranger asks her to watch his laptop for sometime, Fixie, being the person she is, not only watches it for a while but also manages to save it from some impending disaster. The computer’s owner, Sebastian turns out to be an investment manager and leaves an IOU with a business card for Fixie.

In a series of events, Fixie’s childhood crush, Ryan enters into the scene and his lack of work, compels Fixie to take up Sebastian’s, IOU to ask a job for Ryan. Sebastian agrees. What ensues is a tale filled with more IOUs, life altering favours and Fixie torn between her family and her life choices.

2. This Lullaby

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Sarah Dessen’s, ‘This Lullaby’, revolves around Remy, scared of commitments and known for breaking it off just as things start getting a bit serious after the initial romantic scurry. Remy seems to have inherited her dating skills from her mother who’s at husband number five at present. Remy has had a number of liaisons in the past and dumped her boyfriends with acute precision. This time, Remy just cannot bring herself to dump Dexter. She goes into wild speculations to ascertain why. This might just be the beginning of an epic love for Remy, granted she opens up her heart to an honest relationship without any inhibitions.

3. Catching Jordan

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Miranda Kenneally’s, ‘Catching Jordan’, revolves around Jordan Woods, the captain and quarterback of her high school football team. Jordan hangs around with the hot jocks of the team as one of them. She puts all her elbow grease into football and bears anything and anyone, as long as she gets her athletic scholarship to a powerhouse university.

When Ty Green, stunning and an amazing QB moves to Jordan’s school, all that Jordan has ever strived for is somehow put on the line. Her emotions are a wreck as she tries to give her all to her game without distraction from the heart.

4. The Edge of Never

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J.A. Redmerski’s’, ‘The Edge of Never’, tells the tale of  Camryn Bennett, a Twenty year old girl with an unmatched and out-of-the-box imagination. Following a series of setbacks, Camryn decides to push forth and not give up. After an unforgettable night at the hottest club in downtown North Carolina, Camryn decides to leave everything behind and pursue what she always wanted.

With a will of steel, a phone and a small bag and no sense of destination and direction, Camryn boards a Greyhound bus where she finds a guy named Andrew Parrish, someone she can relate to and who has several guarded secrets.

Although sworn to never fall in love, Camryn finds herself in the midst of a whirlwind called Andrew. Together, they do things that Camryn never thought she’d ever do. Their chemistry is fierce, the pull undeniable but the secrets threaten it all.

“your hand touching mine,

this is how galaxies collide.”

-Sanober Khan

To Read List (Romance)

“Love recognizes no barriers. It jumps hurdles, leaps fences, penetrates walls to arrive at its destination full of hope.”

Maya Angelou

Introduction

Romance is a widely celebrated literary genre that primarily revolves around the romantic aspects of relationship between two individuals. Romantic books are very popular among people of all ages. Romance is a genre that can be amalgamated with any other genre to add some spice to the tale. Romance genre incorporates everything from historical to contemporary love equations. Romance novels may be driven driven by cliché and far fetched tropes such as ‘love at first sight’ etc.

The romance industry is a big shot economically,  worth almost $1.08 billion dollars a year in the U.S alone.

Danielle Steel, Nora Roberts, Nicholas Sparks, and Robyn Carr are among some of the romance genre popular authors.

Today, we look at some of the romance must reads.

1. See Me

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Nicholas Spark is one of the most prolific authors of the romance genre. His novel ‘See Me’ tells the story of two people in constant battle with the demons of their past and trying against al odds to come together as one.

Colin Hancock has a history of violence and an ever looming threat of prison. Haven been given a second chance, he’s trying to make the most of it, putting everything he has in his teaching degree. With constant reminders of his past shortcomings, the last thing on Colin’s mi d is love.

Maria Sanchez, a hardworking professional at a prestigious firm in Wilmington. A dark-haired natural beauty with an impeccable work record, Maria has a dark past that forced her back home.

A chance encounter between these two lost souls leaves in its wake thousands of unanswered questions and a deep yearning to be together. As love takes root, the demons from their past threaten to surface, destroying almost about everything.

2. The Bride Test

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Helen Hoang’s, ‘The Bride Test’, tells the story of Khai Diep, an autistic person who thinks that he cannot ever feel anything. As he stays miles away from any potential relationship, his mother decides to take matters in her own hands and travels to Vietnam to find a perfect bride for him.

Esme Tran is a mixed- race girl living in the slums of Ho Chi Minh City. When she gets the opportunity to go to America for a potential marriage, she’s more than ready to do it to get out of her penury.

Esme had her mind made up about seducing Khai but ends up falling hopelessly in love with him, while Khai remain unfeeling and hard-hearted. As Esme gets close to leaving States, Khai gets closer to the answers he had always been seeking.

3. The Soulmate Equation

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Christina Lauren’s, ‘The Soulmate Equation’, is a story of Jess Davis, a single mother and a statistics wiz who is trying hard to make ends meet while her grandparents, who raised her, help her raise her seven year old daughter, Juno.

Having been let down too many times in her past relationships- by her father, mother and her ex, Jess is extremely sceptical and absolutely unwilling to traipse back into the dating world.

Then, one fateful day, Jess comes across a matchmaking company, GeneticAlly that offers DNA-based matchmaking. When Jess’s tests show 98% compatibility with another person, Jess is astounded and the person is none other than Dr River Pena, GeneticAlly’s founder. Having known him earlier, Jess is certain about him not being he soulmate. But as the company offers to pay her for going out with Pena, Jess cannot refuse anymore.
As these two get swept in the genetic dating league, they discover things about each other that might just change their perspective about everything.

To Read List (Sci-fi)

“Looking at these stars suddenly dwarfed my own troubles and all gravities of terrestrial life.”

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Introduction

Sci-fi is perhaps one of the coolest literary genre, that is widely read. Scientific fiction encompasses the vast abyss of human imagination that manifests itself in an astounding blend of creativity and literature. Sci-fi stories have a wide variety of themes, they can be based on absolute facts or be a figment of someone’s imagination as well. Fictitious sci-fi stories can include aliens, a world based in space, time travel, strange inventions and weird creatures as well.

Sci-fi might be hard or soft. Hard sci-fi is based on the real world with less novel elements. Soft sci-fi, however, includes far fetched scientific technology.

Sci-fi requires ingenuity on part of writers and proper assimilation of the readers part. Sci-fi is probably one of the most interesting of the genera of the great literary canyon.

Curated below is a list of 4 interesting Sci-fi books that you can check out.

1. The Time Machine

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H.G Wells, renowned as ‘The Father of Sci-fi’, wrote ‘The Time Machine’, in 1895. In this extremely enthralling book, the protagonist goes on a time safari 800,000 years beyond his time. He is transported to an era of devastation and utter destruction of Earth, there he discovers two strange races ,the ethereal Eloi and the subterranean Morlocks that manifest the terrifying future occupants of the planet and describe the dying humane in humanity.

An absolutely enthralling read, that has gripped readers throughout years.

2. Snow Crash

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Neal Stephenson’s, ‘Snow Crash’, is a riveting book that describes the parallel life of Hiro Protagonist in the real world and the Metaverse. Delivering pizzas for  Uncle Enzo’s CosoNostra Pizza Inc. in the ordinary world, a warrior prince in the Metaverse. The story takes pace as he crusades through a volley of mysterious computer viruses. He strives to prevent utter destruction by bringing down the ultimate virtual villains.

The story meanders through technical know how of computers and is an absolutely thrilling read.

3. To Sleep in a Sea of Stars

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Christopher Paolini’s, ‘ To Sleep in a Sea of Stars ‘, revolves around Kira Navárez, who dreams of life beyond the scape of Earth, in new unchartered worlds. When during a survey mission on a planet, Kira stumbles across an alien relic, although thrilled at first, Kira soon comes to dread her discovery as the ancient relic begins to move around her.

With Earth in great jeopardy and a war brimming amongst the stars, Kira experiences a life altering journey. With her being the ultimate hope, Kira must brave against all odds and delve into the expanse of the universe to bring about order.

4. Cinder

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Marissa Meyer’s, ‘Cinder’, is a riveting tale of a girl Lihn Cinder, a mechanic in New Beijing, the capital of the Eastern Commonwealth, s, who is a cyborg i.e. she is half mechanical, has prosthetic limbs and a complex wiring of internal organs. New Beijing is a place that faces consistent scourge of plagues. In this retelling of Cinderella, humans and androids coexist. When the heir to the throne of the Commonwealth, Prince Kai requires Kai’s help to fix his android, their lives take a thrilling turn. With her mysterious past and a strange Lunar people waiting for ambush from the space, Cinder must traverse through several trials to save the fate of her people and perhaps even the entire world.

A sci-fi twist to the classic Cinderella.

To Read List (Chick-Lit)

I would love it if my book was considered chick-lit or a beach read. That would be great. People would buy my book.

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Introduction

Chick lit was a genre widely popular in the 90s and early 2000s, referred to books usually written by women for women and about women. These books centred in on a female protagonist and the plot usually revolved around some cliché themes or highlight some important themes doused with humour and good natured drama. Though bashed by several authors as sexist, chick- lit continues to be one of the favourite genera of all times.

Chick Lit uses humour to reflect life back to us. It’s a very comforting genre, and it’s the first time our generation has had a voice. It’s a very important genre for all of those reasons.

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Chick Lit is a sub genre of women- fiction and caters mainly to its women target audience.

Curated below is a list of 4 Chick Lits that you absolutely need to check out.

1. After I Do

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‘After I do’, is a book by the notable author of ‘ The seven Husbands of Emily Hugo’, Taylor Jenkin Reid. This book revolves around a marriage traipsing on the edge of collapse and the lengths people involved go to to save it.

Lauren and Ryan’s marriage is on the verge of falling apart, when, in order to save their marriage they devise a plan and decide to take a year apart to rediscover themselves and find their love again. There’s a rule though, they can’t contact each other for the entire time spent apart.

This book delves into simple yet notably important things that are generally overlooked in the everyday life. This is perfect light read for the weekend that makes us question the nuances of love and marriage.

2.The Hating Game

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Sally Thorne’s, ‘The Hating Game’ follows a enemies to something more kind of trope. Lucy Hutton, the smart, charming, professional, good girl. Joshua Templeman, dressed to the nines, cold , stoic and efficient. These two manifest the definition of nemesis like no one else. Stuck in the same office at Bexley & Gamin for long periods together, they have got going a series of strange games of outfoxing each other. With a significant promotion coming up that can land Lucy as Templeman’s boss, Lucy is all in for the real game, however, she is utterly unrehearsed for the strange feelings rooting in for her arch-nemesis.

This is the kind of book that everyone loves, sharp and sweeping.

3. Miss Makeover

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Claire Betita de Guzman’s, ‘Miss Makeover’, revolves around Mara Francisco, a fashion writer, who gets a major makeover ends up receiving attention from the ever charming  Markus. When things do not go as she anticipated and to escape her insecurities she rushes off to a to a remote town in the Philippines to attend a beauty boot camp that does not allow makeup for the participants through the entire six day program.

Not armed with makeup for the first time since forever, Mara will have to meander her way through her insecurities. Throw in an old high school crush and an elusively cold local in the mix and you have a tale worth remembering!

The kind of book that almost everyone can relate to.

4. Manhunting

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Jennifer Cruise’s, ‘Manhunting’, is centred around Kate Svenson, a suave woman with an equally strong foothold on the corporate ladder. The only glitch in her life is her terrible love life. After three broken engagements, Kate decides to go all out in search of her perfect match.

A swarm of eligible bachelors in the Cabins resort, wrong perceptions and several troubles later Kate and the ever indifferent Jake Templeton stagger for a footing on the ladder of love.

A hilarious and sizzling romance.

Eating Disorders

Eating disorder are severe mental illness, not lifestyle choices.

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Introduction

Eating disorder is a product of mental turbulence that manifests itself in the eating habits of people, affecting them negatively. It is a serious condition that can have a lasting impact in various spheres of a person’s life. Eating disorders usually sprout from body insecurities and an untameable urge to lose weight quickly.

According to Mayo Clinic, Most eating disorders involve focusing too much on your weight, body shape and food, leading to dangerous eating behaviours. These behaviours can significantly impact your body’s ability to get appropriate nutrition. Eating disorders can harm the heart, digestive system, bones, and teeth and mouth, and lead to other diseases.

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Although these disorders can take root at any age teenagers and adolescents might be more prone to such disorders.

Eating disorders can impact the body in a detrimental manner. Eating disorders, often obviously lead to lack of nutrition that becomes the underlying cause of a number of diseases, that eventually end up affecting all the functioning systems of the body.

Symptoms

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  1. Drastic weight change
  2. Obsessive preoccupation with food
  3. Excessive exercise
  4. Binge eating or purging
  5. Vomiting
  6. Avoiding meals
  7. Binge eating
  8. Fear of fat
  9. Tooth decay
  10. Swollen glands, dry calluses on fingers
  11. Dry, yellowish skin
  12. Thinning bones
  13. Feeling tired
  14. Mild anaemia
  15. Depression
  16. Constipation
  17. Irregular menstrual cycles
  18. Low blood pressure
  19. Growth of hair on body
  20. Excessive mood swings
  21. Using laxatives etc

Types of Eating Disorders

Eating disorders are not just limited to less eating or not eating at all, several other type of disorders include binge eating as well. Listed below are three of the most common eating disorders.

Anorexia Nervosa:

One of the most commonly known disorder, anorexia is often characterised by low weight and a distorted body image. According to statistics;

  • Anorexia is the 3rd most common chronic illness among adolescents
  • 95% of those who have eating disorders are between the ages of 12 and 25
  • 50% of girls between the ages of 11 and 13 see themselves as overweight
  • 80% of 13-year-olds have attempted to lose weight

Patients with this disorder, often underweight limit their food intake to a dangerous extent. It involves a characteristic fear of eating, unhealthy desire for weight loss and often includes excessive exercise.

People with this disorder are severely malnourished and often never satisfied with their weight loss aiming for a ‘perfect’ size zero.

Bulimia Nervosa:

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This eating disorder is characterised by eating in large amounts (binge eating) and then purging or forcing vomit to rid of the excess calories and guilt of food. It is a potentially life threatening disorder.

To get rid of calories and prevent weight gain, people with bulimia may use different methods. For example, you may regularly self-induce vomiting or misuse laxatives, weight-loss supplements, diuretics or enemas after bingeing. Or you may use other ways to rid yourself of calories and prevent weight gain, such as fasting, strict dieting or excessive exercise.

Binge-eating Disorder:

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Patients with this disorder eat unusually large amounts of food almost everyday compulsively. Patients may be embarrassed of their eating regimen and may decide to work on some change but the urge to eat overpowers all.

This binging is different from festive binging or one in a blue moon movie night binge eating.

People with this disorder may be obese or overweight.

Citation(s): https://www.mayoclinic.org/

Must Reads (General Fiction)

“Fiction reveals truth that reality obscures.

– Ralph Waldo Emerson

Introduction

According to the dictionary, fiction refers to a type of literature in the form of prose that describes imaginary events and people. Fiction is the genre, in which the author whips up imaginary characters and plot and weaves a tale around them. Though untrue and fabricated fiction might be used to relay information and express thoughts on a number of issues that are realistic and often worth highlighting.

Fiction is a very diverse genre of the equally diverse literary canyon. Fiction writing often requires ingenuity and thinking out of the box. Fiction is easily one of the highly read genera in the world. There is such incredible work in the fiction genre that it leaves a reader to browse through a plethora of amazing plots and characters. Several fictitious characters such as Jane Austen’s, ‘Mr. Darcy’ and ‘Elizabeth Bennet‘ or Bam Stoker’s, ‘Dracula‘ have gone down in history as some of the most cherished and timeless characters

Below is a list of four must read fiction books.

1. The Time Traveler’s Wife

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‘The Time Traveler’s Wife’, is American author Audrey Niffengger’s debut novel. This story revolves around Clare, an artist by profession, who meets her husband Henry under strange circumstances. Henry, afflicted by a genetic disorder is a time traveler of sorts with no control over it. Struggling to control his impromptu trips to strange places and times, naked as the day he was born, Henry finds acceptance and love in Clare. What follows is an enthralling journey full of time spins, confusions , heart-breaks, beginnings and endings.

Time Traveler’s Wife is an absolute must read, with its gripping plot and engaging romance. Full of love and longing, this book is bound to make you burst into guffaws and ugly cry.

2.The Silent Patient

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‘The Silent Patient’, by Alex Michaelides is a psychological thriller that tells the tale of Alicia Berenson, a successful painter, who leads a lavish life with her husband ,Gabriel, an extremely sought after fashion photographer. One evening Gabriel returns home only to be met with five bullets to the face by his wife. What follows is a tale filled with gripping mystery as Alicia refuses to utter even a word or offer something in order of explanation. Now, enshrouded in disrepute, Alicia initiates a cycle of speculations by the public that transmutes her into a public mystery.

Theo Faber, a criminal psychotherapist is obsessed with Alicia’s case and wants to get her talking. The quest to solve this mystery leads him down a risky path…

3.Beautiful Disaster

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Jamie McGuire’s, ‘ Beautiful Disaster’, is a new adult book sporting the cliched, good girl- bad boy plot. Abby Abernathy, the good girl. Travis Maddox, the absolute bad boy. As these two collide in college and interact over a bet that can make Maddox go abstinent for a month or can get Abby stuck in Maddox’s apartment for that equal period of time.

Abby might end up winning more than just the bet!

4. In an Instant

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Suzanne Redfearn’s, ‘In an Instant’, is a tale of hard life or death decisions made about in an instant. sixteen-year-old Finn Miller meets with a horrible car accident that causes her and ten others to fall off a mountain. It is a tale of love, family and guilt that makes us introspect over the humane in us and accentuates the ramifications of decisions.

Must Reads (Mystery)

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Mystery creates wonder and wonder is the basis of man’s desire to understand.

-neil armstrong

Mystery literally refers to something, that is difficult or impossible to understand or explain. It is a fiction genre in which an event such as a crime or a murder keeps unfolding without much revelation till the end of the book. Mystery books are the kind of reads that keep readers hooked and on the edge of their seats. Mysteries are a joy to read with unanticipated plot twists and turn-outs that it blows ones mind. Mystery is one of the widely read genre with many prolific writers.

Below is a list of five must read mystery fictions.

1. And Then There Were None:

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One of the most prolific writers in the genre Agatha Christie, describes this book as one of the most difficult to write. Following a group of people onto Indian Island, this story explores crime and murder. The ten people on the island including a former governess, an adventurer, an ex-detective, each think they have been hired to do some particular job not knowing the mysterious labyrinth on the island that consequently traps all ten people on the island. With each death the story is thrown into a deeper mysterious aura, leaving the reader befuddled with thoughts and guesses.

A brilliant mystery and an absolute must read!

2. The Guest List

Lucy Foley’s, ‘The Guest List’ is a mystery set amidst a wedding. A happy couple joining in matrimony is faced with a gruesome wedding surprise- a dead body!

A wedding planned right down to the last detail of a T.V star and a magazine editor was bound to catch eyes and garner attention but it might all just shift focus.

A series of guests all dresses to the nines, a volley of drinking groomsmen, expensive champagne and awkward speeches later does a mystery unfold involving all the guests on the list. Loads of suspects with killer motives all enclosed in a big wedding.

3. The Last of the Moon Girls

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Barbara Davis’s ‘The Last of the Moon Girls’, revolves around Lizzy Moon, a girl who wants nothing to do with Moon Girl Farm, which is passed down in their family and has evoked questions and rumours about their strange legacy. Tragedy struck! Lizzy’s beloved Grandmother Althea dies, taking the severe accusation of killings to her grave, Lizzy must do everything to clear her Grandmother’s name and her family legacy. With Andrew Greyson, one of the few in town believing in Althea’s innocence, Lizzy is determined to et things right.

A gorgeously artful story-telling with tints of magic and craft.

4.The Secrets of Lost Stones

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Melissa Payne’s book, ‘ The Secrets of Lost Stones’ tells the story of a 32 year old woman  Jess Abbot who has loses everything from her home to her job and her eight year old son  Chance, to a tragic accident. Unable to cope with the humongous loss,  Jess bundles up what’s left and leaves for the small mountain town of Pine Lake, where she gets a place as caregiver to strange old woman.

Surrounded by numerous rumours, Lucy is a strange old woman who has taken in several other people besides Jess including a Star, a teenager on the run with a painful secret and a little boy with heart-shaped stones. Jess soon learns the extent of pain and loss in the world and discovers above her suffering, grief like no other. Perhaps it was fate.

5. Where the Forest Meets the Stars

Glendy Vanderah’s ‘Where the Forest Meets the Stars’, is a story of Joanna Teale, who, after overcoming her mother’s demise and battling breast cancer, determined to prove that she has not given up, throws herself into her work, researching on nesting birds in rural Illinois that is until a mysterious child shows up at her cabin door, barefoot and in a ragged condition. The girl, Ursa, claims to be sent from the stars to witness five miracles. Joanna concerned about the girls home, reluctantly takes her in. Jo seeks help from her aloof neighbour, Gabriel Nash, to find out more about Ursa.

What follows is a series of unexpected events and beautiful bonds.

Anger

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Holding on to anger is like grasping a hot coal with the intent of throwing it at someone else; you are the one who gets burned.

– Buddha

Introduction

Anger refers to a feeling of annoyance, vexation, or hostility that sprouts due to some apparent provocation. Anger is actually one of the elemental feelings that a human being experiences. According to Psychology Today, “Anger is one of the basic human emotions, as elemental as happiness, sadness, anxiety, or disgust.”

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Further,” Anger too easily or frequently mobilized can undermine relationships or damage physical health in the long term. Prolonged release of the stress hormones that accompany anger can destroy neurons in areas of the brain associated with judgment and short-term memory, and weaken the immune system.”

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Anger can obviously have series of serious ramifications. Uncontrolled outbursts can affect the overall well being of an individual seriously, including physically, mentally and socially.

Anger can be a serious character flaw on part an individual, reflecting upon a person’s personality.

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Anger may be chronic or fleeting. People with chronic anger obviously require thorough medical intervention but people who suffer anger outbursts in bouts also need proper consultation and treatment to overcome it.

Although, anger is an elemental emotion and very common in people, frequent and severe outbursts or chronic anger symptoms are obvious causes for concern.

Anger has various ramifications and effects on the body.

Health Effects of Anger

System/ FunctionResponse of the bodyLong term effects
Circulatory systemIncreases constriction rate and outputHardening of arteries, elevated blood pressure, heart damage
Digestive systemDecreases digestionUlcers and cancer
Endocrine systemRelease of norepinephrine, cortisol and adrenalineDamage to liver, kidneys, adrenal glands
Immune systemsuppressedLower protection from cancer and infections
EnergyIncreased release of glucose/ fat into the bloodDamage to artery walls, liver and kidneys
Nervous systemChanges in focus, attention Anxiety, depression

Causes of Anger

Anger can be triggered due to different causes in different individuals. Usually a series of internal and external factors play out together to cause an anger outburst. Provocations lead to angry thoughts and angry actions which burst forth in a fierce manner of ‘rage’.

Some common provocative triggers are:

Internal or External events (triggering):

Some events bring forth a huge outpour of anger. Such events are associated with some sort of trigger that provokes a person’s mind.

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These events could be simple everyday events and people in your life. You could be angry at a co- worker or miss a flight or a traffic jam can bring your blood to boil. These might even seem unreasonable or petty to other people but are a huge bottleneck towards your social well being.

Incomplete Goals:

Since humans have different and numerous goals, and desires and work in different capacities to fulfil them, prevention or incomplete attaining of goals can be a significant external trigger for some people. The anger and loathing borne of incomplete goals and desires could last a very very long period of time and can dampen an individual’s future accomplishments.

Past Hurts and Guilts:

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Overthinking over past heartaches and mistakes can be an active trigger for anxiety as well as anger. Traumatic events leave behind indelible scars that have to be tended throughout life. Anger, in such cases, is a means of expressing what breaks one on the inside.

Demands and Expectations:

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Unreasonable or sometimes even reasonable expectations leave our brain in a jumbled mess. Dealing with burdens of expectation can be hard. Sometimes, meeting even the everyday demands and expectations that are required of us leave us simmering, this may lead to an outburst.

Physical and Mental attacks:

Physical and mental derogatory jibes may one of the most common trigger for anger, Getting angry in face of such a situation, for once, is perhaps even justified. Humans are beings of sentiments, anger is one of the most pronounced sentiment. Undue hate or disrespect may lead to seething anger.

Anger Management

It is extremely important to seek professional help for uncontrolled anger. According to Mayo Clinic anger management involves:

1. Think before you speak

2. Once you’re calm, express your anger

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3. Get some exercise

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4. Take a timeout

5. Identify possible solutions

6. Stick with ‘I’ statements

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7. Don’t hold a grudge

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8. Use humor to release tension

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9. Practice relaxation skills

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10. Know when to seek help

citation(s): https://www.mayoclinic.org/healthy-lifestyle/adult-health/in-depth/anger-management/art-20045434

Stress

“You must learn to let go. Release the stress. You were never in control anyway.”

-Steve maraboli
7 Steps To Managing Stress

Introduction

Stress can be best defined as the body’s coping response to emotional burdens and demands. Surprisingly, stress is very essential in several conditions. For example, according to Health Guide, When working properly, stress helps you stay focused, energetic, and alert. In emergency situations, stress can save your life—giving you extra strength to defend yourself, for example, or spurring you to slam on the brakes to avoid a car accident.

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The real issue, however, that needs to be dealt with is chronic stress. Chronic stress disrupts nearly every system in your body. It can suppress your immune system, upset your digestive and reproductive systems, increase the risk of heart attack and stroke, and speed up the aging process. It can even rewire the brain, leaving you more vulnerable to anxiety, depression, and other mental health problems.

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Health problems caused by stress include:

  1. Depression and anxiety
  2. Pain of any kind
  3. Sleep problems
  4. Autoimmune diseases
  5. Digestive problems
  6. Skin conditions, such as eczema
  7. Heart disease
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Citation(S): https://www.helpguide.org/articles/stress/stress-symptoms-signs-and-causes.htm

Common Symptoms

According to Mayo clinic, some of the common symptoms of stress that can affect your body, mind, emotions, behaviour etc are:

Physical Symptoms

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  • Headache
  • Muscle tension or pain
  • Chest pain
  • Fatigue
  • Change in sex drive
  • Upset stomach
  • Sleep problems

Emotional Symptoms

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  • Sadness or depression
  • Irritability or anger
  • Lack of motivation or focus
  • Anxiety
  • Restlessness
  • Feeling overwhelmed

Behavioural Symptoms

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  • Overeating or undereating
  • Angry outbursts
  • Drug or alcohol misuse
  • Social withdrawal
  • Exercising less often

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Major Causes of stress:

The causes or situations that trigger stress are known as stressors. Several situations in life can induce lasting stress that is detrimental to the overall wellbeing of a individual. These are the several major stressors in adults and children.

Work Pressure or Job Loss:

Work pressure may account for an enormous amount of stress in a large number of individuals. It might just be one of the leading causes of stress among the adult population. In today’s day and age, excessive competition and a never ending demand for services has rendered people incapable of doing anything except work. Added to all these are the poor working conditions and over- exceeding expectations that curate up an insane amount of stress.

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Job loss is an exceedingly conducive factor to the ever surmounting stress load. In today’s capital world, losing a job is like losing a limb and an obvious cause for distress.

Death of Close People:

Passing away of a loved one can be an exceptionally huge factor for stress.

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As already stated that stress is a kind of coping mechanism that evokes a sort of fight or flight reaction when required, loss of a person close to you may be an incentive enough for the body to evoke stress which can last for a long period of time.

Relationship Challenges:

Alternating curves on the relationship graph add to stress exponentially. No human is perfect and therefore no relation that he forges is. Relationships are full of ups and downs, which added with other social stressors can affect an individual badly.

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Among other things compatibility might be one of the added causes of stress, no human can be 100% compatible with another, everyone needs their own space, even people in committed relationships.

Money Worries:

In a capital world like ours, money is the Ambrosia.

People hanker after money like anything. There is such a cut-throat competition to be at the helm of money matters that it has rendered us all anxious. Money worries is one of the biggest causes of stress nowadays.

Other major causes of stress include:

  • Social pressure such as bullying
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  • studying for exams, choosing a career etc.
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Simple Stress Management:

Although chronic stress requires proper medical intervention, some self care, meditation and heedfulness works wonders. Here are some things that can help reduce stress.

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  • Spending time in nature
  • Saying your prayers and connecting with spirituality
  • Practicing yoga
  • Spending time with friends and family
  • Writing in a diary
  • Doing your exercises
  • Practicing art
  • Reading books
  • Sleeping well
  • Eating well
  • Prioritizing tasks
  • Picking up a new hobby
  • Taking up therapy if needed
  • Thinking positive

“Convince yourself everyday that you are worthy of a good life. Let go of stress, breathe. Stay positive, all is well.”

 Germany Kent

To Read Fantasy List

Fantasy is hardly as escape from reality. It’s a way of understanding it.

-Lloyd Alexander
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According to the dictionary, fantasy refers to the faculty or activity of imagining things, especially things that are impossible or improbable. It is often inspired by ancient mythology, real life myths and folklore, often passed down orally.

Fantasy is one of the core genera of today’s literary canyon and has more than just a few admirers.

Curated below is a list of fantasy fictions (in no particular order) to help to sift through the diverse literary spectrum.

1. The Bridge Kingdom

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A slow burn fantasy romance with the “enemies-to-lovers” trope, this book tells the tale of a marriage by convenience.

Lara, a fierce princess, trained to be a spy vows to bring down the kingdom of bridge for her people. As she settles in her new home with her new husband, Aren, Lara begins to question everything in her being and the evil that lurks.

With the intense attraction towards Aren, Lara must choose between being a saviour or the impending doom for her people.

An engaging read with a simmering romance.

“Alive isn’t living.”

 Danielle L. Jensen, The Bridge Kingdom

2. Six of Crows

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American author Leigh Bardugo’s Six of Crows is a fantasy novel that revolves round a band of six thieves.

 Kaz Brekker, a criminal prodigy is offered a chance at a deadly heist that could make him rich beyond his wildest imaginations. Together with a convict, a sharpshooter, a runaway, a spy , a Heart render & a thief, an unusual lot, they set out for the single biggest heist between the world and utter chaos.

“She wouldn’t wish love on anyone. It was the guest you welcomed and then couldn’t be rid of.”

Leigh Bardugo, Six of Crows

Reference: https://thegrishaverse.fandom.com/wiki/Six_of_Crows

3. A Court of Thorns and Roses

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This story revolves around mortal Feyre Archeron after she is brought into the faerie lands of Prythian for murdering a faerie. Over the course of proceedings, as she lives with the person who abducted her into Prythian, Tamlin, who is also a High Fae, she gets to know things about the Fae kingdom she had never known before.

“I threw myself into that fire, threw myself into it, into him, and let myself burn.”

Sarah J. Maas, A Court of Thorns and Roses

4. The Grace Of Kings

Grace of Kings is an epic fantasy revolving around an outlaw  Kumigaru, who, along with Maya Zyndu, a blue blood, plans to overthrow an oppressive king. The story is richly crafted with an engaging plot and knife sharp twists and turns that are bound to make your hackles rise.

“There’s never going to be an end to suffering if ‘he deserves it’ is all the justification people need for inflicting pain.”

 Ken Liu, The Grace of Kings

5.  Jonathan Strange & Mr Norrell

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Susannah Clarke’s novel paints lucid alternate history of Napoleonic England combing it with Gothic literary fiction. The novel explores the existence of magic in England sand Centres on the relationship between two men: Gilbert Norrell and Jonathan Strange with bouts of witty humour, traipsing into the territory marked beyond cognitive excuses or reason.

“There is nothing in the world so easy to explain as failure – it is, after all, what everybody does all the time.”

Susanna Clarke, Jonathan Strange & Mr Norrell

Classic treasure (Part- 2)

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“Classic literature is still something that hangs in the air like a song.”

-Gilbert K Chesterton

Some of the must-read classics.

1. The Great Gatsby

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F. Scott Fitzgerald’s his novel is set in Long Island, near New York City. This book, from the narrator  Nick Carraway’s perspective tells the story of his dealings with an enigmatic billionaire Jay Gatsby and his fetish for his former lover Daisy Buchanan. A classic worth your time!

“I wasn’t actually in love, but I felt a sort of tender curiosity.”

 F. Scott FitzgeraldThe Great Gatsby

2. The Catcher in The Rye

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J.D Salinger’s The Catcher in The Rye revolves around a 16 year old disillusioned and confused adolescent named Holden Caulfield, following his expulsion from prep school. The book touches upon critical subjects of morality, religion, lies and deceit, isolation, youth, sexual identity etc.

“I am always saying “Glad to’ve met you” to somebody I’m not at all glad I met. If you want to stay alive, you have to say that stuff, though.”

J.D. Salinger, The Catcher in the Rye

3.Gone With the Wind

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American writer Margaret Mitchell’s book is set in Clayton County and Atlanta, Georgia, during the American Civil War and Reconstruction Era. It primarily revolves around Scarlett O’Hara, the spoiled daughter of a well-to-do plantation owner, who is faced with sudden penury and must do everything to come out of it. It encompasses a sweeping romance and a fictionalised account of the civil war based on facts. The book captures how human persevere and endeavour to survive in the worst of situations.

“Burdens are for shoulders strong enough to carry them.”

Margaret Mitchell, Gone with the Wind

4. Anna Karenina

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Russian author Leo Tolstoy’s ‘Anna Karenina’, is regarded as one of the greatest novels of all time. The book follows an engaging affair between Anna Karenina and Count Vronsky and subsequently an introspective self discovery and religious epiphany by a character Konstantin Levin. The novel spins the themes such as marriage, fidelity, life, creation, society, class etc. One of the absolute must read for literature lovers.

 “All happy families are alike; each unhappy family is unhappy in its own way.”

Leo Tolstoy, Anna Karenina

5. Fahrenheit 451

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Ray Bradbury’s 1953 dystopian novel gives a peek into the future of America, where books are illegalized and any books found are burnt by people specified for the task called ‘firemen’. The book tells the tale of a fireman Guy Montag. Destroying literature and knowledge starts to weigh heavily upon Montag’s conscious, who ends up quitting his job and working towards safeguarding literature. The title of the book is selected based on the ignition temperature of paper at which it readily catches fire.

“There must be something in books, something we can’t imagine, to make a woman stay in a burning house; there must be something there. You don’t stay for nothing.”

Ray Bradbury, Fahrenheit 451

6.Lord of the Flies

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 Nobel Prize-winning British author William Golding’s book pivots round a group of boys marooned on a strange uninhabited island and their hapless attempts at governing themselves. The explores various themes like primitivity, civilisation, rules and order, wisdom and knowledge, youth , power, religion, identity etc.

“We did everything adults would do. What went wrong?”

William Golding, Lord of the Flies

7. The Diary of a Young Girl

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Otherwise known as ‘Anne Frank’s diary’, ‘The Diary of a young girl’, is a series of writings in Dutch by Anne Frank while in hiding with her family for two years because of the Nazi occupation of The Netherlands. The diary contains a thorough first hand account of Anne Frank’s life before and after the Nazi occupation. Anne has divulged details of private life, the love and longing for her family and her life in hiding.

“Where there’s hope, there’s life. It fills us with fresh courage and makes us strong again.”

Anne Frank, The Diary of a Young Girl

Classic Treasure (Part-1)

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A classic is a book that has never finished saying what it has to say.

-Italo calvino

Books are man’s best friends. Among these amicable companions are books that are deemed intimidating and difficult to go through. The classics. These books being old, require a little more exertion to get familiar with. These books are composed of excellent plots, intriguing characters and amazing themes. These books, rather than being taken as a burdensome chore should be approached with certainty and enthusiasm. These masterpieces are sure to be worth your time!

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Curated below is a list of n timeless classics to sweep you off the mundane into the magical.

1.Pride & Prejudice:

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Pride & Prejudice is English novelist Jane Austen’s brilliantly woven satirical romance that touches upon some of the most familiar socio-economic issues, manners etc. A must for people beginning to traipse into classics.

“If a woman is partial to a man, and does not endeavour to conceal it, he must find it out.”

Jane Austen, Pride & Prejudice

2. Jane Eyre:

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Charlotte Bronte’s Jane Eyre, a book with a cracking plot and diverse themes of love and longing. The situations the character feels in this story, are realistic and relatable making the book almost lifelike and timeless. A must read in the classic genera.

“I could not unlove him now, merely because I found that he had ceased to notice me.”

Charlotte Bronte, Jane Eyre

3. Little Women:

‘Little Women’ is Louisa My Alcott’s most popular book that draws up a picture of American life in the early nineteenth century. The March family based in the story is the author’s own family. The book highlights themes such as love, principles, ambition, poverty and femininity brilliantly.

“Women have minds and souls as well as just hearts, and they’ve got ambition and talent as well as just beauty. And I’m sick of people saying love is all a woman is fit for.”

Louisa M. Alcott, Little Women

4.Wuthering Heights:

Emily Bronte’s acutely fashioned English classic, Wuthering Heights tells the tale of two families Earnshaws and Lintons and their relationship with Earnshaws’ adopted son Heathcliff. The most striking themes in the book are love, suffering, revenge, jealousy, the supernatural, society, race and class. An absolute must read.

“I have not broken your heart – you have broken it; and in breaking it, you have broken mine.”

Emily Bronte, Wuthering Heights

5. Emma:

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Jane Austen’s yet another masterpiece weaves the story of a woman named Emma who is an inopportune matchmaker Emma who sets out a series of debacles in her quest to make the perfect matches. The book mainly revolves around courtship, marriage, matchmaking, social standing etc. A joy to read in classics.

“I lay it down as a general rule, Harriet, that if a woman doubts as to whether she should accept a man or not, she certainly ought to refuse him.”

Jane Austen, Emma

Give Yourself a Hug

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“Society taught me that no matter what size I am, I will never be good enough. I’ll always be too skinny, too fat, too short, too tall. Too this, too that.”

– Unknown

People from all walks of life, battle different forms of insecurities every second of the day. Insecurities basically sprout when all the broken fragments of society i.e. us, force other people to adhere to the so called norms of the society to ‘fit in’.

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One of the biggest insecurity people encounter is with regard to their body and looks. The fact that beauty is absolutely subjective, seems to escape our minds while establishing the perfect body type , nose and lip shapes.

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Body Image

Body image refers to the subjective idea that a person has of his own body, it may or may not be actually the way he/she appears. According to Psychology Today, “Body image is subject to all kinds of distortions from the attitudes of one’s parents, other early experiences, internal elements like emotions or moods, and other factors.”

Negative body image may start forming when you notice, say, a minor flaw in your body and then overthink it out of proportions, so much so that it leaves an indelible impression on your mind.

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Body image of a person influences his/her social interactions and some level of mental functioning. Negative aspects of body image can lead to severe social and behavioural distortions.

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Also quoted from Psychology Today, “Thoughts and opinions about one’s body can start forming as early as 3 years of age. Often this is a direct result of a parent’s relationship with their own bodies. How a parent sees herself is influential and can mould a child’s ideas about their body.

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Although its as hard to be Ken as it is Barbie but the negatives of body image have been largely found in women. The statistics of men are found to be lower in this context.

Insecurities

According to statistics about 80% women and 34% men are insecure of and dissatisfied with their body. Body insecurities cause people to break down.

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These insecurities stem mainly from the desire to look a certain way and fit a certain beauty standard. Teenagers feel the need to be perfectly thin or perfectly proportionate and muscular, lack of which could lead to a state extreme mental trauma.

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Also, people instead of focusing on their own physical and mental growth, divest a large portion of their time in useless comparisons with other people, which leads to them cornering their mental selves even further instead of something positive coming out of it.

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Give Yourself a Hug

Everyone in this world is insecure of one thing or the other. Body insecurity is a serious peril that people need to overcome, in order to enjoy this limited life to the fullest. Body insecurity and the negativity that it gives rise to prevents people from seeking joy in their life, it constantly looms like a dark cloud over their head.

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People dealing with such issues need to look for the silver lining in this dark cloud. People need to stop striving for perfection sand embrace themselves, flaws and everything.

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People suffering from insecurity need to strengthen their will and imbibe and assimilate the fact that,’ All bodies are beautiful’, completely.

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Every circle of darkness in life is followed by an impending circle of light. We must have a firm belief in the goodness of things and have a strong self confidence.

Wound your arms tightly around yourself and let your love heal you. Give yourself a tight hug!

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”Healing may not be so much about getting better, as about letting go of everything that isn’t you – all of the expectations, all of the beliefs – and becoming who you are.”

Rachel Naomi Remen

Reference(s): https://www.psychologytoday.com

To Read List – 2021

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“The more that you read, the more things you will know. The more that you learn, the more places you’ll go.”

― Dr. Seuss, I Can Read With My Eyes Shut!

As it is rightly said, “Between the pages of a book, is a lovely place to be.” Books fit all the cliché surrounding them, they put dreams in your eyes and give wings to your dreams. Reading is an exercise like no other. It sweeps you into a magical universe and transmutes your mundane into a bewitching dream.

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There is such diverse content available in the literary spectrum today that leaves ones mind in a state of bafflement and awe.

Today we explore some of the genera of the great literary abyss.

1. Mystery

  • Murder on the Orient express – Agatha Christie
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  • Gone Girl Gillian Flynn
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  • The Girl on the Train – Paula Hawkins
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  • The Da Vinci CodeDan Brown
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  • The Murders in the Rue Morgue – Edgar Allan Poe
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2. Romance

  • Pride and Prejudice – Jane Austen
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  • Me before You – Jojo Moyes
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  • Beautiful Disaster – Jamie McGuire
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  • Red , White & Royal Blue – Casey McQuiston
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  • The Time Traveler’s Wife – Audrey Niffenegger
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3. Fantasy

  • A Wrinkle in Time – Madeleine L’Engle
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  • The Golden Compass – Phillip Pullman
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  • Six of Crows – Leigh Bardugo
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  • Or What You Will – Jo Walton
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  • Gardens of the Moon Steven Erikson
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4. Sci-Fi

  • The Time Machine – H.G Wells
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  • The Long Way to a Small, Angry Planet – Becky Chambers
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  • Nineteen Eighty- Four – George Orwell
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  • To Sleep In a Sea of Stars Christopher Paolini
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  • Children of Ruin – Adrian Tchaikovsky
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5. Non- fiction

  • The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F*ck- Mark Manson
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  • A Room of One’s Own – Virginia Woolf
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  • Becoming – Michelle Obama
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  • We Should All Be Feminists – Chimamanda Ngozi Adichi
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  • Ghosts Of The Tsunami – Richard Lloyd Parry
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“Let’s be reasonable and add an eighth day to the week that is devoted exclusively to reading.”

– Lena Dunham

Must Read Female Authors

I would venture to guess that Anon, who wrote so many poems without signing them, was often a woman.

Virginia Woolf

In the vast spectrum of literature, women have bestowed eminently, despite earlier, being often left out of the said spectrum and forced to put on a veil of anonymity and nom de plumes.

Female authors have time and again braved all odds and given us some of the most cherished literary jewels of all time.

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Today as female authors write and thrive we look at 5 of the some of the must read female authors of all time.

1. Jane Austen (1775-1817)

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One of the most cherished authors of all time, Jane Austen was born December 16, 1775 at Steventon, Hampshire, England and published 4 novels during her lifetime, some of her other works were later published posthumously.

Pride and Prejudice is notably regarded as her best novel. Her other novels including Mansfield park, Sense and Sensibility, Emma, The Northanger Abbey and Persuasion are also extremely popular.

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Austen’s novels are seen as a close representation of her own self, though not married Austen’s novels highlighted the themes of marriage, love , courting and the life of women with enticing wit.

she passed away at the age of 41 on July 18, 1817 and was buried in Winchester Cathedral. She left a legacy of great literature behind.

“The person, be it gentleman or lady, who has not pleasure in a good novel, must be intolerably stupid.”

 Jane Austen, Northanger Abbey

2. Mary Shelly (1797-1851)

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English novelist Mary Wollstonecraft Shelly was born August 30, 1797, in London, England and is best known for her horror novel “Frankenstein, or the Modern Prometheus.” Married to poet Percy Bysshe Shelly, she was regarded as the mother of science fiction.

The main themes she highlighted in Frankenstein included nature, man’s quest for power and other intense emotions.

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She wrote several other books, including Valperga (1823), The Last Man (1826), the autobiographical Lodore (1835) and the posthumously published Mathilde

Shelley died of brain cancer on February 1, 1851, at age 53, in London, England. She was buried at St. Peter’s Church in Bournemouth.

“The very winds whispered in soothing accents, and maternal Nature bade me weep no more.”

Mary Shelly

3. Charlotte Bronte(1816-1855)

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Charlotte Brontë was an English 19th-century novelist born on April 21, 1816, in Thornton, Yorkshire, England. Brontë published her first novel, Jane Eyre, in 1847 under the manly alias Currer Bell.  She followed it with Shirley in 1848 and then Villette in 1853.

She highlighted themes like death, religion, grief, search for meaning and a sense of belonging.

She died during her pregnancy, on March 31, 1855, in Yorkshire, England. 

“I am no bird; and no net ensnares me: I am a free human being with an independent will.”

Charlotte Bronte, Jane Eyre

4. Emily Bronte (1818-1848)

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Emily Brontë famous author of the novel ‘Wuthering Heights’ was born on July 30, 1818, in Thornton, Yorkshire, England and was the sister of Charlotte and Anne Brontë.

 Publishing under the alias Ellis Bell, Brontë published her defining work, Wuthering Heights, in December 1847.

Wuthering heights was weaved around the themes of family, revenge, betrayal, society and class and had a supernatural tinge to it as well.

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She died of tuberculosis on December 19, 1848.

“If all else perished, and he remained, I should still continue to be; and if all else remained, and he were annihilated, the universe would turn to a mighty stranger.”

Emily Jane Brontë Wuthering Heights

5. Virginia Woolf (1882-1941)

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English author Virginia Woolf was born in an influential English household on January 25, 1882.

She wrote feminist centred classics like ‘Mrs. Dalloway’, ‘To the Lighthouse,’ as well as , ‘A Room of One’s Own’ and ‘Three Guineas’.

Her works explored the themes of flawed marriages, ambition, success, failure, children etc.

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She suffered from constant bouts of depression and fell prey to it on March 28, 1941 when she committed suicide by drowning herself into the River Ouse.

“As a woman I have no country. As a woman I want no country. As a woman, my country is the whole world.”

Virginia Woolf

citation: https://www.biography.com

 

A Guide to Introverts

Do you know people who are too shy to interact or speak up, who prefer their own company and actually enjoy it? It often leaves people with personality traits different than that of introverts, befuddled to see introverts having the time of their lives- alone!

Here is a write up to help you understand more about introverted people.

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“Telling an introvert to go to a party is like telling a saint to go to Hell.”

-Criss Jami, Killosophy

Introduction to Introverts

Merriam Webster defines introversion as the state of or tendency toward being predominantly concerned with and obtaining gratification from one’s own mental life.

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Introvert is one of the, basic personality types according to the theories of the 20th-century Swiss psychiatrist Carl Jung. According to these theories, an introvert is a person whose interest is generally directed inward toward his own feelings and thoughts.

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The typical introvert is shy, contemplative, and reserved and tends to have difficulty adjusting to social situations. Excessive daydreaming and introspection, careful balancing of considerations before reaching decisions, and withdrawal under stress are also typical of the introverted personality.

Takeaway:

  • In simpler words, introversion is the state of being shy and quiet, and preferring to be alone than in company of people.
  • Introverts are people whose character traits are marked by signs of introversion. These are the quiet, observant wallflowers who stick to the corners than the limelight.
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Fun Fact:

Scientifically, introverts are highly sensitive to dopamine (feel good hormone) and large quantities of it can make them overstimulated as opposed to extraverts.

Signs of Introversion

  • They prefer to be alone than seek company.
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  • Too much socializing often drains them of their energy.
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  • They may prefer writing over vocalising things. They are often not great talkers.

“Writing is something you do alone. Its a profession for introverts who want to tell you a story but don’t want to make eye contact while doing it.”

John Green
  • They may fear social confrontations and speaking in large groups due to a fear of humiliation.
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  • They usually have a public and private self.
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  • They tend have impeccable ability of concentration and can concentrate for long periods of time.
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  • They usually have a small circle of friends.
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  • They tend to need time for decision making and are likely to struggle with overthinking.
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  • They mentally rehearse before speaking.
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  • They are in constant need of privacy
  • They tend to be observant and pick up things by observing them.
  • Vulnerable to bouts of anxiousness or social anxiety.
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Conclusion:

Some people enjoy their own company, some people are apprehensive in sharing everything about themselves, some people prefer solicitude, some people prefer to speak less, some people don’t open up to others or take time.

Prodding people to come out of a place that you deem lonely might not always be the brightest idea. Don’t become energy vampires, draining people of their energy.

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Give introverts the berth they need to thrive and grow.

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citation: https://www.britannica.com/science/introvert

How To Become a Reader

“I declare after all there is no enjoyment like reading! How much sooner one tires of any thing than of a book! When I have a house of my own, I shall be miserable if I have not an excellent library.”

-jane Austen, Pride and prejudice

Reading has to be one of the most cherished and enjoyable pastime of all times. It is said that, a person who reads leads a thousand lives. True to these words ,reading can literally sweep you off your feet into a wondrous realm and bewitch your senses to escape the mundane.

Reading books benefits both your physical and mental health, and those benefits can last a lifetime. They begin in early childhood and continue through the senior years. 

Reading strengthens the brain, increases empathy, builds vocabulary, prevents cognitive decline, reduces stress, alleviates depression, aids sleep etc.

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Lamentably, some people find reading to be extremely arduous and therefore miss out on this wholesome joy of life.

I often feel sorry for people who don’t read books; they are missing a chance to live an extra life.

Scott Corbett

For people who want make up the time they lost not reading, here is series of things that might help you read better and more.

1. Explore:

Explore what you would like to read and warm up to your preferences.

The trope that classics are for everyone or everyone would love a good mystery is outdated. People are not coerced into reading like that anymore. Reading requires much more than just picking up a random book, there are such diverse genera to choose from that it leaves you befuddled. Before traipsing into the world of books, you should divest some to explore the genera you’d like to read or the much hyped, ‘To read’ lists according to your liking, available on the internet.

Exploring the reading content would not only help you find your perfect book, it would also ultimately pique your interest in reading and help you go a long way.

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2. Take your time:

Remember, there is no rush to finish a book in a days time or a week. Everyone reads at their own pace. Books are meant to be savored not read in a rush just for the sake of finishing them. You can go at your pace or read in intervals, whatever suits you and your schedule.

Enjoy the process of going through a book, a new journey. Do not mar your experience because of some imprudent judgement on your part.

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3. Opinions:

It is absolutely alright to not like a certain book that the entire world raves about. It is better to read a ‘bad’ book than read a ‘good’ book in heedless adoration. one of the purposes of reading is to expand our cognitive horizons, to help aid our thought process, forming opinions even unpopular ones are fine and you shouldn’t let anyone tell you otherwise.

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4. Start Easy:

You might want to begin reading with books that do not make your head go in circles. Collections of short stories, fiction books, with relatively lucid plots and engaging story lines or Non-fiction books, like short biographies would be a perfect place to start.

Reading magazines and newspapers that are readily available may help.

Check out:Easy Reads: Summer Edition

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5. Set Your priorities:

In order to be able to inculcate a healthy habit of reading, you need to sort through your priorities and set them straight. Minimize your time on your social media and invest that into reading. Prioritize reading over other menial things or better yet wasting your time.

As such, always keep a book handy, get into discussions with readers, find out more about what your reading to make the experience fun.

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6. Join a Reading Group:

Getting together with like minded individuals is a leap in the positive direction that may help you alleviate your reading habit. Discussions and talks on subjects of common interest would be essentially beneficial.

You might join a physical or a virtual reading group. Participate in book talks, explore and have a blast.

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citation(s): https://www.healthline.com/health/benefits-of-reading-books

Easy Reads: Summer Edition

Here is a list of breezy reads, that you can leaf through this summer.

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“if you don’t like to read, you haven’t found the right book.”

—J.K Rowling, Author

Books high on the emotional quotient that are thrilling and fiery and make you bite your nails each step of the way are everyone’s favourite. But it might get really monotonous and wearying getting down from that roller coaster of emotions perpetually, especially if you aren’t exactly an avid reader.

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Below is a thoughtfully curated list of 5 books that are soundly wholesome and light reads.

1. Wishful Thinking by Alexandra Bullen

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Wishful thinking is a young adult novel by author and playwright Alexandra Bullen. The story follows Hazel Snow, a young girl who had been adopted and passed from home to home as a baby. Driven by the wish to know her parents, Hazel goes all out in an effort to known her mother. With a lot of determination and three wish granting enchanted dresses, Hazel finds herself in the past. With a chance to know her mother and a sweeping romance, Hazel might just fulfil her wishes, or will she?

This book is a very sweet read and has a very lucid plot for a book that navigates past and present.

2. Everyone Worth Knowing by Lauren Weisberger

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Lauren Weisberger is the renowned author of the bestseller ‘The Devil Wears Prada’.  Everyone worth knowing is the story of a single woman living in NYC who gets a public relations job and subsequently gets sucked up in the city’s most affluent event management circuit. Life altering revelations and scandals mar the course of her job and love might just follow through.

Everyone worth knowing is a super fun read for people who love chick-lit.  It’s literally like watching a movie and perfect to curl up with on a lazy day.

3. Tommy Sullivan Is a Freak by Meg Cabot

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Meg Cabot’s Tommy Sullivan is a freak is set in a typical school setting wherein Katie Ellison just cannot tell the truth. Tangled in an absolute mess of lies, making out with a hot guy from drama club while dating her football boyfriend, dying to get out the truth of the night ‘Tommy Sullivan is a freak’ was written on the gymnasium wall that drove him out of town. Just when things couldn’t take a turn for worse, Tommy Sullivan is back in town and Katie fears that he might just be out for revenge.

4. Prom Nights from Hell

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 Prom Nights from Hell is a collection of five short, horror-romance stories by authors Kim Harrison, Stephanie Meyer, Meg Cabot, Michelle Jaffe and Lauren Myracle.

 It is an exciting collection of dark themed stories.

Circle of Pearls by Rosalind Laker

Circle of Pearls by Rosalind Laker

This Reader’s Digest Condensed Book selection is set in the 15th century and tells the ambrosial tale of romance between a Puritan lord Adam Warrender and a staunch Royalist Julia Pallister. It follows the English civil war, the Great plague, the Fire of London and the rebuilding of St. Paul’s by Sir Christopher Wren. It is a sweet historical fiction with riveting facts and details.

WANDERLUST: An exquisite malady

Have you caught the travelling bug yet? Today, we explore the symptoms of the exquisite malady of wanderlust and ways to get rid of it.

Not all who wander are lost

~j.r.r tOLkien
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As the word suggests, wanderlust is lust or desire for wandering. This is the ague that makes people itch to travel, to explore the vastness of the earth, to bask in the diversity of the world, quite philosophical actually!

Almost everyone suffers from wanderlust, some people choose to be vociferous about it others conceal it in the hearts of their heart.

Extreme cases of wanderlust have known to make people do crazy things with desire; some people have worked as many as five jobs just to travel around the world.

Wanderlust may last a lifetime. Sadly, travelling for a brief period may not stop you from lusting over it for a long, long time, probably your entire life.

Have you caught the bug?

There are a series of feelings and changes that help you to understand whether you have caught the notorious bug for wanderlust or not.

Noticeable among the emotions are sudden pangs of longing. These, sudden bursts may leave you heaving multiple despondent sighs.

If you unsuspectingly, keep on googling things like ‘100 best places to travel before you die’ or ‘How can I travel the world’, know that wanderlust is at its incipient stage, It’s also the most common symptom so far.

If you have travelling quotes stuck around your room, in your diary or saved prodigiously in your phone , you are getting there!

Finally, if you have curated a proper travel-bucket list for yourself and keep on checking travel packages online. you are beyond the point of saving.

How to cure Wanderlust?

The most effective remedy in the book is, to throw caution to the wind, and set out to douse your desire for travelling ,by doing exactly that- travel! Step out of reality and go chasing after the cure of your malady, till you are worn out bone-deep because:

The brave may not live forever,

but the cautious do not live at all.

~ Meg Cabot

Another seemingly effective cure for people who cannot travel due to diverse reasons, to cure their Wanderlust is, to turn it into an active incentive to work towards achieving their goals or go about milling with their daily chores with a greater goal in mind.

Also, people with Wanderlust who are the crossroads of their careers can research and try getting into jobs or careers that facilitates their wandering desire.

For people who cannot leave their home, their wanderlust can be cured by:

  • Learning more about a new culture, language or cuisine
  • Travelling more locally
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  • Getting online virtual tours of places they want to visit
  • Taking a pen pal
  • Coursing out a proper travel map for future
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  • Read travel books and blogs
  • Experience the marvels of nature: watch sunsets and sunrises, get drenched in rain, play around in mud
  • Work on a polaroid book or a scrap book for memories

All in all, Wanderlust is more than just an urge to travel, it is a passion like no other which leads to adventures like no other and hence its a blessing to have.

“The symbol of today is travel.

There is a Wanderlust that infects the blood.”

-Rollin A. Sawyer

Book Review: A Thousand Splendid Suns

“One could not count the moons

that shimmer on her roofs,

or the thousand splendid suns

that hide behind her walls.”

Khaled Hosseini, A Thousand Splendid Suns
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Brief Overview:

A Thousand Splendid Suns is a fiction novel by Afghan-American novelist Khaled Hosseini. The novel is set in the backdrop of the Afghanistan turbulence 1960 onward. Capturing martial elements from Soviet union to the authoritarian Taliban, the author has weaved a portentous tale of two women, Mariam and Laila. Separated by decades of age, these women are conjoined by an exceptional bond which later blossoms into a beautiful friendship.

The novel follows Mariam, an illegitimate child of a rich Herat merchant, who though loves her but is equally ashamed of her. Following her mother’s death, Mariam goes on to live with her father, his three legitimate wives and nine children, all of whom are unknown to Mariam.

Here the novel draws attention to the class disparities. Mariam, being an illegitimate child through their housekeeper is made to slave in her father’s household , bereft of education or love, by his wives while his legitimate children lead glamorous lives. Wishing to rid themselves of Mariam who is now about 15, her father’s wives arrange a marriage for her to Rasheed,a Pashtun shoemaker from Kabul who who is about two decades older than her.

At first Rasheed appears as an indifferent yet a person of clement disposition, helping Mariam settle in the new city. The persona soon, however crumbles as Rasheed begins forcing Mariam to fulfill her so called obligations towards him. Following Mariam’s miscarriage, Rasheed turns out to be a hypocritical, bitter man pressuring and muscling Mariam every step of the way.

About a decade later in the novel does Laila’s story begin. The daughter of a teacher, Laila is loved immensely by her father, while her mother constantly mourns the death of her two elder brothers, who were killed seven years ago, fighting alongside Ahmad Shah Massoud. The author has drawn a sharp parallel between the two women. Laila is portrayed as the face of an emerging Afghanistan for women, pursuing education and strong willed, Laila falls in love with her best friend Tariq, who loses his leg to the ongoing Afghan turbulence. In a drastic spur of events Laila loses her parents and is separated from Tariq. Desperate for a shelter and to protect a secret she’s nurturing, Laila marries Rasheed. What follows is a tale of everlasting friendship, heart wrenching sorrow and the purest form of love.

Book Review:

A Thousand Splendid suns is a book so finely written that it makes your heart ache. The bond between Laila and Mariam is as beautiful as a full bloomed rose, the color of blood. The story, particularly of Mariam is written with such a palpable feeling of sorrow and hopelessness that it feels extremely personal.On the other hand, Laila’s coming of age has been described as an experience full of aspirations and hope. Laila and Tariq’s chemistry is an exceptional blend of sweet and fiery.

There are a myriad of symbols and metaphors used in the book that make the entire thing full of allusions.

The author has unraveled themes of women, femininity, marriage and war in the book as an astounding whole.

The cultural aspects of Afghanistan have been richly used and amazingly described which amalgamate to give this book a perfect finish.

The book also divests into several explicit issues such as racism, sexual content, religious ideals etc.

This book is a suitable read for people above 13 years of age.

All in all, this book is bound to be a a roller coaster ride of emotions for the reader. It is an absolute must read and sure to make your eyes spill tears of distress.

Social Anxiety Disorder

SAD (Social Anxiety Disorder)

What is SAD?

Social anxiety disorder (SAD) more commonly referred to as social anxiety or social phobia is an inherent mental health issue characterized by senseless anxiety due to social interactions.

According to a research paper drafted by Phillip Jefferies and Michael Ungar, Social anxiety occurs when individuals fear social situations in which they anticipate negative evaluations by others or perceive that their presence will make others feel uncomfortable. (cited:

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It is an intense persistent fear of being watched and judged by others. This fear can affect work, school and other day-to-day activities. It can even make it hard to keep friends. (cited:

https://www.nimh.nih.gov/health/publications/social-anxiety-disorder-more-than-just-shyness

According to some rough SAD statistics, this disorder affects about 7.1 percent of the population, 8 percent of women and 6.1 percent of men.

Though SAD can affect people regardless of age or gender, research points towards a general early (teenage) onset of social anxiety due to reasons unknown or some underlying trauma.

Causes of SAD

Social anxiety may have a plethora of underlying causes yet in some cases the disorder might be sudden and unexplained.

Ever since it was officially recognized as a disorder in 1980 by the American Psychiatric Association, scientists all over the world have been trying to identify and understand the causes of social anxiety disorder (SAD).

Like for most psychological conditions, the majority of contemporary professionals agree upon the idea that SAD is caused by a combination of genetics as well as environmental and socioeconomic factors.

What this means is that there is hardly one specific root cause of social anxiety, but rather a variety of factors that can lead to a certain vulnerability that favours its development. (Cited:

https://www.conquersocialanxiety.com/causes/

Social anxiety may also be directly linked to low confidence and constant self blame.

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social anxiety disorder likely arises from a complex interaction of biological and environmental factors. Possible causes include:

  • Inherited traits. Anxiety disorders tend to run in families. However, it isn’t entirely clear how much of this may be due to genetics and how much is due to learned behaviour.
  • Brain structure. A structure in the brain called the amygdala (uh-MIG-duh-luh) may play a role in controlling the fear response. People who have an overactive amygdala may have a heightened fear response, causing increased anxiety in social situations.
  • Environment. Social anxiety disorder may be a learned behaviour — some people may develop significant anxiety after an unpleasant or embarrassing social situation. Also, there may be an association between social anxiety disorder and parents who either model anxious behaviour in social situations or are more controlling or overprotective of their children. (cited:

https://www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/social-anxiety-disorder/symptoms-causes/syc-20353561

SYMPTOMS

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Symptoms of SAD include physical, behavioural or cognitive changes that are often dead giveaways of some underlying issue.

Emotional and Behavioural Signs:

The following emotional and behavioural symptoms may show up in people with social anxiety:

  • Fearing situations where you might be judged
  • Fear of showing physical symptoms such as blushing, trembling, sweating, or an unsteady voice
  • Worrying you will embarrass or humiliate yourself
  • Intense fear of interacting with strangers
  • Avoiding any situation in which you will being the centre of attention
  • Getting anxiety in anticipation of an activity or event
  • Avoiding going places or speaking to people out of fear of embarrassment
  • Fearing people will notice your anxiety
  • Spending significant time analysing and critiquing the way you acted in a social situation
  • Expecting the worst outcomes from a negative social experience

For children, emotional and behavioural signs may include: 

  • Crying
  • Throwing temper tantrums (outbursts of crying and anger)
  • Clinging to parents or guardians
  • Refusing to speak to people 

Physical Signs:

Some of the external signs of social anxiety disorder include:

  • Blushing
  • Rapid heartbeat
  • Sweating
  • Difficulty catching your breath
  • Shaking
  • Nausea or upset stomach 
  • Light-headedness or dizziness
  • Tight muscles 

Social Signs:

One of the main signs of social anxiety is avoiding social situations. Someone with this disorder may avoid or find difficulty being in the following situations: 

Treatment and Self help

As established SAD is a disorder that requires thorough medical attention, which may include therapy, meditation, courses for instilling confidence etc.

  • Psychotherapy. Psychotherapy improves symptoms in most people with social anxiety disorder.
  • First choices in medications. Though several types of medications are available, selective serotonin reuptake inhibitors (SSRIs) are often the first type of drug tried for persistent symptoms of social anxiety.
  • Other medications. Other antidepressants. You may have to try several different antidepressants to find one that’s the most effective for you with the fewest side effects.
  • Stick with it. Don’t give up if treatment doesn’t work quickly. You can continue to make strides in psychotherapy over several weeks or months.
  • Alternative medicine. Several herbal remedies have been studied as treatments for anxiety. Results tend to be mixed, and in several studies people report no benefits from their use. (Reference: www.mayoclinic.org/diseases-conditions/social-anxiety-disorder/diagnosis-treatment/drc-20353567

Thinking Differently


When we’re in a social situation with a group of people, our focus of attention becomes totally caught up in our own thoughts and feelings.  We see everyone around us, but all we can think about is how they might be thinking critically about us!  The adrenaline response of anxiety makes us feel terrible too, so we’re thinking about how horrible that is, and how we just want to escape the situation. 

It is very helpful to learn how to change our focus of attention and take more control over how we react to thoughts.  We can learn to just notice the thoughts, acknowledge them, then let them pass.  Notice the Mind Bully and let it go – turn your focus of attention to something else.  First of all, you might learn to focus on your breathing.

Practise Mindful Breathing

(cited: https://www.getselfhelp.co.uk/socialanxiety.htm

Conclusion

In conclusion, social anxiety is the third most common disorder worldwide that affects millions of unsuspecting individuals every year throughout the world. It is high time that we treat social anxiety patients with respect and consideration and give this disorder its due attention without tiptoeing around it.

It is also absolutely essential for people suffering with SAD to seek medical help(easier said than done) but one has to start somewhere.

Lastly, there should be no embarrassment in seeking professional help and it should be absolutely normalised.

A strong will to overcome anxiety, is the guaranteed first step in the long overdue chain of recovery.

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